How to stop getting turned on or triggered by skimpy clothes?

Discussion in 'Abstinence, Retention, and Sexual Transmutation' started by Abzu, Jun 28, 2020.

  1. Abzu

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    it's one of my major weakness you can say, even when i just see a glimpse or women in shorts or skirts, it causes instant temptation for me. I mean it's very common and well accepted in society nowadays so i need to learn how to cope with it but even after more than 5 months i still struggle with, not sure what i need to do though i am really good at fighting or ignoring urges nowadays but still i want to avoid being turned on at first place then it would be even better and much faster for me to recover.
     
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  2. Cypher123

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    There's nothing you can do about really girls nowadays wear short skits and pants all you can do is not give into fapping. Im on 94 days now and when i get turned on by such i just think about why i started nofap and how it can better my life. i even had moments where i looked at porn but didn't give in its all about willpower
     
  3. StarRider

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    Part of making choices for a good porn-free lifestyle is moving away from people, who don't share your values. In practice that means moving away from degenerate cities, before fire and brimstone comes down on them (just kidding). There are places, where people dress more modestly and this is where you want to be in your long-term future.
     
  4. Cypher123

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    No disrespect but isn't that like running away from your problems i think its better to face the problem head on
     
  5. StarRider

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    First thing you do when you want to beat an alcohol addiction is moving out of the bar full of people getting wasted. You don't go there "facing the problem head on". The same applies to sexual addictions. There are environments full of people indulging in those addictions and dress accordingly and there are different environments with more virtuous people, maintaining higher standards. The latter is where you want to be in the long term as a recovered addict.
     
  6. Abzu

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    well, tbh before i started this streak even though i didn't fap, some softcore porn scene from a movie really turned me on and i had precum and it felt terrible like a relapse. I don't think i can even resist a naked pic of a woman
     
  7. StarRider

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    This biological reaction is completely normal and a healthy society makes sure, that these stimuli are kept at bay. You can directly assess how far gone your environment is by how seeing a naked stranger is considered an everyday occurrence. In history there have been civilizations, which were at the same level at some point and some hundred years later they were entirely gone with nothing left.

    Moving away from mainstream movies and TV shows after getting sober is a thing you should consider doing. Men used to read books instead. In the end, it were these intentionally inserted softcore scenes, which lead many innocent right into PMO. At some point in your retention streak you realize that most stuff you used to consume is mental poison after all.
     
  8. Cypher123

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    But for someone young and still living with their parents can't just leave an environment they have to stay until they can find a job and move out
     
  9. StarRider

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    Indeed and this is what someone should do after finding a better way to live, especially when being triggered on a daily basis. Sometimes is not a good idea to copy your parents.
     
  10. Sometimes you must fight, and sometimes you must walk away.
    Skimpy clothes, you have no idea how many lady friends I had to ghost because of that. Helped me out.
     
  11. pump20

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    You know what you guys, have you guys think about the Victorian Era? If you didn't know, I'll be very happy to tell you guys. The Victorian Era fashion about females wearing long dresses and no skin was shown, except the faces. They didn't have the clothes that the women wear now back then. If women wears the Victorian Era way all around the world right now, then they would have been respected in a right way. Also, we wouldn't be aroused right there.
     
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  12. 765174

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    So I'm guessing you guys want to join the monastery?
    Good for you!
     

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