I am in this streak already thnking in relapse

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Captain K'nuckles, Mar 20, 2019.

  1. Captain K'nuckles

    Captain K'nuckles Fapstronaut

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    Because off porn flashbacks that i find disturbing, i find that if i fap to softer things i feel better in the streak, how i cut this cycle??
     
  2. Vir Rex

    Vir Rex Fapstronaut

    You have to go monk mode and not masturbate at all. Fapping operates on a hedonic treadmill and everything you spank that monkey you need to look up more depraved things in order to get your fix. Porn addiction is like a heroin addiction because it starts taking up more of your life and perverting your self image. You eventually become so twisted from porn that you want to give up being a man, as GOD has made you, and instead you want to be a woman.
    What you need to know is that porn flashbacks are tricks by your demons to get you back to watching porn again. This means that they are LOSING and all you need to do is survive the flashbacks so that you can free yourself. Do push-ups, take cold showers, go running or anything else labor intensive to fight off the demonic urges. And, if you really want to purge your mind of impure images (like the horrible porn flashbacks that you are having) then you need to start praying. I know it seems superstitous but prayer has done wonders to cleaning my mind. I am no longer enslaved by horrible images thanks to the grace of Our Lord Jesus Christ.
     
  3. MonkMode [1Cor7:31]

    MonkMode [1Cor7:31] Fapstronaut

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    Preach on Brother! Yea, OP, I would say that self-talk of "I'll just look at softer stuff" is a form of bargaining/lying to your self.
    Just peel it off like a band-aid, quit cold turkey.

    Also, this battle takes place inside oneself. (Highly recommend prayer as well, and meditation techniques, of not following thoughts as they cross your mind).
     
  4. ZenAF

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    I'm not a fan of monkmode. It's perfect for people with strong discipline, but most on here don't fall in that category. The problem with monkmode is that not only do you take away your vice, but you make yourself extra horny but not masturbating at all. So you make it at least twice as hard to quit. It does lead to a faster recovery but the likelihood of failing is MUCH higher through monkmode.

    @Vir Rex You compared the addiction to heroine. When people get off heroine they go on a methadone program because you can't take it all away at once, it's ineffective and in the case of heroine even dangerous.

    @Captain K'nuckles I recommend that you switch to masturbation to fantasy for now and don't PMO at all, not even with soft stuff. Also, more importantly, you need to change your beliefs about porn. Read this to know how: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/fearless-of-triggers.217806/
     
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  5. mutu

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    you've got to fill your schedule up totally. Don't leave an inch unfilled with any positive activities that would keep you distracted, seriously the first few days are so hard and then things ease up. but again the key is through these activity some of them must turn into habits. So that later every time you're tempted to watch and masturbate you instead go and practice this/those activity/s. They could be as simple as drawing, walking, going out with friends/family/siblings or even along, sports, grading,cooking, reading, attending events, or even your job. Just make what you do as engaging and intersting as possible.
    I would highly suggest downloading and following up with this app Reborn. Because it will keep you alert and aware of your problem. Hence, avoiding it.
    this is the link to the app https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=reborn.ma.com
    Nevertheless, if you relapse, it's not the end of the world just get back to the right path as quick as possible. You'r brain is still aware of your new path!
     
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  6. mghyper17

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    good luck brother!
     
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  7. Captain K'nuckles

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    So at first just give up porn? Because of i fantasy porn flashbacks will como while i do it (even if i trying to masturbate to other things), usually fap to women alone or some hentai(yeaah..) i feel i tricked my mind to distract frio real porn flashes
     
  8. RAWMagic

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    Yes, and those who don't use Methodone often have to go to extreme measures, such as being locked in a quilt room, or being tied to a bed. There is a good description of this process in Shantaram. A remarkable book written by a heroin addict.

    How to do so with porn? I do not know. I know that with a dedicated accountability partner, and a massive reduction in the variables in my life when I went to live on a cabin in a remote farm, helped me achieve 100+ days without porn, even with a high-speed internet connection available.
     

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