I am seriously considering masturbating again (after 1 and half year of NoFap)

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by Xdecidestoquit, Nov 26, 2018.

  1. Xdecidestoquit

    Xdecidestoquit Fapstronaut

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    I am a 29 year old virgin who just got the confirmation of his super ugliness. I've been reading some articles and have asked for the real rating of my face and realized the reason of my loneliness is my ridiculous deformed ugly face. It's been 2 weeks and I am already blackpilled.

    I honestly have no idea why should I not masturbate when I can't have a partner. The urge is so high right now. I can not have a girlfriend, maybe my only chance is with disabled women. I highly doubt I can have sex with them.

    So give me a reason for me to not masturbate?

    I am extremely mad. Honestly if my parents weren't weren't alive I am absolutely sure I would have killed myself with a gun. There is no reason to live when you are 2 or 3 out of 10 and you have no money. I am the genetics failure.
     
  2. elevate

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    From your avatar picture and the way you talk about yourself alone, I'll make the assumption that it isn't your looks that's the problem.

    You reek of desperation, negativity, and being a victim. You have little respect for your own life so why would anyone else want to be with you if you don't want to be with you?

    Tell me, what have you done recently to better your dating life?

    Have you made any effort in that area at all this week / month / year?
     
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  3. fapequalsdeath

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    Brah, pls. I am not that ugly and have not much money and still find it hard to find a woman. Just work on urself and u can find a 6 who wants to be a good mother and housewife. I admire your abstinence and asceticism, wish i had that, atleast towards NoFap. And eve n in the event of not ever getting a woman, which in my opinion will happen if you quit. You can always devote urself to a cause bigger then urself - teaching and helping other people. But guess what in order to do that ytou need to go out in the real world and crush some vocation. If someone asks hey what's that guy doing - everyone will know that you're pretty good in that. after you've crushed the vocation which would require the trmendous amount of effort and discipline u can go for the woman. But before you do know why it means so much to you. Is it to gratify yourself and not feel like a loser in the eyes of others which makes you a loser in your eyes also. or is it a more noble goal, providng cherishment and comfort for someone else and your kids possibly. The woman is gonna be the hard part, because you don't know what's gonna happen. If I go excercise in the gym every day and eat clean I build muscle. But if i go to ask women out how do i know that not every singe one will reject me. statistically it's a numbers game and eventually some woman will say yes. But in you situation it might be after the thousandth time. Honestly I don't know if it's true but I've heard of a guy that asked a woman out every single day and eventually after 2 years some woman said yes. He was bad with women obv but it takes alot of dedication to asdk a woman out every day. How much have you done it huh? Ow yeah and if the face is only the problem, You're a lucky butterface! Go workout and put some muscle. Tbh women don't really care for muscles. On a subconscious level, they are drawn to stronger man, because they know they can be protected and it's sexually arousing to them because they know that yo can dominate them. The model of the apollonian body has been around for centuries, for a good reason. On a conscious level, they are going to admire the willpower and effort. You don't have to be a bodybuilder just nice tight looking body, looking healthy!!! If you're healthy and wealthy you are a good partner for procreation. NOT THE MOST BEAUTIFUL ANIMALS SURVIVE, BUT THE ONES WHO ADAPT, YES? Are you willing to adapt? So yeah I'm betting you're overdramatizing, it's not impossible to get a woman it's just hard. Now it may take you years, who knows? But if you don't struggle and put in the effort you're definitely gonna be even worse then this self-wallowing state. So yeah for what it's worth, you can my advice. I'm not the greatest knowing persaon but I'm on a fapping binge after 2 months done and I'm one sad motherfapper right now. i don't think you want to add that to your "list of negative qualities" noone should.
     
  4. Xdecidestoquit

    Xdecidestoquit Fapstronaut

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    Well, bad news. Thanks to you both for being kind but last night right after I posted here I was too messed up mentally and I relapsed and I did it again just now. I Really wanted to fap to porn but I just chose to masturbate without. Well, it doesn't matter that much anyway to be hones. I fucked my record. 1 year and nine months was a very good record.

    But to be honest for a lonely guy like me who lives in a messed up country like Iran, I believe it really doesn't matter anymore. I'll be 30 in the next six months

    Thanks again for your support guys. I really appreciate it.
     
  5. I myself am 19 months in (slightly more then 1.5 years in), and I am a soon to be 28 year old virgin, and I am completely content with it. But having sex should not be your primary objective in life, it should be finding out and investing yourself in a life purpose.

    I can empathize where you are coming from because I used to detest my family as well, but then I faced my past and accept what was done to me and realize in the present moment that all is good in November 2018, though exercising/doing pushups to build muscle was a great confidence booster, I recomend it because you will feel as though you have more power over other people from your past, my face/appearence was also slightly less attractive before i started doing those pushups and eating more protein.

    And that is another problem, you are letting others walk all over you and letting them decide how attractive you are, the real thoughts that matter are your own.
     
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  6. Your problem is that you're seeking external validation, you rely on the positive opinions of others in order to get you by. You must love yourself (I don't mean in like a vain sort of way either) and if you don't like how you are then go ahead and change yourself for the better.

    I'm in a similar boat as you, I'm 29 and I've had only one sex partner and that was 5 years ago. Have I tried to get laid since? You bet I've tried and been shot down more times than I can count. But it was in a deep depression when I learned that I have to love who I am and to hell what everyone else thinks.

    Now I live how I see fit without the need of validation from women or other people, they don't like me they can go to hell. This is my one chance to live and I have to seize it by the balls.

    The point is you need to seek validation from only yourself and not from others, until you do you will not see your life change for the better. Do Nofap because you want to do it, not for any other reason but simply because you want too.
     
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  7. Yes, it was a very good record. I think it puts you in the top 5% of fapstronauts. Congratulations! By jacking off once you didn't fuck anything (except your hand ;]) and your streak is very much alive.

    You might have heard the saying "There are no ugly women, only lazy ones". The good news is that this applies also to men and it applies to them much more than to women. Ugliness can be analyzed and all but eradicated part by part - good clothes, body, posture and haircut can have miraculous results. And even if you're still a goblin, you can be a goblin with a pretty and loving gf. If you've ever stepped outside, you've seen couples like that too.

    I think you've been infected by the same fetish of defeatism which permeates the incel community. Get rid of thoughts like that.
     
  8. Woman dont put much emphasis on the looks dude. Be clean, dress well and smell good. Thats about the looks. Rest you have same chances as a rest of the world
     
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  9. Xdecidestoquit

    Xdecidestoquit Fapstronaut

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    Feel like shit to be honest. Specially after PMOing twice tonight.
    Well, I do have some serious flaws that only surgery would fix it, like my super big nose which is double size of Adrien Brody's. I need to work on my self esteem just for me. And forget about women forever and ever. Although deep inside I know, this is not possible.
    Exactly. This is my favorite reply so far. Thank you for your perspective.
    Well, bad news. I fapped twice today. I really fucked up. I honestly should focus on other things than my physical appearance. I have done all that throughout my life and nothing have worked to be honest. It's enough. I will respect myself though. That's one thing I should do.
    Ok. Dude, you need to do some research before saying that. Science says the opposite. Looks, Money and Status are the reasons that women are attracted to you. It's one of these. If you don't have any of the options I mentioned, then you are literally fucked relationship wise. A good example would be me. Anyways, I don't want to talk about this anymore. Than kyou for your reply.
     
  10. Fuck the scientists. Stop this crap. I look like shit and I had a gf. Im bald, with a glasses and no muscles. Im unemployed. And I did it, had gf for 1 year.

    So dont tell me what scientists say. My gf was NOT after money. And beaury is in the eye of the beholder. She liked me. Same as some girl will like you. All my gf wanted was, to be loved.

    Anyway. If it sucks so bad in your country, than fucking get out of there.

    Stop the suicide crap. Life is bigger than a vagina. Get fucking real man. U have more than many ppl on the world and you miss pussy. Big fuckin deal dude. My friend has cancer and his brain got damaged so he cant talk, his dick is dead due to the nerve damage and in few years hes dead. And YOU will talk smack about suicide, while he is still possitive? Get your head from you ass man
     
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  11. Roderick09

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    "Life is bigger than a vagina" - Epic Fight

    Words to live by! Or at least i wish...

    I mean, it's a noble way to look at life and in fact i wanted to believe that for a good while in my life to try and uplift myself to quit porn, forget women and focus on other things. But i think thatunless you are among the minority of people who truly wants to somehow help the world be a better place and make that their life mission, our lives as men revolve around vagina: direct and/or indirectly.

    But overall i agree with Epic Fight... dude, my sister is a beautiful green-eyed blonde and boy, did she involve with some ugly-ass dudes... victim mentality is a terrible situation to be in. I have a large, big ass nose too (you can probably stick a pickle in there), but it doesn't affect my self steem anymore because i've realized that through a self-development attitude (such as improving my posture, dressing well, talking more to people, working out, proper grooming, porn-free etc) pretty girls are still significantly attracted to me.

    Now... one thing is getting attractive, and another is getting intimate with girls: most of them, even if very attracted to you, won't approach you and sometimes not even give very obvious signs of being attracted to you. So if you're feeling like giving up, just try doing all this and start approaching girls. What do you have to lose?!
     
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  12. lolos

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    Work on yourself. Looks don't matter as much for men as they do for women, being masculine is incredibly important for men. The best you can do for your looks is to get some new clothes, a haircut and work on your hygiene, but after that you must work on your character. Look at Dan Bilzerian. He's not the tallest guy in the world, he isn't terribly attractive face wise and he's old, but when you look at him, you can tell he's a man. He works out, has a beard, shoots guns and has attractive women around him all the time. What's the difference between you and him? Dan worked hard on himself to get where he is. You have done nothing.

    Work on yourself and success will come.

    Also don't rely on women for validation, that's a pussy move.
     
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  14. countitjoy5

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    No matter how bad your life is, PMO will only make it worse and even harder to find someone. Sex is not everything in life. Most of the problem is in your mind and how you see yourself. Your hellish negativity will only become worse with the PMO. Get a hold of yourself and start over...
     
  15. 4:44am

    4:44am Fapstronaut

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    "Life is bigger than a vagina". I love this, dude!
     
  16. IGY

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    What on earth is the real rating of your face? You cannot base your world view on that!
     
  17. Gods_princess

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    Guys, you literally made my day with your comments about what women like and what not. :emoji_grin: I had to laugh a few times. I just wanna say that it depends on the kind of woman that you approach. Some women are superficial others not. And as many here said character is more important for most people. My first bf was not the best looking guy but he was pretty confident and that's what I liked about him.
     
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  18. The Lone Ranger

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    I remember when i was little and went to friends houses to play after school. I noticed several times that a lot of parents were not very attractive (no idea why I even noticed it, maybe a phase I was going through or something). And they very poorly matched as well. Saw moms that were together with really weird looking dads and vice versa. I came to the conclusion that there must be something more to this “how to meet a partner and decide to be a couple” thing and that there were hope for me too. I stand by that assumption today.

    I know this was a very shallow post, but only speaking what’s on top of mind right now
     
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  19. helpinghand4all

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    Please help me brothers im dealing with the same problem. I've stopped masturbation for about 40 days. And I find it hard to live, I've developed a never ending infatuation with a girl and she doesn't like me, she considers me her younger self i.e. the only reason why she comforts me most of the time. She is extremely sweet. She was rescued by an NGO from sex trafficking at a young age and is an extremely beautiful person. The problem is she likes to be alone and doesn't have the same feelings for me. I don't know she looks with glittery eyes and a blush to me, so i thought she liked me. I wan't to be her everything but i can't because i have to struggle and can't even talk to her because i'm studying a lot. She's 5 years older than me, we're in the same college. And i hate being with her, but not being with her, i hate the fact that she doesn't really like me. Only if i masturbate I'll get relieved of this problem, so i won't be having any feelings for her, but if i do so i'll never complete my life goals.
     

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