How to fix it

Ace-36 · Aug 15, 2021

So I have a bit of an issue with my sex life with my girlfriend. The problem or should I say problems started from our very first sexual encounter. I couldn’t seem to get an erection at all. From there it went to me being able to get an erection but not being able to maintain it for long. And finally once I was able to get past those two things (only sometimes) I have the issue of ejaculating too fast. I know it all comes from the problem with porn I have. The issue is that real life sex and the stuff you do and see doesn’t seem to excite me the way porn does. I know it’s because I’ve trained my brain to get excited off of porn and not enough to get excited from the real thing. With porn I have the access to get whatever I may desire so easily and switch around if my mood changes effortlessly. Whereas real life isn’t like that. I’ve trained my body to ejaculate as soon as I seen something I like in porn or it has reached my favorite part. And now when I’m with my girlfriend as soon as the pleasure gets “too good “ which is usually quick it’s over. All of it is a problem because I know i could never match real life sex up to what I get out of porn. I hate that my mind and body work this way but I know it’s because of years of training my body to respond to certain things that I have this issue now. It’s a real disappointing thing to have a woman practically willing and ready to give you sex but you can’t please her even a little bit because of what porn has done to my mind and body. Any advice on how to fix it?

PegasusKid · Aug 15, 2021

Well, I think the biggest thing here is time. If you drop pmo, over time these issues should reduce. Now of course, that's an incredibly tough journey(we're on a site entirely dedicated to that journey after all) so i'm not saying it like its easy, but if porn caused the issue, removing it is probably the solution, or at least a huge step in the right direction. Remind yourself how much your girlfriend and your sex life means to you, and make sure you understand that is one of the reasons why porn is non negotiable. Also, I would practice focusing more on her mentally and physically. Edging could also help at least lengthen the process.

modernstore99 · Aug 19, 2021

Just_a_guy_25 said: ↑

So I have a bit of an issue with my sex life with my girlfriend. The problem or should I say problems started from our very first sexual encounter. I couldn’t seem to get an erection at all. From there it went to me being able to get an erection but not being able to maintain it for long. And finally once I was able to get past those two things (only sometimes) I have the issue of ejaculating too fast. I know it all comes from the problem with porn I have. The issue is that real life sex and the stuff you do and see doesn’t seem to excite me the way porn does. I know it’s because I’ve trained my brain to get excited off of porn and not enough to get excited from the real thing. With porn I have the access to get whatever I may desire so easily and switch around if my mood changes effortlessly. Whereas real life isn’t like that. I’ve trained my body to ejaculate as soon as I seen something I like in porn or it has reached my favorite part. And now when I’m with my girlfriend as soon as the pleasure gets “too good “ which is usually quick it’s over. All of it is a problem because I know i could never match real life sex up to what I get out of porn. I hate that my mind and body work this way but I know it’s because of years of training my body to respond to certain things that I have this issue now. It’s a real disappointing thing to have a woman practically willing and ready to give you sex but you can’t please her even a little bit because of what porn has done to my mind and body. Any advice on how to fix it?
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ctwhnexus · Aug 23, 2021

Premature ejaculation. Quit is the best medicine. You need to continue rebooting to recover your body.Discuss with your girlfriend first. Wait for your body to recover.

TantraMan · Aug 31, 2021

Just_a_guy_25 said: ↑

So I have a bit of an issue with my sex life with my girlfriend. The problem or should I say problems started from our very first sexual encounter. I couldn’t seem to get an erection at all. From there it went to me being able to get an erection but not being able to maintain it for long. And finally once I was able to get past those two things (only sometimes) I have the issue of ejaculating too fast. I know it all comes from the problem with porn I have. The issue is that real life sex and the stuff you do and see doesn’t seem to excite me the way porn does. I know it’s because I’ve trained my brain to get excited off of porn and not enough to get excited from the real thing. With porn I have the access to get whatever I may desire so easily and switch around if my mood changes effortlessly. Whereas real life isn’t like that. I’ve trained my body to ejaculate as soon as I seen something I like in porn or it has reached my favorite part. And now when I’m with my girlfriend as soon as the pleasure gets “too good “ which is usually quick it’s over. All of it is a problem because I know i could never match real life sex up to what I get out of porn. I hate that my mind and body work this way but I know it’s because of years of training my body to respond to certain things that I have this issue now. It’s a real disappointing thing to have a woman practically willing and ready to give you sex but you can’t please her even a little bit because of what porn has done to my mind and body. Any advice on how to fix it?
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I can relate to your story, man, I was in the same situation some years ago, for how long have you been having issues?

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