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How to make progress after +150 days?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Fenix Rising, May 9, 2018.

  1. Fenix Rising

    Fenix Rising Fapstronaut

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    Hi fellow Fapstronaust,

    I'd like to know what motivates you to stay on course after achieving your reboot time period? Which goals are on your mind?

    The thing is, after being 5 months in hardmode, I don't know where to go from here on. Brain rebooting period is probably over, as I don't get any urges to view P or MB anymore. I'm seeing things more clearly now and don't like what I see. Lots of wasted years because of porn, depression and anxiety. Where to start, to find some kind of balance and order in life? Where did you start? I'm afraid if I don't find answers quickly, I might fall back into some kind of addiction, as general anxiety about future prospects is creeping back on me. NoFap has helped me get rid of numbness and physical addiction, but I think the hardest task, how to get devastated life in order, has just begun.
     
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  2. Why would you want to go back my brother? Get back to rebuilding yourself mentally and spirituality it's amazing you went this far don't go back to your old ways Cuz you might dog yourself such a while there's no way of getting back out. Like you said years of wasted time. Why waste any more. I'm rooting for you man day away from this industry and videos live your life to the fullest
     
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  3. Fenix Rising

    Fenix Rising Fapstronaut

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    It's not that I wanna go back to PMO, it's just I don't know how to progress further. Getting rid of addiction is one thing, learning how to live well balanced life another, maybe even harder goal to achieve. Without inner wellbeing, finding what makes you happy, the same or new addiction is just behind a corner to "fill" the void when you're most miserable.
     
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  4. Wokie

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    You are already a balanced person the only thing you need to do now is to focus on your career and a focused life with your family Because what you have achieved is something wonderful and we all here want to achieve this kind of achievement so you just need to focus on things you love.
     
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  5. Ridley

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    I don't think anyone really knows where to go at any point in their lives. There's no right or wrong answer. Life is not a journey, it's much more like a song, and you are a dancer. The beautiful thing about it is that you can choose how you want to move along with the music. Sometimes you move along with the beat, and sometimes you're trying to find your feet. Don't stress out about where you're going. In the long run, we're all going to the same place anyway. Just breathe and focus on the things that are around you in the present moment and, most importantly, just try to enjoy the music (if you can hear it).

    It doesn't sound to me like you're seeing things more clearly. It sounds to me like you're beating yourself up for things you've done in the past. Take a deep breath and really try to focus on what's going on right now. You went through that stuff in the past, but you're a better man now. You've achieved freedom from the slavery of porn addiction and you can do whatever you want with that freedom. If you focus too much on the past or worry too much about where you'll be five years from now, you might miss what's going on around you. It's good to learn from your past, and it's good to plan for the future, but you don't want to lose yourself in the process.

    Right now, you're looking back and shaking your head about all the time you wasted on PMO, and you're worrying about what kind of person you're going to be in the future. I don't want you to come back a few years from now shaking your head about all the time you wasted beating yourself up over wasting time on PMO, and about all the time you wasted worrying about the future. I want you to remember the smell of the flowers, the sound of the music, the hug of a friend or family member, and other good stuff like that.

    Don't let this worry you, but I don't think you will find answers. I don't think there is a "right way" for you to live your life. Again, life is not a journey. It's much more like a canvas, and you are like a painter. In fact, I hope you don't find any answers. The mystery of who you are and what your purpose is here on earth is part of what makes life exciting. I just hope you can find inner peace, and find a way to accept yourself for who you are. I know that's easier said than done, but I think that's what you really want.

    I hope some of that helps. Things will be alright, man. You've come a long way since you started your recovery, and this is really like a new beginning for you in a lot of ways. Don't waste it beating yourself up over what happened in the past :)
     
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