I am KINs

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by KINs, Mar 29, 2018.

  1. KINs

    KINs Fapstronaut

    And i am new here.
    I ve been trying to quit porn and masturbation on my own for about 2 years giving up and starting over constantly.
    My longest streak was about 60 days long...after that i had no succes abstaining from PMO.
    I believe my biggest problem is that every time i feel like im doing well with something i let my guard and without even realising i m back where i started.
    The biggest reason i want to quit porn for is that i feel depleted of energy,i lose my drive every time i masturbate...i don t want to live like this.
    I feel the urge to masturbate whenever there s nothing to do.I know i should keep myself busy, but this mostly happens when i get home feeling very tired whatever i do masturbation gets on my mind during this rest period..and as i said i give in only when i have the feeling of winning at it.
    My goal is to go 30 days without PMO.
    I don t know if i made myself clear enough..but i m counting on you to help me get through this.
  2. scote73

    scote73 Fapstronaut

    We're here to give you all the support that we can, but don't forget, the real work starts and ends with you. Cultivate a vision of where you want your life to go, and use this vision to power you forward for the next 30 days.

    Welcome to the forums my friend!
  3. In addition to @scote73's good advice, here are some things you might like to consider.

    Take some time to read the reboot material and come up with a plan for what you will do when you are faced with urges. It has good advice, so don't skip it! :)

    Perhaps start writing a journal - if you feel comfortable telling people about happened and what's going on now, you will start to feel accountable to them. You may even inspire others. It's a nice feeling! This will help your recovery.

    Also, IRL, try to add something into your life that makes you the kind of person who doesn't engage in PMO. Think about doing:
    Something you enjoy
    Something you're good at
    Something important
    Something for somebody else, without thought of reward (and if you DO get an unintended reward, do something ELSE, perhaps for a different person or group).

    Read the journals of others - we all learn from each other. For example, I received the above good advice from a far more experienced member of the community who shared his knowledge. Don't just stay within your own age group or part of the world. Read, learn, apply.

    Look around the forums, get to know people. Everyone is friendly, and will try to support you. We're all in the same boat here. :)

    Be kind to others and others will be kind to you, both here and IRL.

    I wish you a successful reboot.
  4. Hi @KINs
    Thanks for being here. Welcome!
    Leaving an addictive habit is not an easy job, but .... it will be fully worth it.
    So... get some knowledge, read stories, let yourself encouraged by others.
    You are not alone in this. So connecting to others is a clue as well!
    And don't forget to create a journal.
    Writing about your daily stuff may really help you to process the issues.

    I hope you will make it a great time here!

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