How to overcome urges while being alone

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  1. Fighterforlife786

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    Hi.
    When i'm around people i don't get urges, if i'm busy for 2 weeks, i'll not have an urges for PMO.
    But, when i'm free nothing to do, alone most of the time, i get strong urges
    If i'm alone watching random videos on youtube, watching netflix or even texting with my friends or reading random posts, i don't get urges.
    But, when i'm alone doing nothing strong urges strike, they force me to relapse, sometimes i don't but i relapse sometimes.
    How to have a better strategy fighting urges, while being alone?
     
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  2. Fighterforlife786

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    Hi.
    When i'm around people i don't get urges, if i'm busy for 2 weeks, i'll not have an urges for PMO.
    But, when i'm free nothing to do, alone most of the time, i get strong urges
    If i'm alone watching random videos on youtube, watching netflix or even texting with my friends or reading random posts, i don't get urges.
    But, when i'm alone doing nothing strong urges strike, they force me to relapse, sometimes i don't but i relapse sometimes.
    How to have a better strategy fighting urges, while being alone?
     
  3. Neonitrosonic

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    hi its not easy but ive gone 30 days + without relapsing the urges are very strong the first two weeks and literally the only way i managed to quit is by writing down everday the reasons why im quitting and the worst events that have happened when fapping and the stuff i neglect so for me it was my teeth so i scare myself by saying my teeth will fall out, youtubbes great but im sure you notice theres "boobtubers" on there and the only way to overcome i found is buy watching avideo of them covered and realising the messages they get even when they are covered, they deserve respect and they are women and not just slabs of meat learn their personalitys and if you watch a video with cleavage look at their face and try and see how many colours you can see in the girls eyes it maybe blue but its a nice shade of blue right keep telling yourself they are a woman and i respect you also pinch yourself as this i found will prevent you from focusing on the lust thoughts and think more about the person skin deep... im not saying im perfect right now christ i called them boob tubers but if you would like me to share content where you can try to respect these women let me know but you have to be strong and not respond to the triggers when you complete that you will be able to look back and think you can look at attractive women without perving but u still cant relax because the lust trigger comes from nowhere so remind yourself you can and will look away fro respect of the woman you will admire her eyes or lips or something you arent sexually attracted to but you find endearing or cute
     
  4. r8js

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    looks like u have lots time to waste....?????
     
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  5. Kevodrag

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    This statement may be correct, and it may also be wrong. In the case of our friend @Fighterforlife786, he actually doesn’t have that time to waste. He just knows how to create the time to PMO, which is one of the adverse effectS of PMO Addiction (ability to create time and environment to indulge in this evil).
     
  6. Kevodrag

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    What do you truly love doing? Talking to friends, playing some games, taking a walk? If you have a limited variety of options, I’d advise trying to look for hobbies you might enjoy.

    Whenever you feel urges, try doing some exercise (jumping jacks, stretching, shadow boxing, and maybe try singing while doing them).

    I’d also recommend this book for breaking porn addiction: I’ve read only 50% of the book now and from what I’ve read, its great. https://SPAM REMOVED - REPORT TO MODERATION.org/SPAM REMOVED - REPORT TO MODERATION.pdf
     
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  7. :)-keepsmiling

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    In order to overcome urges i will throw away all devices that i find near me and go to my terrace and meditate!!
     
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  8. p1n1983

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    If you can't handle urges, attack the problem of been to much time doing nothing. Make a list of everything that you can do when you are bored. Like.. go for a walk, run, call a friend, always have a new series to watch on netflix, etc.
    Always be prepared. Eventually you will get bored and have urges but it's easier to resist if you have little to no urges thru the month.
     
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  9. Fighterforlife786

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    I have huge respect for womens, i never see them as objects. But, very rarely while watching porn, my minds make look them as objects, although without porn i never intend to look women private parts.
    Yes Please! Share them. It would be of great help.
     
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  10. Fighterforlife786

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    I waste very less time on porn, if i'm watching.
    Like if relapsed i will watch only for 30 or 40 mints.
    But i have been successful in long streaks, though then relapsed. But, i don't waste a lot of time.
     
  11. Fighterforlife786

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    Thanks mate
     
  12. Fighterforlife786

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    That's a good technique
     
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  13. Fighterforlife786

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    Thanks bro.
     
  14. Find healthy activities to do by yourself. Something that won't sexually stimulate you
     
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  16. Fighterforlife786

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    Yes! I do have.
    When i'm alone: i study, watch random and funny videos, read post on fb and twitter for domestic and international politics news, and i watch seasons.
     
  17. vxlccm

    vxlccm Fapstronaut

    Being alone is definitely a challenge. For me, the offline types of hobbies are safer. Just seems there's always something potentially triggering in the areas of "funny videos" fp posts, etc. Good job exploring what works for you!
     
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    The more i tried to fight the urge it becomes stronger plus i have been masturbating since childhood so it's hard for me to quit porn or masturbate.i have facing the side effect of masturbating too much help plz
     
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  20. Fighterforlife786

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    Yes! Offline hobbies are less risky.
    But, using internet has now has become essential, we cannot get rid of it, though using internet for any purpose is risky to get an urge from one place to another.
    End of the day, it is upon us how to fight the urge, offline more better, but using internet and fighting urges (if we can) will makes us more strong.
     
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