How to restore a healthy heterosexual life that I never had

[randomxz]

To preface, i'm 16 and fighting a porn addiction. I started around 11-12 and struggle to quit. From what I can remember, when I first started watching porn women did turn my on, but I can't recall a time where I had a strong erection with a real women. When ever I'm with a real girl my erections feels very weak. I watch a lot of gay porn, which I absolutely hate, and it starting to affect my life. I may have hocd, i'm starting to find men attracting in real life, I have dreams about men in my sleep, and I also have a severe case of pied. Please give me some advice how to fix my life and how to turn back into a heterosexual with a healthy sex life.

 

[Liege Blåhaj]

I'm new so I think this is the right section. Ok, let me start this off with saying I'm a teen guy and started watching porn at 11. Until recently, like the past 6-12 months, I've been reaching for more stuff that's in the genre of femboy and other non-straight stuff. I know it was bad when i fantasized a few times to "very gay" scenarios with femboys (which makes me disgusted in myself), i know I'm straight but I end up getting off to it (femboys) more than women. I hate it. I dont hate gays but id never be with a guy or want to be with one. I know it's an addiction and I need help to stop it. I've read a few stories and I think the addiction is causing me to change into diving into all of this wild stuff. I do not want to continue this path or have this be in my life. Please give some tips to starting to stop all of this and go back to my normal self (normal as in mental health + sexuality).

There are no credentialed medical organizations that support the notion that pornography can change a person's sexuality or gender identity. Pornography can, however, allow people to discover aspects of their sexuality or gender identity they weren't previously aware of. According to the World Health Organization’s ICD-11, sexual behavior (which includes using porn) that doesn’t align with one’s religious views, moral judgments, or cultural expectations are not symptoms of compulsive sexual behavior. Problematic porn use is about the amount of porn you use and how it impacts your life, and it has nothing to do with sexual orientation.

It can be helpful to think of sexuality and gender identity as a spectrum rather than two binary options that absolutely define your sexuality or gender identity in every moment of your life. If you are confused about your sexuality or gender identity, we recommend you connect with an LGBTQIA+ friendly therapist to talk about your confusion and doubts. We also recommend that you connect with members of the LGBTQIA+ community online to learn more about their own process of discovering their sexual orientations or gender identities and see if you can relate to their experiences. There are many such peer support forums on the internet such as https://www.reddit.com/r/questioning/ and https://discord.gg/pride on Discord.

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