i afraid talk with girl

Conversating not just with girls but with anyone takes effort. There are some people that it comes naturally to, and some that need to invest time and effort in learning how to strike up conversations. The emptiness in your head I can relate to, and may simply be down to recovery.

To overcome the emptiness in your head you have to look at conversations and interactions differently. Instead of worrying about saying the "right thing", when somebody talks to you, listen to what they have to say. Start taking a real interest in what they are telling you, and listen well. Learn to listen attentively when people speak, and take a real interest in what is being said. Once you start listening properly, you will be able to ask questions and respond appropriately. When the thought "this is boring" pops into your head (and it will) make sure you override it every time. The moment you give in to this thought, you give your mind permission to drift off and lose focus.

An example of my own; just yesterday I had a conversation with a colleague about a charity roadshow she was attending next week. I knew deep down that I had no idea what she was talking about, and in that moment used this thought to my advantage by asking her "what exactly is the purpose of a charity roadshow". This resulted in a 20 minute conversation and a promise to meet up over coffee the following week.

Don't go in with the aim to "talk to that girl". Take a genuine interest in what is being said and as time goes on the rest will follow. It doesn't have to be a 20 minute conversation, it can be something as simple as saying hello. Or asking how somebody's day is going, or what plans they have for the week. Start small. The next time you go to the shop simply greet the cashier, or ask how their day is going (whether male or female). Start small but be consistent, and as time progresses you will grow more confident and meet many new people.

Finally, women love an interesting man. In fact, everyone loves an interesting person, and to be interesting you need to have stories. Isolating yourself and being social won't get you there unfortunately, so you have to be willing to venture out of your comfort zone and 'do things.' Travel, meet people, start projects, but most of all make sure these are activities that you are passionate about. If still in the flatline and recovering, you may be hard pressed to make some of these changes, but now would be the best time to start thinking about these things.

Hope this helps