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How to Quit Masturbation

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by thatsingleindividual#K-13, Jun 22, 2019.

  1. Hell all, out there. I will be quick and clear on this. Does anyone have any advice as to how to quit masturbation? I want to quit the habit and I want to be faithful to it. I want to try, in other words, to quit. How does one quit? It's such an ingrained habit that I as of now, I'm not even trying. The smallest of useful advice would be most appreciated. Thanks!
     
  2. wheelgauge

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    Hey there, man. Well, one of the advices that I can give you is to keep yourself occupied. Try to find an interesting hobbie for you... This way, you won't seek porn that much.
     
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  3. It's porn so much as it is masturbation alone. Masturbation without porn is a step, but I need to take this other.
    I can see how keeping myself occupied can help.
    Anything else?
     
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  4. backtolife42

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    The two best advices is can give ar, to first built discipline and positive habits, like habing a daily routine/multiple small routines that you can fall back on when you are bored. That can be things like a small workout every now and then, cleaning, spending time cooking good food, learn a new skill and so on. Try out new things from time to time and see if you can make them into a habit and then stick to them.
    The other advice is, to try and find something that ismore meaningful or important go you than pmo, have goals and visualize them as clear as you can, and be as aware as possible, that pmo will only interfere with these goals.
    The second one is a bit harder to do, since its not that easy to have a good goal, but just trying to figure out what you want in your life can be somthing meaningful in itself.

    I would like to add, that i dont thing masturbation is such a terrible thing, as long as you dont overdo it, so maybe think about what kind of masturbation habits would be acceptable for you (maybe once a week without porn or something like that), since being completely abstinent doesnt seem like the best idea to me.
     
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  5. ruggerdoug

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    I’m struggling with the same thing. Well I appreciate through a little bit of masturbation is not a bad thing comments that come with posts like this, I feel what you’re saying. It’s out of control. Again I’m struggling with the same thing.

    I’ve gone as of today almost 40 days without Porn. Masturbating on and off throughout the weekend finally led me back to what was probably a two minute peek at a video. I got myself out of that but finish the M to O.

    I am working with a therapist to figure out why I need to try to fill an emotional support. I’ve read a lot on compulsive masturbation and what happens when we do that is it just bathes our brain in soothing chemicals.

    I completely agree with the find other things to do advice. Just today I wrote those things down. I’m going on a 90 day spartan hard mode. By Spartan I mean I have a very aggressive list of things I will do each day from working out to walking the dog and such.

    I know I’m not gonna totally solve it until I figure out the emotional root cause. I’m taking my 90 day plan to three people to get them to act as accountability partners. I encourage you to read a lot on compulsive masturbation. It’s different than the porn drive though the emptiness inside that we’re trying to fill is likely the same. My porn habit morphed into a masturbation habit.

    Good luck brother! If you come across anything that’s helpful feel free to post it back here. I feel a little meek giving advice because I haven’t figured it out either. Good luck!
     
  6. Awedouble

    Awedouble Fapstronaut

    I think we need to qualify for your situation, otherwise while there may be general advice it just won't be as specific and useful to you, right now.

    Being older I don't know how much of my experience would apply to you, and also I tend to just work on the mind more and a part of that may be a natural maturation process and other stuff I do. Although a lot of people meditate regardless of religious affiliation these days there's more to it than that.

    I'll go a little further on the keeping yourself occupied by qualifying it as being occupied with something you LOVE. With most people, I'd imagine they would not describe PMO as something they love. Pleasure yes, but from even just a couple of posts I've read from you I think you can easily appreciate that it's not the same thing. This is obviously implying something you find deeply meaningful, just as people may find an actual relationship with a person they enjoy more meaningful than artificial stimuli of a sexual nature. It may take a while to hone in on just one thing, but since it goes much deeper it is clearly worth investigating and doing.

    Basically I don't think abstinence and tips for abstinence alone is enough, there's the positive side of not only keeping busy but full on engaging with your passion - and everyone will be different in that at the end of the day.
     
  7. Becoming Conscious

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    hi bro, can we hold each other as accountability partners, i am trying to get one AP, people are responding once and nothing after that. let us turn a set back in to a come back. let us break our chains together.
     
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  8. ruggerdoug

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    Yes, I’m good with that. I’m about ready I go to sleep. Tomorrow is day zero on a reset.
     
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  9. backtolife42

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    @Awedouble
    The issue with keeping youself occupied with something you love is figuring out what that is. I and many people i know struggle figuring that out.
    Thats why i think its usefull to keep yourself occupied with anything you can until you figure out what you actually want to do with your life. And focusing on these daily things like cleaning, proper hygiene, sport and so on is a pretty good start since it is always helpful, regardless of your passions.
    But if you have something you love, dive right in, and be proud that you can be passionate about something, regardless of what it is!
     
  10. TimeToQuitNow

    TimeToQuitNow Fapstronaut

    Quick advice? Stop touching yourself :p

    But seriously I've been struggling with this addiction for years and the furthest I've ever gotten was 40 days. If I were to reflect on the one main thing that got me to that point it was patients. Stay patient and fight this battle
     
  11. Infrasapiens

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    Put a Rubik cube in your underwear so everytime you want to touch, you will see the cube and try to solve it.
     
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  12. Rebooter45674

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    I follow a strategy by Terry Crews: HALT ... Take extra precautions when Hungry Angry Lonely and Tired...
    Hungry... Eat Something preferably Healthy
    Angry... Take deep Breaths .. Relax ... Go for a walk
    Lonely... Easy go outside ... somewhere public ... Go for a walk
    Tired... Sleep .. take a nap
    5 sec rule... When the urge strikes count to 5 seconds then to 10 seconds and then go outside for a small walk if it does not subside.
     
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  13. Rebooter45674

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    Thats funny... Hilarious I must say/
     
  14. the lord man

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    be all the time with people don't be alone get up early and go to bed early ingore facebook if you want or anything can beat you play sport and forget forget
     
  15. IntrovertMinimalist

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    For me, I try to think about benefits for not masturbating which includes:
    • More energy
    • More time
    • Increased Testosterone Level
    There are many more benefits but these 3 are the most common. Fun fact, we humans love to remember up to 3 things at a time. After thinking about the benefits, I proceed to read a book, practice coding, doing a passion project or just go out for a walk in the park.
     
  16. Chefb87

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    Google search " three circles " and read up on that . It's a diagram where you draw three circles inside each other. The most outer circle is all the healthy things you can start to replace your bad habits with. Color that green the middle is everything you consider a trigger that could lead you to relapse . Color that one orange .. and the most inner one is all the activities you consider a relapse. Color that red. I would put masterbation right in the red most inner circle.
    I found that when I took the time to actually draw my own three circles , took time to get everything in there with rigorous honesty , and colored and made it look nice. I even covered it in clear scotch tape to make it look lamenated.
    I found that when I did this and took the time and the effort to really write down my boundaries. It helped me not allow my brain to talk me into anything.
    Your brain can't way " ahh well I'm addicted to porn. Not masterbating ... So masterbating is ok. ". Well if you out masterbating in your most inner relapse circle it's on paper and laminated that you do actually consider it a relapse.
    Anyways hope this helps. It helped me so much .

    Also when you feel the urge to masrerbate and it's so powerful . Google search. " Grounding techniques " and for an emergency google search " mamallian dive reflex "
     
  17. Peiskos

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    Apart from the obvious method of pure willpower not to touch yourself the easiest way to quit masturbation is to acquire a relationship and develop a healthy sex life. Naturally when you have someone to have sex with frequently the need and the desire to masturbate often times goes right out the window. In my situation finally having a girlfriend has really helped me, for me its a situation of why masturbate when I know I'm going to have sex a few times a week? I'd rather save that energy for her.

    Obviously its different if you don't have that option, but getting hobbies also helps. But more importantly remember the feeling after masturbating, often times its a feeling of shame and negativity. Channel it towards something greater.
     

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