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I am 4 months without pornography and masturbation and no changes

Discussion in 'Abstinence, Retention, and Sexual Transmutation' started by tomi0001, Apr 25, 2020.

  1. tomi0001

    tomi0001 Fapstronaut

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    I have been abstaining for 4 months now and nothing has changed my mood is the same, maybe in depression it is different because I have this disease.
     
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  2. Zeeshaan

    Zeeshaan Fapstronaut

    Hello brother dont rush for changes or expect success soon.
    You are on the road to greatness already.
    Develop 4 best productivity habits and keep expanding.
    Nature it testing you for your truth.
    A bamboo takes 5 plus years to shoot up to the top height with amazing strength.
     
  3. IbrahimViking

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    Tomi, the only thing that changes your experience truly is a change of attitude. And an acceptance of you exactly as you are.
    May sound insane, as I just said "to change, love yourself before you change". But no. Insane are the parents, teachers, ministers (pick one) who think that they can shame, judge, scare, bully, pressure (pick one, they usually call it "motivate") you into being a better person.
    Your depression will not change until you remember the fact (fact!) that you are already alright, already worthy and already a gift to this world. Change of that attitude will result in the change of the outer circumstances that you think you desire.
    I mentioned others, "adults" in the life of a child, but it's not about them, and the point of my message is not to blame them (even though blame feels better than depression ;) ).
    My point is that we take their approach and believe it, and do that judging, criticism, scaring "motivation" to ourselves. It never works in the long run. It's ok if you think that it does - it will eventually fail and will make you feel so bad, that you will stop torturing and bullying yourself. You will accept yourself as you are and become your friend. It's just a matter of time. Don't wait years, as I have. Be ok now with your depression and any other "wrong" that you have. You're not origami paper. You're not here to fold yourself in a thousand different ways to then achieve perfection. You are to remember your perfection and watch it reflect on the world around you.
     
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  4. yeap. 3-5 years to enter sage mode. from there on, you are only competing to become something better than the average joe. literally. it's becomes insane. It's funny and crazy when you think about it, if you look at 1 week, 1 month it's not much. But after a few years all of that adds up into something entirely Mind-Blowing!
     
  5. 600DoubleR

    600DoubleR New Fapstronaut

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    Hey, besides from no PMO which is only occupying a person for just a fraction of his day what do you do?
    What do you do with your day?
    Do you play games all day?
    Do you stay at home 24/7?
    I am not bashing or shaming you I just want you to understand that no PMO is not a magic trick,
    You MUST implement good habits in your day.
    What no PMO does in a scientific direct way is its simply heals your dopamine receptors in your brain which causes you to get more dopamine in your brain(dopamine causes more motivation and the more dopamine you have the more other happy chemicals can be created in your brain as well as many other things that come with it)
    If you don't feel satisfied with your day than 20 years of NoFap won't help you.
    Look at no PMO as a tool for being happier doing things that makes you happy and it is a tool for increasing motivation for the things that makes you feel satisfied(those things takes time and a lot of hard work)
    Remember this : "You are what you do the most"
    Good luck changing your habits.
     
  6. tomi0001

    tomi0001 Fapstronaut

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    Do you play games all day?
    I'm try game play, but it's hard
    Do you stay at home 24/7?
    yes
     
  7. RaptorsandChelsea

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    I don't know your situation in detail so I will give you a very general answer.

    Why are you trying NoFap? What are you trying to ultimately achieve ?

    If you were an addict watching porn for x amount of hours per day before trying NoFap, are you replacing that x amount of hours of porn that you would've watched by doing productive things to help your situation?

    NoFap helps and is only part of the solution as it frees up time and energy by eliminating hours of your day that you would've used to watch porn (there are other benefits to it obviously). But what will help you achieve your goals are how you manage that time and where you direct that recoup of energy .
     
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  8. deeroo

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    Self-love is necessary for a healthy person! If you're saying : "I will love myself when I will have money", in the moment you'll have money, you won't love yourself (let's say the new you), you'll love money! SO THINK ABOUT!
     
  9. tomi0001

    tomi0001 Fapstronaut

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    I put down porno because i am Catholic

    I masturbated once every two days on average and once for up to 40 minutes and sometimes under the influence of alcohol 4H 1 orgasm and quickly rewound movies
     
  10. deeroo

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    And what if you are a Catholic? Explain your choise...
     
  11. tomi0001

    tomi0001 Fapstronaut

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    [QUOTE = "deeroo, post: 2547134, członek: 345323"] A co, jeśli jesteś katolikiem? Wyjaśnij swój wybór ... [/ QUOTE]
    because I want to go to heaven
     
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  12. imsoappalled

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    If I can give my 2 cents as a fellow theist:

    If you stop just because it is a sin but you don't actually want to stop, it is not doing much. You will feel like you're depriving yourself "without any good reason." (Even though getting into heaven is a good reason.)

    I say this, because that used to be my state: feeling like I should stop, but not actually wanting to.

    I can't help you get to that point. It took me so many years before I got there.

    Having said that: Because you feel like you are depriving yourself and not improving (your relationship with God), you could feel the same as before or worse.

    You really have to ponder. Think: Why am I doing this? How can I do this?

    Also find hobbies: start working out, read a book, learn a new language. You need to fill the gap as well. You need to actually better yourself, your new-found free time should allow for this.
     
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  13. This title is a contradiction. Going 4 months without PM is a change.
     
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  14. skinisblackmetallic

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    Depression can definitely be a separate thing, even if it is linked. I take medication for it but also, my mood is also definitely improved even after a few days off PMO. Perhaps your depression is more acute than mine.
     
  15. TheLightOne

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    So fapping was not your main issue.
     
  16. Emperorask

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    You were able to abstain it for four long months that is that is the biggest change because you have got enough of time to improvise on yourself and be the change you want to see in you
     
  17. mick5463

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    Hello chap.

    I have my first appointment with a therapist next tuesday. If you re struggling with depression please do no hesitate to seek help.

    Also. Nofap isnt going to change your life overnight. You should seek other hobbies. Hit the gym, go for a run, start reading, etc. Make some positive change.

    Nofap isnt going to cure you of your depression, but Its gonna help you build discipline to make positive change on your life.

    I believe in you.
     
  18. SJV

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    You need to channelized your energy into something you are passionate about. Just NoFap without changes in lifestyle will leave you with unused energy leading to more depression. I’m on day 5 on my current NoFap, I’m able to belt out 25 pushups and 40 sit-ups in one go. Earlier I struggled with 10 and 10.

    If not creative stuff atleast get urself to exercise or go for a run. I just love the feeling of my filled scrotum flopping around.
     
  19. IbrahimViking

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    My suggestion is specifically for your depression.
     
  20. ALEX_88

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    impossible
     
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