I’m 48 and married, And I need someone to help me get to 90 days

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  1. bill5437

    bill5437 Fapstronaut

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    I’ve been using P everyday for 2 decades. My therapist finally helped me realize that I’m not ashamed of sex, I’m ashamed of my porn matters. To make matters worse, I’m naturally obsessive so that makes makes matters worse.

    I’m on day 5 of no P and I feel OK. I have more time but I feel like I’m bracing for the hard part. I really have zero self control.

    Is there someone out there with some experience that I could check in with once in a while?

    Thanks.
     
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  2. jdl

    jdl Fapstronaut

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    I'm in your same boat. 47, married. Just getting started. Sending positive thoughts your way.
     
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  3. jfromcr

    jfromcr Fapstronaut

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    Hey @bill5437 and @jdl,

    Welcome to the fight. Feel free to drop me a line, but keep looking for some others to connect with. My belief is that you need a wide support network of more than one or two people to get you through.
     
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  4. NeverStopQuitting

    NeverStopQuitting Fapstronaut

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    I've been at it for over 2 decades also. I am also naturally obsessive so I completely understand your plight. I've though of getting a therapist but I don't trust easily and telling someone my issues is difficult. I am rebotting starting today. Longest I have gone is 56 days. I can tell you that as you go along you will see triggers and crazy things that will happen to try to get you back to the old life. If you need to talk, cause I know I sometimes will need to talk also, I'm here to helo. Good luck and God Bless. Lets beat this.
     
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  5. BrianRogersStJohn

    BrianRogersStJohn Fapstronaut

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    I understand what you're going through. I'm sending good thoughts your way ... positive thoughts and confident thoughts. You are in control. In fact this is one area of your life where you don't have a boss or significant other to answer to -------- only yourself.
     
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  6. Mybestlife

    Mybestlife Fapstronaut

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    I'm looking for accountability partners too. Married and 41 here. New to this but can tell it is already working.
     
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  7. Mark A.

    Mark A. Fapstronaut

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    Hey, I'm also looking for accountability partners. I'm 44, married, also have problems with compulision (stopped drinking 15 years ago with the help of AA). Guess P was already around bem back then, but just gained strength. Often one compulsion leads to another... it's not easy!
     
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  8. Mybestlife

    Mybestlife Fapstronaut

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    Hi Mark. I'll message you.
     
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  9. Samipro

    Samipro Fapstronaut

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    Hi.
    I though I could cheat the system by watching P only one or two hours a week. HaHA! Doesn't work that way. I have been cold turkey since the 1st of July (Canada Day). I feel closer to my wife already i.e. less away in this non-sense. Porn is simply a disruption. In fact, the more we are on IT, the less we interact with women, so it's really a non-sense in its simplest sense. Making this realization is helping me.
    FOCUS ON YOUR PAST, PRESENT AND FUTURE ACHIEVEMENTS.

    Best success to you brother!
     
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