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I always thought it was alcohol...need advice!

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Patrick.C, Apr 18, 2017.

  1. Patrick.C

    Patrick.C New Fapstronaut

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    Hey guys, new user here hoping to get some advice as I've told no one about my condition!

    I am a 20 year old virgin and have never had a girlfriend. I only realised I had porn-induced ED about a month ago when I failed to get erect even when I was sober. Before that I had a few sexual encounters where I failed to get it up but I just thought it was because I was drunk!

    I am currently in the rebooting process and have now gone 2 weeks without porn or masturbating, and I am not looking back! I haven't even had an urge because I am so desperate to have sex...having the label of a virgin is killing me inside.

    I'm in a bit of a sticky situation as I am currently on exchange in Sweden and I've been dating this American girl, however have failed to have sex 4 times now. And the thing is she leaves to go back home in a few weeks, so I only have a small window of opportunity to get it done. Last time I tried a pill to help, which didn't really work. I was able to get an erection but wouldn't stay up long enough to be able to put it in.

    I really want to have sex with he before she leaves but I have a feeling that may not be possible anymore as I realise this reboot takes a long time...

    Basically I am very stressed as I am going back home to Australia in 3 months time and I really don't want to be a virgin when I get back, because I never get with any girls back home, and I feel if I don't do it within the next 3 months, god knows how much longer it will be... However travelling and living overseas with my own apartment has created so many more opportunities to hook up with girls. But the stressful thing is as hard as I try (6 times in total now) I cant have sex.

    Do you guys think it is possible for me to do it within the next 3 months, as I've only just started my reboot?

    Also, should I keep trying with erectile dysfunction medication or is that just useless?

    Thanks!
     
  2. D . J .

    D . J . Fapstronaut

    Welcome to NoFap where you are amongst friends who are here to encourage you and sometimes challenge you but not judge you.

    My first suggestion would be to release the pressure from yourself to lose your virginity and place the focus on you healing yourself. You will have the rest of your life to have sex but that will be less of an option if you are not healed from PMO. I would also suggest leaving the meds alone.

    The enemy is here to steal, kill and destroy. What are your current strategies for combating the enemy called PMO?
     
  3. Patrick.C

    Patrick.C New Fapstronaut

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    My current strategy right now is to not watch porn what so ever and also not masturbate for the first month. After that, I will start masturbating to thoughts of having sex maybe once or twice a week.
    Any other suggestions?
     
  4. OMG - who put this idea in your mind that f*****g a girl will make you a man? I am much older than you and I know I am attractive to a lot of women. And I had sex with beautiful girls who where completely satisfied to spend their time with me. When was my first time to have sex with a girl? 14? 17? 19? I honestly will tell you: 27. I know this is not normal and I am proud not to be "normal". Girls offered me to spent a night with them - and I denied. And today I say: it was just right.

    When I had my first sex with a girl at the age of 27 - what's wrong if you have it with 22 or 25? Relax, my friend.

    I have no idea what will be possible for you. My recommandation is: relax, accept and like yourself, and then do the journey of No-PMO. Everything will happen at the right time. Just be patient.
     
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