How to Reboot Help

I think the main principle - and what seems to be working for my husband - is finding alternative outlets where he can channel his focus and relieve stress/anxiety (that for him is the underlying cause). In his case, it is going to the gym and learning to play an instrument, but also getting involved (finally) in normal daily chores around the house and reconnecting with the kids.
Also, I cannot imagine doing it without therapy - we are doing separate therapies at the moment and I think we are both benefiting from it.
All stored porn is gone (as far as I'm aware) and security measures are in place. We are using Covenant Eyes that someone else recommended on here.
And open communication, which we seem to be struggling with the most. At least from my perspective.
We don't do counters and I don't think he has joined the forum, but the plan is - no PMO forever. I know various people choose different forms and time will tell whether our chosen path works for us.

 

A basic reboot is 30/60/90 days.
Get rid of all old porn.
Replace bad habits with good ones.
Target emotional, environmental triggers and address them.
Stop porn and masturbation.
Address porn substitutes and limit them.
Some get rid of social media.
Some get porn blockers.
Lots do therapy.
Get educated on addiction.
Some join groups or get a AP.
Get a hobby or hobbies to build new habits.
Sometimes changes in diet are good.
Some quit smoking or alcohol.
Some do custom Reboots... To move towards lifelong sobriety.

 

If you want to see our lifelong plan, I keep my SOs Lists for sobriety in my signature. We reboot together.
If that helps give you a better idea.
If you have any questions please feel free to ask

 

Sex With Your partner is not a relapse (I specifically state that for the SA here) and that's correct... No porn or masterbastion at all ever.
And for tantra or karezza advice... That's sex without orgasm, me or @ILoathePwife can help also! She's more knowledgeable on karezza it's known her signature for some basics and me and my SO practice tantra regularly also over our relationship, even pre DDay.
So if that sounds like it interests you, just ask!

 

It's hard to find. It's on the main webpage, info, rebooting basics.

https://www.nofap.com/rebooting/

See especially parameters.

 

Also, all significant others of a PMO addicts are welcome to join the Significant others support group. (SOS)

 

How do you do that, btw?

 

Go to groups, find the SOS group and click to join. Or the link is in my signature.

 

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