I am vulnerable during weekends. Need help

'on the laptop for 5 hours' at a stretch is the problem. First study for 15 minutes, take a break for as long as you want (stay away from the PC), then study for 45 minutes, take a much bigger break from the previous one, study for one hour, take a break, study for 15 minutes,....
DON'T study the same subject at a stretch, mix em all.

DON'T THANK ME.

 

Hi musta
I also have the same prob , durig the weekdays I am preoccupied with work n other things. But on the weekends its tough. n when u plan to work on ur laptop its gona be tougher. Honestly I think I get weak thts the main reason for my urges to come back . But U have to fight it. As the say in Batman. Why do we fall ?....

I would suggest studying in ur laptop in a public place , so tht ur mind knows its cornered.
Hope this helps
Stay strong

 

Is there anyway you can leave your house and go to the library or public place to study? Also maybe starting your day with vigorous exercise and then a cold shower might help. Boredom and procrastination are the worst.

 

Hi @Musta ; you are really hard on yourself! Weekends are difficult for me too. We do what we do for a reason, even if we don't know what that is in the moment. PMO use is so often a way to soothe feelings of hurt or loneliness. Its not weak to feel those feelings, but it is very difficult. Until we learn how to feel them and address them in a healthy way, the PMO monster will always be lurking. And that monster has a lot of tricks that it uses to counteract our white-knuckle attempts to stay away from it. Fighting it in the moment is almost futile; preparing for it is your best weapon. Studying in a public place, or just being in a public place even if you are not studying is a great way to anticipate the urges. Peace to you.

 

A word of advice here:

In what way do you study on your laptop? Reading documents? Writing a paper? You can do all of those things without internet, and you can manually shut the internet off.


5 hours on the internet without having a thing studied? You've been procastinating more than you should, and that is your own decision. You're blaming an unknown factor as the reason for your relapse, but I'm pretty sure you know the reason, and you havent really been truly honest with this post.

When you're addicted, you tend to lie easily about the addiction. An alcoholic will deny he's been drinking, a weed addict lies about having smoked weed while sitting an unicorn. It's not unusual. I know this because I have/had the same thing going on. Unless you can be truly honest about your addiction, motives and behaviour, it won't get easier.
Studying is hard. Doing something that truly expands your soul is hard, and you try to evade it. It's a resistance that everyone has. So you started doing other stuff to evade studying. This behaviour causes you to eventually stumble upon porn and relapse.

Try being honest with yourself, deep inside you know when you're lying to yourself. When I'm on the verge of a relapse, I lie to myself too. Only to eventually be honest about it, that I really, really crave porn, but I also really, really crave to have an awful lot of amazing energy and happiness. Being honest with yourself helps.

In our modern society, we consume a lot. Not a new thing right? But in fact, it's not our consumerism that helps us, it's doing something. A motivation video might give you a spark of inspiration, but it will fade faster than you think. A cold shower may boost your morale, but wont give you an no-porn-aura for the rest of the day. All of things may help, but only for a while. Those things are just like porn, you consume it, but it will go away as well.
Once you understand an recognize patterns of consumerism, you will make great progress.


Ps: I got quite passionate and fierce writing this, I'm sorry if I came over as threatening sometimes haha

 

I've had the same problem. I think it is to do with the decreased drive and motivation during weekends. Less goals and direction compared to weekdays. Our reboot, of course, must not depend on it. Internal motivation is key and that is what we must develop.

DS.

 

Like @Limeaid said, if you have problems focusing on not fapping, being in public places will certainly help, such as the library. If anything, decrease your time at home if necessary