Hey all, I recently stumbled upon this website and at first thought it was just for PA/SA's. Then I noticed it also had support for partners. My wife (now EX) has been a PA & SA for about the entirety of our marriage, 9 years. She never once led me onto that, it was only until I discovered her troves of P, toys and secret AFF account that I caught wind of this. I tried to find a way to stay, to help but she refused to see this as a problem. She thinks cheating on me with strangers is just "being sexually adventurous" "learning new things to bring some spice into our sex lives". I was done after catching her with PM on 5 separate occasions and finding out about her cheating on me, 2 times. Divorce was finalized yesterday. So, my question to other S.O's that have moved on, how do you learn to trust again? I'm afraid that now, with anyone I get with, I will keep assuming they are hiding something, be suspicious all the time and second guess all of their motives. Any tips? I don't want to lose someone who is innocent, just because I've been burned so bad with me ex.