Huge Improvements thanks to NoFap. Do I need to do more?

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by Freeman..., Jan 10, 2016.

  1. Freeman...

    Freeman... Fapstronaut

    Hey guys,

    I have been thinking about this wonderful site a lot of lately. I recently made a decision to M at 45 days as I was in a very good place have really noticed a lot of change over that period of time, which was extremely difficult too. I don't really struggle with porn but I felt my attitudes to sex had turned somewhat bitter due to the lack of it in my life.

    In short my wife has some emotional/physical and body-images going on that she has started getting help for (which is a real positive) and as a result there is no action.
    My old way of coping with this was to hassle her, manipulate her, threaten to leave her and M angrily in the bathroom when nothing happened. I have however received a lot of support from a professional (therapist) and this site along with a really good book for the partners of people who are dealing with what my partner went through.

    Now, I am not saying it is easy and I still have days where I get so frustrated and intolerant of my partner that I think-Fuck her I'll leave and fuck some horny twenty-year-old. However, I am getting better at recognising that I am frustrated with the situation and not the problem. But also the biggest thing I realised is that I actually don't need to masturbate as much as I thought I had to. I can get by not with five days much easier than before and my obsession has lessened to a degree. I also got so much confidence from abstaining and a huge sense of energy. I am currently on a no sugar month (maybe two we'll see) and it is much easier in some way given my experience with NoFap.

    A note here: Two really important things for me were deleting my Facebook app and not looking at advertisements on TV. Also noticing what I do to see hotness. Like for example when I think I'll just IMDB Jenna Jameson or Pamela Anderson (Why on earth would I be doing that for any other reason than my cock told me too).

    So no I'm thinking maybe I'll try to get the full 90. There is a part of me wonders why or rather things-Jesus that was really hard so why would I bother doing it again, but now I know. I grew enormously over that period of time and that is what hard things do. Its not really enough to just stop in my opinion. You have to employ that newfound energy into the things in your life that really matter.

    Heres to each and every one of you guys and this incredible site, that has really become a movement.

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