Hi fellow fapstronauts, I am wondering how i can increase my social circle. I do want to become better with girls. (not that i am totally awkward.) But where can i meet more people? My best friend passed away last year, and he was actually the only person i was going out with once in a while. I have only one good friend now, but he lives in another city and we go out maybe once a month. I think its weird to go out alone, anyone did this? Last year i started a study in a big city, it was amazing, but after a while i did find the study was not the right one for me. So i stopped, now i am back at home and living with my parents. I am currently trying to find some work and want to start another study in september. So i live in this small city, there is opportunity to go out but it is not great. I really would like to have some more friends to go out with, and improve my social skills. But it seems so hard to get connections with new people. Any advice is welcome.
when you've found some work you'll meet new people. And maybe you can catch up with older friends.. maybe you have a brother or cousin to hang out with? I mostly go out with my brothers so im not alone and when im in a bar I can just drink a beer and talk to other people cos brothers don't really need to socialise with eachother we kinda split up and come back to eachother once in a while there. meeting new ppl and stuff. going alone is a bit weird but depends where you going. if you're in a dance club its no problem cos its dark and loud anyways nobody sees ur alone and if they ask u can just say yeah my bud walks around here somewhere.
Hi bro, My brother is a few years older than me and is not living near me. All my cousins live also far away so that is not a option.
Join social clubs, use meetup.com, look for employment, go to bars by yourself if you're desperate enough. There's always a way; you just need to have the desire to put yourself out there.
Hi Bro, Thanks for your input! Meetup is no option for me since i live in a small city where they do not use it. Hope to find some work soon, considering moving again to another city since i feel like i am in a prison here in this small city. I really want to work on this area of my live and improve myself, but i had always social anxiety and do not trust people easily. (lucky it is becoming less)
Rather than using social circles as a outlet to find girls, why not use it to find a bigger pool of male & female platonic friends. Going about having a agenda to pick up girls and hanging around with a social group for the heck of it isn't going to get far as soon as the vibes come though and people pick up on it. Just being natural and hanging around with friends building connections is good for you & your image, giving a sense of internal popularity (even if you are a bunch of 'nobodies' to the 'bigger scene' whatever that is) that can be interpreted as attractive and healthy. Not to mention the contacts given with 'friends of friends', to widen the pool of people that you know, not to mention some hopefully reliable wing-men/women to help you in a crisis. Halfway in you might even forget about your quest to pick up girls. (or even grow closer to a friend you've took time to know without even realizing )
