It seems like we act best when we do not care about the outcome of a situation. When we do care about a situation, we tend to overthink it because we are afraid of failing. I think I screwed up a number of approaches to girls that way. Like thinking about what I'll say before approaching them and then kinda stumbling half of that stupidly. On the other hand I often feel like I am receiving attraction from girls that I do not care about in a sexual way when interacting with them. This also goes for interactions that I can't prepare for so I can't overthink anything. I guess that falls under the term neediness. So how do I go about adopting a more carefree attitude?