How to stop out of habit exposure to a certain P site

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by QuiggyG, Jan 28, 2021.

  1. QuiggyG

    QuiggyG Fapstronaut

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    Hi all,

    I've been in the community for close to a year now and I've been seeing a lot progress thus far with my journey to end PMO addiction and compulsive behaviours. I've been "cured" of my TS OCD and short-lived HOCD. Still a lot of way in regards to other sexual OCD intrusions that still haunt or annoy me today.

    One thing that has been bothering lately is how I "chose" not to morally use P after following the story about Pornhub hosting abusive and non-consensual videos (I'm sure most of you have seen it in the media, you can see an update about it here https://www.nytimes.com/2020/12/09/opinion/pornhub-news-child-abuse.html). Phub was my "go to" site for years, mainly due to its popularity and "first choice" option when searching for P. Such an expose about Pornhub has turned me off big time from watching P, yet out of habit I will still go onto that site, despite morally being extremely sickened by how such a website/company can be allowed to host such evil (and even profit from it in some instances). When the news broke earlier last year, it was quite the rude awakening to help me on my rather mediocre attempt at quitting PMO. It was the necessary rite of passage that gave way for me to improve my focus on giving P up forever. Never did I see bad or illegal content, but such information has given me an outlook to help fight against the industry and help me to overcome the grappling hold PMO has on oneself.

    But what has really bothered me is the constant return to PHub during a relapse or a binge. PMO still holds a level of force to draw me back into consuming P again, although as much as I do try to abstain from it, I find loopholes within my blockers and see myself back on that website or looking at P in general. After a session, I feel really disgusted with myself, but then I see myself going back to Phub again during another relapse or binge. This out of habit repetitive behavior is obviously negative on my recovery, but the urges always eventuate into disregarding these negative feelings initially.

    I have set myself boundaries to prevent another relapse from happening again, but all I wanted to know how can I stop myself from doing out of habit visits to watching P and how to understand this mental or chemical mechanism that leads me back to Phub despite it being against my principles and telling myself not to go back to watching P on Phub.

    I know the tips to BEAT the addiction and the know to information to stop, but what has been difficult for me is the HOW, or the process of applying myself to those beliefs.

    Any help is appreciated.
     
  2. Bro use cold turkey blocker it's easy to use and really effective. You can lock the blocked sites for 2-3 months or even forever by using the lock button in that app. You can download that through this link Cold Turkey - The Toughest Website Blocker on the Internet (getcoldturkey.com).
     
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  3. QuiggyG

    QuiggyG Fapstronaut

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    I currently use Norton Family and Covenant Eyes on my PC, which is pretty tightly set. It's browsing on my phone that is a problem. There doesn't seem to be any foolproof software other than giving someone else your password, but I am yet to find someone I can trust (my accountability partners for example).

    Unfortunately, Cold Turkey is not on iOs (or maybe I can't find it). I might download if it is cheaper than Norton Family for PC.
     
  4. Kevster1993

    Kevster1993 Fapstronaut

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    If you can set a DNS in your router use 1.1.1.3 and 1.0.0.3.
    This block P sites networkwide
     
  5. dimRhwbio

    dimRhwbio Fapstronaut

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    I have a multi-layer setup haha. I have my wireless router configured to a DNS server that blocks adult sites so all the big sites get blocked on all the devices I connect. On my PC I use an anti-virus program that has parental controls to block adult sites, then I also add sites I find to a list of blocked sites in it. The anti-virus is ESET. On my phone I use DNSchanger pointing to a DNS server that blocks adult websites (and a list of sites I've added to block) in conjunction with Lock Me Out. I use Lock Me Out to white list only the apps I have on my phone, as some apps will get around the DNSchanger app. I have all of these things password protected so I can't get in and change them afterwards, and keep the passwords outside my house.
     
  6. Shawn2020

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    You can use Covenant Eyes on mobile devices. I have it on an iPhone and an iPad. I have it set up to "report me" to two allies. One of which I had "take over" my account by putting in his own password. In my settings, aside from having the adult filter turned on, I specifically put in the list of sites that were my go-to's. Since my ally has the password to my account, I can't disable/remove it from my devices without his involvement.
     
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  7. QuiggyG

    QuiggyG Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for the tip. I will tell my allies to remember my password. I will auto generate one so therefore I cannot Remeber it.
     
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  8. Tryime

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    Have you tried using the freedom app on iOS? It allows you to set up blocks and enable them for a certain period of time; you can't undo them during this time. So, anytime you feel an urge. Go to the freedom app, set your adult content block for a few hours, and hit start. It's only $29 a year but could help solve your issue.
     
  9. pstelar21

    pstelar21 Fapstronaut

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    If IOS - Use Spin browser and ask a friend/partner to put screen time filter * passcode so that you can only download 12+ apps.
     
  10. Julianfernando

    Julianfernando Fapstronaut

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    Hey man, thanks for sharing your vulnerability.

    I´ll be honest with you. Making a permanent shift may not be easy (in the beginning). However it is worth it.

    What you need is a change, a radical change. A change so profound that is will shake you to your core. A change where you are forces outside your comfort zone. A change where you have no other option than to take responsibility over your life and make a shift.

    From my experience it is difficult to change when still in the same environment. Something more radical must happen. Maybe you have an idea. I´ll leave it up to you.
     
  11. how do you initiate it
     
  12. QuiggyG

    QuiggyG Fapstronaut

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    I agree. I need something to drive me away from it completely. Initially I told myself I cannot be “too hard” on my own self. But after months of lukewarmness, I think a radical shift is necessary.
    I’ll also point out I’m unemployed. Maybe it’s a necessary change to be working again. Honestly, I think my relapses all come down to idleness or boredom, despite finding P absurd then ever before. Habits can be broken and I need a permanent shift to get me there.
     

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