How to stop Personal life issues from leading to PMO?

BrownTownn · Apr 20, 2016

So basically today I've been feeling more of an urge to masturbate due to feeling down about some family issues in my life.

Quick rundown of today:
I've been trying to wake up early so i can be more productive with my days and keep my mind off of porn (i'm unemployed at the moment) and last night i had a very emotionally draining dream (i have nightmares regularly but dreams like this only occur on the rare occasion, generally as they are not completely uncommon i'm able to disregard them in the morning) and woke up feeling completely drained so i went back to sleep and slept in till 1:00pm.

I woke up angry at myself for failing to complete my goal of getting up early and due to this self-loathing, I felt very close to giving up on Nofap and just relapsing (stupid i know). I felt completely unmotivated to do any of the tasks i set out for myself for the day but pushed myself to go to the shops as i had to pick some things up for dinner. On the way there the dream i had the night before popped into my head and i instantly got really angry mixed with some sad emotions.

I realized that the feelings of self loathing and depression (i guess) i was feeling were actually due to the dream i had and had supressed unknowingly. What worries me is the stronger urge to fap I've been feeling throughout the day seems completely out of hands as i can not control what goes in during my sleep or unknowingly supress. On a normal day i can ignore these feelings and move on without them inhibiting me.

I was wondering if anyone had any tips or advice that might help to deal with the urge to fap when faced with these emotions? I also feel as though these suppressed emotions may have been the reason for previous relapses.

Deleted Account · Apr 20, 2016

We , addicts , use our addiction to cope with all kinds of pain , including emotional pain. Unfortunately , there's no easy way out. You have to embrace the pain and learn to deal with it without PMO. I had exactly the same problem( emotional pain) at the beginning of the reboot as I have passed through a lot of traumas during the last few years including my friends being shot to death or arrested ( I live in Egypt ) but I have learned from my past relapses that PMO only make things worse and that relapse is always a choice. So embrace the pain and just move on with your day.

Delphic maxims · Apr 20, 2016

I agree. There is no real personal development without a huge amount of pain, especially not for us lot. I know it's a bit of a cliche, but true. Facing your problems that led you to this path will hurt like hell and it's suppose to. It's pretty much like bodybuilding (or any other sport for that matter) : if there is no pain or suffering, you are possibly doing something wrong. Or you aren't putting enough effort in it.

Embrace these moments, they are quiet essential.

diamondboi · Apr 20, 2016

Take it from me, I thought I was unstoppable, and shit just happened.

I went 10 months clean of pornography to a full blown binge for 3 months after after I lost my job. 1 month prior lost my girlfriend.

Shit compounds man, and it breaks you. I have learned a lot from myself. Some of the best mechanisms, and sources for recovery are toe experience ED with a women. it rele puts everything into perspective, and over drive on why you quit in the first place. Never again will shit shit stop me, I have to repeat this all over again because of my sins. I will transcend

BrownTownn · Apr 20, 2016

Thanks everyone for the advice! All good stuff, Needed to hear it. I will attempt to embrace the pain as you all mentioned and use it for personal growth moving forward

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