Huge success, but is oogling a relapse?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by henry3526, Jan 11, 2019.

  1. henry3526

    henry3526 Fapstronaut

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    So today I noticed that my interest in real women is coming back. Today at lunch I was in the gym and a really hot girl was there. During my porn watching phase my first thought when I saw her would have been 'watch porn when you are home and have a good time'. Today that didn't cross my mind at all, all I could do was stare, not in a creepy mouth open kind of way, but when she was working out I'd for sure check her out. Not once did I think about porn. Now I'm home ready to take a shower before heading back out to work (home, gym and work are all really close). The wife isn't here and that is usually a massive porn trigger for me, especially with having to shower; instead I'm sitting here typing this to you, then I'm going to get on with my life and not waste it with pointless porn watching (which can last over half an hour!)

    That for me is an enormous victory, I have small niggling cravings to watch porn, but I simply don't want to. The oogling though, is that a relapse? She was a real woman and not a computer screen, but I did stare and check her out. I really don't want to have to set my counter back to zero, I've come so far, but I need help deciding. I don't think it is a relapse, but I need to check.
     
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  2. BigCheese23

    BigCheese23 Fapstronaut

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    How long is your current streak? I wouldn't consider it a relapse as long as you weren't overtaken by lust. It's perfectly natural to check an attractive woman out, obviously, but if you let it flood your brain with dopamine then you're using her as a porn substitute and that's a problem. Still not quite a relapse, but a problem nonetheless.
     
  3. MarinoBigFan1984

    MarinoBigFan1984 Fapstronaut

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    Attraction to regular women vs porn is a good thing.
     
  4. Fallensoldier1

    Fallensoldier1 Fapstronaut

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    Attraction to real women is good, however don’t oogle too long, it will probably release dopamine in your brain, not to mention temptation. I would try to not look longer than a couple seconds, and then don’t do any double takes. It’s very hard. I suffer from this as well!!
     
  5. henry3526

    henry3526 Fapstronaut

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    My streak is 12 days now. I don’t know if dopamine got released. I didn’t get hot and excited, but just couldn’t help but to admire her beauty. Previously I would have thought about nothing but pleasuring myself when home but all I could do was admire. I’ll try to cut it out though for sure.
     
  6. Coolyorky

    Coolyorky Fapstronaut

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    The gym!
    Hot girl!
    You appreciated it!!


    All three of those are a big deal!!!!! Keep it up brother!
     

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