Hypersexualized Culture

Discussion in 'Abstinence, Retention, and Sexual Transmutation' started by I'm The Chosen One, Jul 9, 2020.

  1. I'm The Chosen One

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    First of all, I must say that I hate people who constantly find excuses...Anyway, I went to a big shopping mall today.I haven't been here for 3 months because of Covid 19.This is a large and open place and you know, we are in the summer.I entered the mall and started to move forward. And guess what ? Baaam! I saw more than 100 triggers...All women had inappropriate clothing.Tight clothes, short skirts...I don't want to give you too much detail.Wherever I looked, I saw women like this.I didn't focus on sexual things and continued walking , but what I saw bothered me.Then I entered a coffee shop and bought cappuccino.This coffee shop also sells other products.While walking around the coffee shop, I saw products with half naked women on them.Previously, the products in this coffee shop had not bothered me so much.This was so weird...So I took my coffee, got out of the coffee shop and continued walking.Then I suddenly realized that I was surrounded by triggers.Store Posters with cleavages and half naked women on them ...Improperly dressed women ...Triggers were everywhere.Even in the book store, I saw lots of self improvement books that had triggers on the covers ?? This was a bad experience for me.Seeing the women in the movies has been bothering me for a long time, so that's the same in real life. I learned this ... But the good news ,Today I was confident and calm despite all the trigger and absurd women.My anxiety is reduced.I felt strong and I realized that nobody looks into my eyes very much.Maybe my eyes are sharper than before, maybe I look stronger than before.I don't know exactly why.SR is the only way.Masturbation and PMO does not solve anything, these just ruin your life..! So I have questions to you mates : How can I reduce my sexual sensitivity? Is this a temporary situation ? Write your experiences and opinions, brothers.
     
  2. Captain!

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    As time passes it becomes smaller and smaller but I guess it would never go away, but anyways you need to transmute that energy, yes even that is a force for you to channel, because it's attraction. For now you can't help but to be attracted to a feminine figure once you get control of it, it takes quite some time, you'll get attracted to what you want in your personal life, such as your dreams, passion in sports, music etc. You'll be more focused on that, you'll ignore any sight of woman unless you chose to give attention.
    And just how you're obsess from the former that force will transfer to the latter.
     
  3. I'm The Chosen One

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    Thanks Captain, I really appreciate this.
     
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  4. 7seeds

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    I find it strange that advertisers put sexualized images of females on men's products but they also put similar images on women's products not sexualised images of men.
     
  5. I started to search for the uglyest person in the room and start to constantly watch him/her/it. Kills libido, and keeps a good focus point. Also, it boosts the ego of the ugly person.
     
  6. 7seeds

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    A mirror would keep your search to a minimum amount of time.
     
  7. well, that works too, I don't like looking at myself. But I generally find people more ugly than me. I'm sure I would gaze at you too a lot.
     
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  8. I'm The Chosen One

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    The products I saw at the coffee shop were women's products.However, this still does not require them to put half naked women on the packaging of the product.This is not the only example I can give.Every time I go to the cinema, hotel advertisements are always shown before the movie starts. These hotel advertisements include half naked women ... It is very difficult to completely avoid such things.It is not very strange that there are people who have gone astray in such a hypersexualized culture.
     
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  9. Theoneking08

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    Just because society and culture is hypersexualized doesn't mean you have to conform to it Unplugg brother.
     
  10. StarRider

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    That's the main question about the SR lifestyle: How is it going to improve your life, if you can't participate in society anymore, because you're always triggered by everything?

    By not removing all sexual stimuli from your life entirely. The only way to learn living with the triggers it to experience them regularly and build tolerance.
     
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  11. Rev2.0

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    COVID is "solving" a lot of this for me. With so many women wearing masks it's impossible to tell if they're pretty or not and for me, a woman could have the best body in the world but if she doesn't have nice hair and a reasonably pretty face it ain't happening.
     
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  12. See? there is always something positive in every negative thing.
     
  13. I'm The Chosen One

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    Let me say this, before SR, most women out there triggered me much more than now.SR brought my sexual desires to a healthier level.And before the SR, I had a lot of anxiety.Going out was a complete torture for me.But now my anxiety is reduced and I feel confident.Of course, sometimes there are bad times, because SR is not a linear process.
    Maybe yes maybe no.Frankly, I think that spending most of my time at home due to Covid19 increases my sexual sensitivity.On the other hand, lowering your guard is dangerous to learn to live with triggers.I broke my previous streak while trying to try this method...
     
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  14. 7seeds

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    I am sure the people around you do not like looking at you either.
     
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  15. who cares? If you are on nofap you don't use your looks for anything. I prefer getting as little attention as possible anyways.
     
  16. 7seeds

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    I am sure that you succed in getting very little attention from the people around you.
     
  17. MountainSea

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    You can choose not to view these images as sexual. A nude or semi-nude body doesn't have to be arousing. Imagine if your grandmother was sick and she had to have someone help her bathe. Would you find her naked body arousing?

    You're stimulated because you're a living organism and like all other living things you desire to pass your genes on. All your primal brain sees are gene vectors. Understand this and you can get over your excitement.
     
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  18. StarRider

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    You only get triggered and excited, because your brain is anticipating masturbation and orgasm. That why your brain must rewire to getting sexual stimuli doesn't mean that MO is ever going to follow. The first thing needed for that is that you actually realize and internalize how harmful masturbation is. Most people trying to recover from porn addiction rationalize M as healthy.
     
  19. Hadrian3

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    I live in a country that women even can't sing and we don't have legal woman singer. Why? Because clerics say it makes men horny when a woman sing. :))) They set every limitation they want and say: Women shouldn't do that because it makes men horny.
    Best way is to we control ourselves.
     
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  20. Hi Chosen One,
    your questions are quite difficult to answer completely or concisely. Is it possible to overcome millions of years of evolution. Probably not, but we can certainty retrain our senses to some extent.
    I will answer your second question first.
    Frankly the World is full of triggers. It was, is and always will be. So your situation is most definitely NOT temporary!
    We can not walk around barefoot all of the time. Or we will damage our feet on sharp edges, warm and cold surfaces etc. It is impossible to cover our paths with carpet. Therefore we must wear footwear appropriate to the terrain and surface we are in.
    Likewise you can't eliminate visual or auditory sexual temptations. What then is the solution? One remedy may be the '32 Parts of the Body Meditation.' Another may be one recommended by Roman Catholics. This is imagining the attractive women you see as decaying corpses. Which no matter how alluring we find them they will eventually be. Like the rest of us I hasten to add. If you can, visualise the woman, or women, you lust after as rotten and mouldering carcases. Should you be able to do this, then I assure you, your arousal levels will fall dramatically.
    I know what I have written above is neither poetic or uplifting. But I have found both methods invaluable. Both, have been useful weapons in my own struggles with PMO.
    Good luck comrade!
     

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