I’m 24 year old virgin should I hire and escort or go try to meet a girl

Some men don’t value special experiences, but that doesn’t have to be you! You can only lose your virginity once. Do you wanna fuck a whore that doesn’t even care about you, or someone that loves you?

 

Escorts are worse than fap imo. At least with fap you can stop and the shame will be behind you, but with escorts you will always feel ashamed about having got one. Better to not even have sex or think about women then the fuck a girl for money. I dont even care how hot she is.

 

Don’t do it. I almost did. Had the girl in my bedroom on holidays. She found something on my penis and said shes not screwing me. The thing on my penis was nothing, some minor pimples. I met a girl 1 yr later. It was much better

 

No grown up has to prove anything to anyone.

However virginity is both something in the mind and body. If you have been lusting after girls for years and have not technically had sex maybe you are not very pure after all which was what virginity was supposed to be about.

 

It sounds like you're doing well with the nofap. But you're putting a lot of pressure on yourself over something that doesn't matter. I was fairly late also - it's more important to find the right person than to give yourself cause for regret. If your problem is self-confidence in talking to women then you do need to work on that - but the virginity itself isn't something terrible.

Edit: Oh .. and the escort idea is a bad one

 

Please stop your nonsens. This is not true

 

Be the best guy you could be, this one girl wil find you then.

 

Truth is a hard pill to swallow.

 

No it is not but give me one piece of evidence that being a virgin leads to so much negativity and leads men to adolize women too much? And please give arguments why this would suddenly go away when a man goes to a prostitute? There are none. What did man must understand that he should enjoy his life on his own, learn confidence how to speak with girls. Going to prostitutes and buying someone to lose your virginity is not helping.

You keep saying that you share the truth, I think it is complete nonsense. It is simply screaming around without any proper arguments

 

I don't need to give any evidence to prove that virginity, at a certain age, is not healthy or normal. Just look to your same age guys and you'll see how most of them took the journey to an active sex life years before.

And guess what: it takes courage. Courage that, people who talks about how great virginity is, or how they're waiting for the right one, just don't have.

With the prostitution argumentation i was more like provoking: make something for yourself, be a man and take your life in your hands.

But this scared,childish grown men can only criticize and judge and blame others.

 

It is complete nonsense that virginity to a certain age is not healthy. It does not change anything about yourself in a healthy way. Nothing! You do not get any diseases or cancer when staying a virgin so not true. Secondly, there are men out there who think just as small-minded as you and guess what? THEY LIE! 'No man I have had sex 1000 times, even some threesomes and gangbangs, also had sex with my teacher' but in reality never touched a girl in their entire life, because they think that they will be judged by people like you who think that virginity is a kind of disease or that someone will be less of a man.

I agree with one point: take your life into your own hands, but that does not mean lose your virginity by going to a prostitute just for the sake of losing it. Lose your virginity by BECOMING MORE ATTRACTIVE. Work out, work on your social skills, get advice, go out, meet girls, talk with girls, become successful, et cetera! But when this does not happen, just be patient, virgin on 30 years, 35 years, who gives a damn.

 

You may not get cancer, but the damage you get is not physical. I've seen 20 plus years old guys being terrified of talking about women with friends, terrified of meeting new people and stressed by anxiety because of this. The quality of their life was simply lower then avarage because of shame and bashfulness.

All of this because deep inside people knows that sex matters in life. Don't getting it is the most sincere sign of low value you can get in nature.


To encourage someone to stay virgin till 35 because, well, it doesn't happen is in some degree a criminal act.

Ps: if i'm small minded, you're probably non-minded.

 

I do not encourage anyone to do anything, and you are pointing out a disagreement where I think we are in an agreement. I am the first one to say that sex is important and that it is a very important aspect in nature.

However, we disagree on the solution for this person. I am just pointing out that when someone gets his act together and starts to get more confident and better with women, the sex will come. It is not the other way around, I do not see how having sex with a prostitute leads men to have more confidence with women and how to get women in bed. Just because you bought your virginity away does not mean that you have dealt with all the problems in your life and with all the anxiety issues around women and sex.

Moreover, the prostitutes do not give a shit about him, or about you or me. They are doing their job, and you have to admit, the first time having sex is not the best performance. So, it is waaaay better to have a loving partner next to you who helps you to improve your performance game. A prostitute will simply collect the money and leave your house or apartment leaving you even more damaged than before the act.

So, you have to look at this in a bigger picture. Of course, it is important to lose your virginity and have sex, of course, I am a logical person and the first one to admit this. However, when the right partner has not showed up yet, then I think it is better to improve your life and your character in such a way that it makes the chance higher that the right person will be attracted to you. Having sex with a prostitute is a short-term non-reliable damaging solution. Not for your soul or any of that, but for your mind.

"Ps: if i'm small minded, you're probably non-minded." I want to react to this quote but I leave it at this. Have a nice day

 

Going out for bit**es is actually a degeneracy in 9/10 cases. Okay, you will have sex with a b***. But what does it change? You still are in the same place like before. You are not even a step closer to having long-term relationship.