I am feeling the strongest urge, like nothing before,I feel like my brain is going to explode.

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faiz ahmed

Fapstronaut
O my god,I'm feeling such a strong urge right now,even my fingers are shakinggg while im typing this.I feel like I'm inevitably going to relapse now, but at the same time I soooo badly dont want to, after maintaining a streak of 1 week.I know that i'll have to be going to the same old shitty way of living my life,but i still feel like relapsing. I'm literally going crazy.Please respond quick and give me some motivation.
 
Just remember how bad youll feel after you relapse. Its no fun. Your brain is basically lying to you and saying you want something that you really dont. Fight It!! A counter looks a lot better with 8 days than 0.

"Masturbation is like an all you can eat buffett. It sounds like a good idea at the time, but you never walk away feeling good afterwards"
 
I had the same feeling today... Also on a one week streak... But you know what... Will yourself not to... The mind is really powerful... You tame your thoughts to what is right and helpful, think of the long term gain of not M-ing and decide you're not going To...
 
All I can say is, I've been where you are. I felt like my brain was going to explode on day 12 I did relapse. The relief lasts for a few seconds. I restarted and past where I was before. But the urge came back badly last night. Feel the urge, don't fight it, welcome it, surf with it, not against it It should subside in a few seconds but may return shortly after, Repeat the exercise over and over. Get up, go outside for a long walk
 
View this video on self control.
Unfortunately I can't link it right now.
Go to youtube, search for "ted willingness"
View the video titled: the secret to self control, by Jonathan Bricker
 
faiz ahmed said:
Is week 2 the most hardest week during the 90 day reboot?

Btw It's been 4 hrs since I posted this and till now staying strong,thanks to you guys.
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Bro it depends on person to person and on the level of their addiction. Whenever urge comes, just remember urges are like waves in the ocean and waves come and go but ocean will stay forever.
 
faiz ahmed said:
O my god,I'm feeling such a strong urge right now,even my fingers are shakinggg while im typing this.I feel like I'm inevitably going to relapse now, but at the same time I soooo badly dont want to, after maintaining a streak of 1 week.I know that i'll have to be going to the same old shitty way of living my life,but i still feel like relapsing. I'm literally going crazy.Please respond quick and give me some motivation.
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What I Do That Defines Me said:
Just remember how bad youll feel after you relapse. Its no fun. Your brain is basically lying to you and saying you want something that you really dont. Fight It!! A counter looks a lot better with 8 days than 0.

"Masturbation is like an all you can eat buffett. It sounds like a good idea at the time, but you never walk away feeling good afterwards"
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Buggles said:
Continue to stay with the plan. I am in the same situation as you. Today is 7 days and I feel like I am going to explode. But I know and you know that each day we stay health is another day we do not feel guilt or shame.
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ionthemark said:
All I can say is, I've been where you are. I felt like my brain was going to explode on day 12 I did relapse. The relief lasts for a few seconds. I restarted and past where I was before. But the urge came back badly last night. Feel the urge, don't fight it, welcome it, surf with it, not against it It should subside in a few seconds but may return shortly after, Repeat the exercise over and over. Get up, go outside for a long walk
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theMorningSword said:
Cut the thought out, your urges arise after thinking about how you feel, so if you cut that path of thinking about those urges then you should stop. Goodluck
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faiz ahmed said:
Is week 2 the most hardest week during the 90 day reboot?

Btw It's been 4 hrs since I posted this and till now staying strong,thanks to you guys.
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Hi Fapstronauts!
I'm so glad I found this conversation!!!
I wanted to give a little news and write about things that are going on.

I wanted to download a control software for porn sites but I decided not to install it because I realize how easy it was to fool if I really wanted to... and I didn't want to fool ME. I made this other realization that it is all back to me to avoid any tempting sites and I'll work on my own will instead.

-->SO LET'S STRENGTHEN YOUR...... AND OUR WILL.........

Considering this also, I have this concern about this forum and community and would like you to give me feedback about what you think of it. There is this other guy I really tried to help and the more I tried to help him and "get involved," the less he responded and on one side, I'm thinking
" Have I done something wrong,
Didn't I help him right?
Did I push too much?
Should I mind more my own business?"

and on the other side I'm thinking " Well the only thing I can offer here is my support but I can't make progress FOR someone else."
I already have my own struggles to deal with and wanting something too much for someone else is not convenient while I'm in a similar situation. You know how it's always easier to help others and than yourself. Words are easier said than done...

--> DO NNNNOOOOTTTTTT FAP ***!!!!

And "talking" about this, I'm trying hard to do the "walking" and I'll hit the ONE WEEK bar this evening!!!!
This may be very little for long time Fapstronauts but I'm proud to say I have NEVER did such a long stretch since puberty!! While I think I'm making progress and I'm proud of me, I also understand why I haven't did such thing since my puberty:

I THINK IT'S HHAARRDDD!

SOMETHING IS HAPPENING TO MY HEAD!

I'm feeling tense and I'm aroused by the most little stimuli. I'm always anxious of failing back and there is ALWAYS THIS ONE PART OF ME THINKING "Oh how much I would like to...."

THIS: IS A STRUGGLE...........
DAMN F*CK YES IT IS!

Few times, things calm down.... But most of it, I think about sex.

Clearly exposed now is this pattern in me that REALLY wants to get things back how they were..... and man, how patterns can be strong and fight when they are worked on!!

But I manage to keep on keeping on ...

I'm curious of the future... to reach eventually better result... those "superpowers..." Ironically, I'm actively using my passiveness and my good escaping ability against my desires. I'm not perfect, but I'm very satisfied how it managed to work for one week now.

Today is among one of the first very nice day in Montreal. One of these first day we tell ourselves that spring is here and is felt more and more. I have this park near my house with several training and exercise module so I'll try to use my 45% testosterone rush usefully.
I'll put on my ugly jogging sweatpants and I'll go move.

I feel I have more energy overall but it expresses itself in a kind of tension that very present, always somewhere at the back of my mind... and down there.
Did any of you felt something like that after one week?

No wonder people get more things done by NoFap! They just want to escape this tension feeling and they do so by doing anything else.
Could that be by itself just another form of escapism rather than masturbating ? Or am I being cynical?
They say " use less= crave less"... and I'm eager to experience that as well.

Thanks for reading. I know it was a little long, but helped me focus my attention on something.
I TOO NEED HELP AND I HAVE TO FOCUS ON SOMETHING ELSE IF I DON'T WANT TO GO CRAZY!!!

WE ARE NOT ALONE!

LET'S FFIIIGGHHHTTTT! AARRRGGGHHH!


If possible, please pleeeaaaase write a few words instead of just "liking" my post. I really need this kind of support and interaction!
Feedback, encouragement, anything...

I need to feel you guys are present.

Let me read you!
 
Leplusdifficileestledépart said:
Hi Fapstronauts!
I'm so glad I found this conversation!!!
I wanted to give a little news and write about things that are going on.

I wanted to download a control software for porn sites but I decided not to install it because I realize how easy it was to fool if I really wanted to... and I didn't want to fool ME. I made this other realization that it is all back to me to avoid any tempting sites and I'll work on my own will instead.

-->SO LET'S STRENGTHEN YOUR...... AND OUR WILL.........

Considering this also, I have this concern about this forum and community and would like you to give me feedback about what you think of it. There is this other guy I really tried to help and the more I tried to help him and "get involved," the less he responded and on one side, I'm thinking
" Have I done something wrong,
Didn't I help him right?
Did I push too much?
Should I mind more my own business?"

and on the other side I'm thinking " Well the only thing I can offer here is my support but I can't make progress FOR someone else."
I already have my own struggles to deal with and wanting something too much for someone else is not convenient while I'm in a similar situation. You know how it's always easier to help others and than yourself. Words are easier said than done...

--> DO NNNNOOOOTTTTTT FAP ***!!!!

And "talking" about this, I'm trying hard to do the "walking" and I'll hit the ONE WEEK bar this evening!!!!
This may be very little for long time Fapstronauts but I'm proud to say I have NEVER did such a long stretch since puberty!! While I think I'm making progress and I'm proud of me, I also understand why I haven't did such thing since my puberty:

I THINK IT'S HHAARRDDD!

SOMETHING IS HAPPENING TO MY HEAD!

I'm feeling tense and I'm aroused by the most little stimuli. I'm always anxious of failing back and there is ALWAYS THIS ONE PART OF ME THINKING "Oh how much I would like to...."

THIS: IS A STRUGGLE...........
DAMN F*CK YES IT IS!

Few times, things calm down.... But most of it, I think about sex.

Clearly exposed now is this pattern in me that REALLY wants to get things back how they were..... and man, how patterns can be strong and fight when they are worked on!!

But I manage to keep on keeping on ...

I'm curious of the future... to reach eventually better result... those "superpowers..." Ironically, I'm actively using my passiveness and my good escaping ability against my desires. I'm not perfect, but I'm very satisfied how it managed to work for one week now.

Today is among one of the first very nice day in Montreal. One of these first day we tell ourselves that spring is here and is felt more and more. I have this park near my house with several training and exercise module so I'll try to use my 45% testosterone rush usefully.
I'll put on my ugly jogging sweatpants and I'll go move.

I feel I have more energy overall but it expresses itself in a kind of tension that very present, always somewhere at the back of my mind... and down there.
Did any of you felt something like that after one week?

No wonder people get more things done by NoFap! They just want to escape this tension feeling and they do so by doing anything else.
Could that be by itself just another form of escapism rather than masturbating ? Or am I being cynical?
They say " use less= crave less"... and I'm eager to experience that as well.

Thanks for reading. I know it was a little long, but helped me focus my attention on something.
I TOO NEED HELP AND I HAVE TO FOCUS ON SOMETHING ELSE IF I DON'T WANT TO GO CRAZY!!!

WE ARE NOT ALONE!

LET'S FFIIIGGHHHTTTT! AARRRGGGHHH!


If possible, please pleeeaaaase write a few words instead of just "liking" my post. I really need this kind of support and interaction!
Feedback, encouragement, anything...

I need to feel you guys are present.

Let me read you!
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You are heading the right way brother!! Congratulations for the 1 week streak count. Today i also had these strong urges to act out but somehow i didn't by god's grace. While struggling with the urges, at the back of my head flashes of all the inspiring posts that i've read here were coming. I guess the habit of checking in here daily and reading the posts helped me not to act out. As i am writing still i am having the urges but as lately i've been interacting with many fapstronauts here, which i believe has made me more accountable and hence i am able to hold on.
So what i am trying to say is that just keep up with helping others here, as you are currently doing (which i appreciate a lot... Kudos ), and don't ever let your mind fool you to stop it. Stay strong buddy!! We are all here for you!!
With Love and Respect!!
 
It gets easier after the first few weeks!! You’ll only relapse on accidental triggers or fantasizing
 
I feel like I've started being more confident in my outlook and Have even been believing that i can accomplish great things.Of course I feel this way cuz of staying strong and being successful (till now) on this nofap journey.Being successful here has even given me the self-believe that I can accomplish the great things in life.This gives all of us, one more reason to not relapse.The reason being, again the gift of self-belief.
 
ad_nex said:
You are heading the right way brother!! Congratulations for the 1 week streak count. Today i also had these strong urges to act out but somehow i didn't by god's grace. While struggling with the urges, at the back of my head flashes of all the inspiring posts that i've read here were coming. I guess the habit of checking in here daily and reading the posts helped me not to act out. As i am writing still i am having the urges but as lately i've been interacting with many fapstronauts here, which i believe has made me more accountable and hence i am able to hold on.
So what i am trying to say is that just keep up with helping others here, as you are currently doing (which i appreciate a lot... Kudos ), and don't ever let your mind fool you to stop it. Stay strong buddy!! We are all here for you!!
With Love and Respect!!
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theMorningSword said:
It gets easier after the first few weeks!! You’ll only relapse on accidental triggers or fantasizing
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faiz ahmed said:
I feel like I've started being more confident in my outlook and Have even been believing that i can accomplish great things.Of course I feel this way cuz of staying strong and being successful (till now) on this nofap journey.Being successful here has even given me the self-believe that I can accomplish the great things in life.This gives all of us, one more reason to not relapse.The reason being, again the gift of self-belief.
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-Thanks all for your presence! It is so appreciated. I have to admit I find it hard to go on even if I'm hanging on. I do.
But I feel depressed. I guess it's only my brain's way of reacting toward a long installed pattern that is threatened of changing.
It is really heart warming to have kind words from people that did it. You are all showing not only that it is possible to do... but in the end it is also beneficial. I am so surprised to realized how addicted I could / can be... It's like sine the beginning my mind is spending so more more time toward sexual thoughts then when I was fapping. Did that happened to you?

Thanks for the congrats about my first week! I can hardly believe my self that I haven't spent that long without orgasming since my puberty! It seem so unreal and that is because it was so taken for granted!!! These realizations....

It helps me to abstain from edging also... and my only motivation is that my recovery will be faster... I'll be out of that PAIN faster.......
It is so strange... this morning I wanted to try yoga and I did and while I feel it made my body work... I feel DEPRESSED right now... It like THE MORE I ABSTAIN, THE MORE I FEEL SENSIBLE AND THE MORE I FEEL SENSIBLE, THE MORE I FEEL DEPRESSED! :(

Thanks again so much for being there and responding as I don't know if I could do it without you guys!!!

As you said it:
Stay strong buddy!!
We are all here for you!!
With Love and Respect!!



Thanks, thanks, thanks, and thanks again.

Also like you said, I so hope that it gets faster after the first few weeks... As they say: use less = crave less...

I only want to "relapse" on non-intentional events... or with a woman. Oh how I would like a woman to be with... One funny thing though is that I think it unconsciously shows ... the way I look at them... leaves little doubt... And I even feel and see a positive response!

I also have read that there are some better days than others... and I'll use the word "phase" rather than "whole days"... but overall, I agree.
 
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