I am not happy and I don't think I'll be

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by 1d10t, Jul 12, 2018.

  1. 1d10t

    1d10t Fapstronaut

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    I never had a girlfriend.I got rejected 4 times.I am not confident.Maybe this world is not for me.I am a serious, a little bit aggressive and emotional person.I am perfectionist and I always move in a logical manner.In this world things doesn't work like I want.I started to find life meaningless.There is no reason to live and I am tired of dreaming the thing I can never do.I don't want to suicide please help me.
     
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  2. DeludedSoul

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    Google Eft I.e. emotional freedom technique. Practice that a few times on your issues. See if it helps.
     
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  3. VirtualHamad

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    I'm 27 and a virgin. I enjoyed porn for like 14 years.. I dont regret it though because that time is gone
    I believe on one thing "WHAT DONE IS DONE" we cant change what have been done but we can move forward with better intentions of future.

    I'm quite happy I joined this forum. Its been quite 10 days I masturbated last time ....

    and about having relation. I believe in that we will get the right person in our life whatsoever.
    and this media is really making alot of people go crazy with their relationships as them celebrities are having so many relationships which make alot of people who are alone go crazy.. huff keep calm good time is waiting for you brah
     
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  4. 1d10t

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    Thanks for writing.First of all I want to say that I have OCD(the worst type of it,I dont want to say it because I think it is embrassing) and this fuck ruined my life because of it I am not confident.I think PMO everyday started my OCD and made it worse,so I started noFap like 2 weeks ago and I feel better already.It looks like NoFap cures my OCD,but still I am not confident.I don't think I need to find the right girl for now because I am still a teen.Sex is not that important to me for now but I want to hold a girls hand I want to hug and kiss that girl.Nearly all of my birthdaywishes are all about having a girlfriend.Having a girlfriend has always been my biggest dream.Sometimes I think I am good looking sometimes I say fuck this face,but I always loved my personality I think I am a good person.I don't think I've done something bad.Sometimes I think I am cursed by someome who hates me(btw.I dont believe in superstitions).
     
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  5. 1d10t

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    Thanks for your advice
     
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  6. rostronaut

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    Hello @1d10t ,

    I’m sorry to hear that you are struggling. Rebooting has its ups and downs, just like life. We see many people experiencing both the ups and downs during the reboot, and though it may be hard to see now, these feelings you are having won’t last forever. It will get better with time, if you are patient and wait.

    In the meantime, please seek professional help. I know the idea of calling a helpline might terrify you, but in times of crisis, we often need someone their to put our lives in perspective. So please contact someone who can help and don’t hang up on them. The International Association for Suicide Prevention maintains a list of suicide prevention hotlines for countries all over the world. Also, if you don’t feel up to actually talking to someone on the phone, unsuicide maintains a list of online Instant Messaging and chat suicide prevention resources.

    You are not alone in this. There are ways to treat depression. Please contact people that can help you. Being depressed often makes it feel like you don’t have any more options. But that is a lie. That is just the depression talking. These feeling you have won’t last forever. We are in this with you, and we will all be cheering for you to get through this!
     
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  7. Woodcutter74

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    You are still young, still have a lot to learn, still have a lot to experience. Not all of us had girlfriends till the age of 20 and over. Some us even lost our virginity in our 20s. We all been rejected in the past, it is part of the process. Women get rejected too. Life does have meaning, whether you have a woman or not.
     
  8. jedimaster

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    first of all stop feeling low and helpless. have belief in yourself that you will get out of this menace by yourself. just try to sit for an hours and write your life priorities, goals on a piece of paper. stick that paper everywhere in the house where you generally access, the best place is in your room. this will give you focus and then try hard to stick to that goal. hope this help.

    and also remember rejection is a part of life dont associate it with a relationship. this is applicable in all fields even in the job also.
    hence forget it and try to shift your focus in building future.
     
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  9. HopeFaith

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    I used to be like you, my diary is still here to remind me of this. So i know for sure, that you can heal and regain the joy and confidence of living. You can fully regain yourself and become the most energetic,sucessful and happy pearson under the planet.

    The Road to that is not too easy, but for sure it is within everybody reach if one decided it is for him and this is trauma healing. It literally cures and heals people from a lot of alignments ....
     
  10. 1d10t

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    Thanks everyone
     
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  11. RndyBm

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    Hey @1d10t you're still a baby! I'm 26 and still a virgin. Never been physically intimate with a girl whatsoever. Does that make me lame? To some people yes. But to me, its my way of life, and built on my religious practices. The haters will naturally always hate.

    Embrace the fact that you are 18. People don't like you? People don't understand you? Screw them! Want to gain more confidence? Join a Gym. Honestly. The benefits of exercise are unparalleled. Before going to the gym and working out, I used to be a lot less confident and sure of myself. Now its the complete opposite. Focus on bettering yourself. Don't try to be someone you're not. Be yourself. Everyone else is taken. And you are awesome because you are you. You don't see it yet, but you will in time. The right person will come in to your life when you least expect it. Have you heard of the saying, "A watched pot never boils"? Well, stop looking at the pot. It will boil in its own time and when its time, it will be ready for you and worth your patience of waiting. Stay away from the P at all costs and in all forms, focus on accepting your flaws and move forward. Good luck mate.
     
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  12. RndyBm

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    I can relate a lot to this. However I regret every second looking at porn lol. Indeed what's done is done. The important thing is we are still alive breathing. Therefore there is still time to improve ourselves. Hope our resolves remain strong bro.
     
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  13. Joey26

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    I feel for you 100%, and I’m here for you.
    Just know that your feelings are not reality: you feel that the world is not for you, but that is far from true. Your struggles are very relatable and can help a lot of people. You’re already helping many simply by posting. You have a gift to offer, remember that.
     
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  14. 1d10t

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    Thanks for your advices.I
     
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    A wise saying I have heard is that if you want to make God laugh, tell him about the plans for your life.
     
  16. Nil1991

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    Well, I also have some OCD, and I know how is difficult to keep someone when you are sooooo needy, well, the best option is stop looking for, don't think about to find someone, find yourself first. Maybe you can find love by random, playing LOL xD or whatever you like to do in your free time, just try to chill.
     
  17. SaneNate

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    Is it posdible the main problem is the 4 rejections?
     
  18. Jackb97

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    A lot of people feel like this for a while in their life. However when they get out of it they regret ever wallowing in it.
    Make a conscious effort to try to be happy. How? No idea everyone is different but if you spend enough time thinking about it in a positive light you'll figure it out.
    Grab life by the balls because its all there is. When its over its over so have a good one.
    And try not to care about rejections. Who cares what some bitch thinks.
     
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  19. We’re exactly the same, like exactly... I agree and have done every thing you just said, like my past 3 birthday wishes have been for a girlfriend. I’m so lonely I have no one, and all I want in life is a girlfriend
     
  20. DorkBird

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    I think modern society is obsessed over sexuality to the point that real relationships - be it regular friendships, with women, are very hard to find.

    I think it is difficult to be happy because we always associate happiness with an emotion. And my experience is that emotion itself is often a state of unhappiness, simply because it is subjective and transient.

    I struggled with depression and anxiety for a long time, and it is still a struggle for me. Heck, Im still stuck in this stupid porn addiction. But when I am doing my meditation, or fighting this addiction, or heck, even if I am depressed out of my mind, what helps me is to think that fighting this web of misery gives this struggle some meaning. I am working to try to be a better person even if I am taking two steps backward for every one step forward I am taking.

    I can guarantee you that having a girlfriend will not make you any happier - because unless you can master yourself first, then the issue is that you are taking away energy from others for yourself. This is a truth Ive noticed, because when I was more in control of my inner self, Ive noticed that everyone around me, down to my parents - seem to be more relaxed and happy to interact with me. So I realized that my work is to try to be the type of person others would like to be around. Unfortunately the first building block for me is to get some self control - and its a daily struggle to improve myself with that.

    Dont think of what you dont have. Just focus on yourself. If someone has rejected you or pointed out a defect, its ok - focus on a goal of improving yourself no matter what. Keep what works for you, and get rid of what doesnt.

    Its a rough road for those of us who are anxious/depressed. But dont let that tire you from improving yourself. And dont let it take away the meaning that this struggle can give your life.
     

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