I am in need of help "sexual fantasies"

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Yoyo xx, May 22, 2020.

  1. Yoyo xx

    Yoyo xx Fapstronaut

    Hey Guys I wish all of you are ok
    These days i am passing with very difficult days
    1. First of all i am always horny and always want to touch myself and anything can arouse me and turn me on which us very wierd and embarrasing especially because i am very shy
    2. I aalways have sexual invoulantary fantasies and i hardly reject them and not 100% which make me can not concentrate or pray or even relax and also these fantasies awake me everyday very horny and make me touch myself uncounsiously just after waking up
    3. My brain is always cheating on me to peek or read arousing content about my puberty
    4. I have bad and erotic dreams everyday though i can not remember but they awake me and i can never sleep because of them although i nearly never dreamt such dreams before
    5. I can not have the good relation with God as before although God talk to me but i can not enjoy as before
    6. Finally i am professional at feeling guilty and scolding myself which is very hard for me
    Please guys i want your help and prayers
     
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  2. Shadow™輝ツ

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    Hey , its completely normal nothing weird, you're going through puberty stage I guess, so yeah. Try to distract yourself from these bad habits because these are bad and will affect you're life, as early you will start nofap the easier it will be. I will try to help you, I'll PM u
     
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  3. Yoyo xx

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    Guys please help and give me your opinions
     
  4. YHH

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    Man the only way is to substitute the fantasies with other stuff that's the only solution
    Believe
    Go out if the house
    He'll go walk alone outside
    Due something stupid

    Just replace the urge with something

    You can't beat it alone
    Believe me goooo out of the house that's what I doo
     
  5. Yoyo xx

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    But though doing much things but i have much free time especially in the morning so i dont know what to do
     
  6. YHH

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    Mall
    Gym
    Walking
    Just go out and then think what to do
    Hell go to the vegetable market
    Clothes market
    Anything
    Believe me
     
  7. Yoyo xx

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    Sorry but we are in quarantine all these malls and stores are closed early and plus my parents would not let me go out plus there is cutrfew in my country
     
  8. YHH

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    Me as we'll I have curfue and restrictions
    Try to stay near one of your parents
    At least to get a sense that someone is watching you then
     
  9. Hey man, I'm also struggling with this. Too much free time at the moment. But if I look back at my best streaks in the past, I only managed because I kept busy even when I had nothing to do. The one time I just started cleaning windows in the house, then the shower. The urge quickly went away.
     
  10. ZeroChill

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    Ive been through the same situation. 14 years of pmo had been edging quite professionally. Now 29yo my longest streak was 80days. Current streak 50days. What i can say is u are not alone and most likely everybody here is facing this issue. All those years of pmo has formed a HABIT. Habit is not something u obtain in a short period, it requires constant effort through a certain period to secure it be it good or bad ones. If a habit can be created, it can also be broken or replaced with new ones through dedication and much effort. To make things worse, this habit of yours is sexually related. Sex is the most rewarding activity we humans can obtain naturally. So it will require tremendous knowledge, skill and desire to break and form new habits as replacement.

    - understand what desire does to you. It can be explained scientifically
    - no sexual fantasies. This will haunt u at any time any day. Learn to ignore it and focus on the things u are doing. PLEASE TAKE NOTE THAT THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT INITIAL STEP FOR NOFAP. NO SEXUAL FANTASIES IF NOT NO MATTER HOW LONG YOUR STREAK U WILL BREAK IT.
    - sleep early, eat healthy and light workouts. This is a must.
    - no alcohol, no overeating, no music, no social media, no youtube just say no to any artificial stimulant.
    - read books self help books

    There is actually a lot more but for starters if u can do most of this then u will be able to discover more and more things by yourself.

    Last but not least, never ever give up on nofap no matter how many times u relapse. I reached 80days after 2 years of continued relapse and i see some light during those days. For sure it will be worth it.

    I count him braver who overcomes his desires than him who conquers his enemies; for the hardest victory is over self. - Aristotle
     
  11. Yoyo xx

    Yoyo xx Fapstronaut

    to be honest this very important and essential to the purity but this the hardest one cause the pop in my head and I can't bare them they are very attractive to me and I can't reject them they are very hard
    let me tell you a personal situation today I wake up with boner and being horny and fantasies which make me peek and M (the second time since January) which made me cry for more than half an hour anyway it us very hard to reject fantasies
     
  12. ZeroChill

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    Go search for HMHU post. 6 years of reboot. It help me and it might help u. He translated it from a chinese reboot god.
    About your relapse dont give up man. Control your emotions so u wont binge. I relapse at day 80 then day 14 and now im at 50 days and doing much better. Its not a linear process.
     
  13. Do not reject them, do not repress them. It is making ti worse!
    You have to embrace you sexual fantasies and your arousal and your horniness, because is what YOU ARE. You have to acept yourself as you are, with the nice and the not so nice. Get integrity. Face it, and nofap, that is how you get the character, from the struggle.

    And more important: get rid of whatever is making you feel guilty. That is pure poison right there. Whatever is, feeling guilty is a venom. If is your god or religion what is making you feel guilty, well f**k Him, then. You dont need that sh*t.
     

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