How to Not Look Lustfully at Women?

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  1. barracuda

    barracuda Fapstronaut

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    I want to get some suggestions so I don't look lustfully at women. I'm able to be PMO-free but I have an unconscious habit of looking at women while walking. Any suggestions?
     
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  2. Tao Jones

    Tao Jones Fapstronaut

    You know my thoughts on the topic. I am curious to learn from others, too!
     
  3. mrtumnus

    mrtumnus Fapstronaut

    You have to want to not to! It's not quite enough to just say, "I don't want to look in lust" when your heart really wants it.

    My main tool is "bouncing" my eyes - if I see someone beautiful or wearing revealing clothes, bounce my eyes away and look at something else. And make a point not to look back anywhere near that person (you know where they're going, so no "accidents").

    If I am having trouble (i.e., surrounded by lots of temptation and can't "bounce" somewhere without hitting another woman), then staring intently at something helps (road, pavement, phone). At this point, I find it helpful to pray, too. Prayer should really come first, at the initial "bounce", but for me it's something almost automatic now, so I often forget. I know, prayer can be automatic too!

    I hope that helps; I know it can be hard to change your desires in the first place.
     
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  4. MNWinter

    MNWinter Fapstronaut

    What has helped me tremendously is to follow in the footsteps of other Fabstonauts’ advice:

    1) see the woman as a daughter or wife of someone. We would not look lustfully at our daughter or a daughter of a friend. She is a daughter of God. Bring her from an object or a collection of body parts to a living, feeling person. The thoughts from the SO forum on objectification has helped tremendously;

    2) see her beauty as you would when you witness a magnificent sunset, or a majestic mountain. God made this beauty, and go ahead and thank God for her. And while you’re at it, pray for her and that she would live for God, and that whoever the lucky son of a gun who gets to be her mate be blessed as well;

    3) objectification is an ancient pathway for the cave man to procreate with as many mates as possible. This pattern is not compatible with modern life, and must be checked. Realize that you have your soul mate, and she is not it. Objectifying her only hurts your ego, in placing yourself in the beta and someone’s else in the alpha, because you can’t have her.

    Now if you’re single, objectification never works either to hook up with someone. Go check out the posts and YouTubes on NoFap superpowers of attraction. Women know when you objectify them, and it is a massive turn off.

    Hope this helps!!
     
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  5. Become Free

    Become Free Fapstronaut

    In a way or another we all look, we all notice girls, I think that is normal, but our gaze and look are very influenced by the porn we still see or saw and are stored in our brain that our eyes linger on their bodies lustfully, the point is don't let your eyes linger at all and look anywhere else.

    I think the more you are away from porn for good not just for a few days,weeks or months, the more you will be able to see girls in a pure way and not lust over them, I also have gotten into the habit of praying silently in my mind when I catch myself impurely looking at someone, praying for God to bless her and to protect my eyes from lusting.

    God bless you for trying :)
     
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