I AM AFRAID!!

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by Aboodhi, Sep 21, 2019.

  1. Aboodhi

    Aboodhi Fapstronaut

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    By God's grace I am free from porn for 6 days and ticking. Now I'm realizing some new behaviours in me and I am afraid that it'd lead me back to PMO. The behaviour is I start to stare so much at women. I stare at every part of a woman now. I mean from tip to toe. I start to enjoy women more now. I am afraid will this behaviour lead me back to PMO? Counsel me please.
     
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  2. TheProwler

    TheProwler Fapstronaut

    This is a normal occurrence; it's happening to me too.

    I hope I'm not leering/ogling, but I have noticed I'm...scrutinizing women more. It's strange that I find it quite pleasing at times, but also tiresome.

    Whether it's some chemical spike due to realignment or the new normal, I can't say. For me it ebbs and flows but I will say that I do have some sort of control in that -as mentioned- I find it tiresome and curiously unsatisfying.

    Comically I sometimes talk to myself thinking "just chill out with the staring man!"

    Since I find it an irritant and oft unsatisfying, I do practice restraint; looking the other way, focusing on an object of interest, looking with disinterested dispassion, and a few other methods mentioned here.

    Other thing I should mention -at least as it pertains to me - is sometimes I just need to see people 'in the flesh.' I have a problem with electronic mediation, the computer mainly and it used to be TV, videogames, etc. I've had times on here where I felt the strongest sexual urge and going for a walk with a little people watching helped calm me.
     
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  3. Aboodhi

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  4. IntegralSoul

    IntegralSoul Fapstronaut

    Remember that before you were looking at pixels on a screen. At least now you are appreciating something about real life outside your room. Maybe as you keep noticing women, monitor your thoughts and feelings. If you ever feel that you are taking a direction towards PMO, then you can stop what you are doing and do another activity. But wouldn't that take a few steps? Maybe the danger signs are remembering past porn scenes, or feeling that you must go home and search for porn, then...etc. One thing could lead to another, but if you already expect them ahead of time, you can reject them as they enter your mind.
     
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  5. bluemax4

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    If it triggers you look the other way. If not, enjoy what you're seeing.
     
  6. Aboodhi

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    Thanks pal
     

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