I can't get over my ex gf

I might be repeating what others have said but you need to forget her. Judging by what you wrote she doesn't want a relationship with you so just forget her. It's pointless trying and make someone love because you cant.

I know you must be hurting right now because break ups are tough. Just over a year ago I went through a break up, back then I was hurting but now I'm glad it happened. They said love is blind, and at times I was blind in the relationship.

I will also advise you to forgive her. Forgiveness isn't easy but it's best to forgive. Nelson Mandela said, "Resentment is like a glass of poison that a man drinks; then he sits down and waits for his enemy to die." Not forgiving and resenting her will do nothing but hurt you. I've tried resentment and I think forgiveness is much better.

Trying to not masturbate will be hard. During my relationship break up I'll admit I fapped a lot. My advice would be get busy doing things. If you can go for runs or walks do that, play squash or some other sport. Maybe read books if reading is your thing (perhaps Mandela's biography would be a good read for you). There's plenty of good podcast out there like This American Life, Serial and Revisionist History so you could give them a listen. Whatever you do just do things that keep your mind occupied.

 

I just read an article that might help you. It's written by a Christian, I don't know if you're a Christian but even if you're not a it might help since it's not preachy.
http://wp.me/peHXC-4VG

 

Yes definitely , here goes the start of day 1 everybody keep your heads high and mind right. I'll be back to talk soon

 

I think hearts cannot be compared. Men and women are different. Keep in mind, women are made to give birth. Their mind is totally on caring and protecting the children.

 

And what interests me: Is a BP man compatible to a BPD woman?

 

It'S super that you have a therapist. Man, you are 23 and doing that perfect!! Yo are on the best way.

Such experiences are an important part of life. You must face these experiences. It makes you an adult.
If you flee from such experiences, you become a psycho wreck in the end.

 

I had similar situation, and mine is almost into marriage (I never knew what is BPD, and I thought some depression and marinas are normal due to her stress). She is super genius and really pretty and having a good shape, and really consider about me. We booked the place for recieption, and told the pastor. And we looked up the wedding cake and wedding dress, and even talked to both side of parents.
I booked the wedding on this year 19 August, and I definitely told my friends and such things. But at the end, she told me that she wants to delay the wedding. I drive to her place and ask her what's going on. But she told me that I was reckless to say her at that late. She cried a lot, and kept saying she loves me a lot, at the end, I felt all the effort on her are gone, don't know what to do. However, I loved her a lot and I wanted her to have a better future so that I told her to date some of her classmates, because they helped her a lot, and they studied better than me. But she told me that she only loved me and her classmates were still friends. I ask her what should I do now, she said it's too late to drive back to your place, and plz stay one night at my place. I went to her place, and she went back to her classroom to pick up her laptop. At that moment, I sent her a message: sorry, and I love you. I left her place and drove back. That night she told me that I am so sorry, plz forgive me. 3 times. I said yes to her
In the past, She put lots efforts on me as well (help and care about me), and she is a virgin but I kept both virginity for our marriage, at the same time, we made out a lot ( one time she told me you guys (male) couldn't control your penis). She is amazing, but
Here is the difference: I went to prof (both of us are university students in different place 1 hour driving distance), shared my stories, he told me to break up definitely. I went to pastor (I didn't mean talking religion, but this is my true story), he told me that he wouldn't tell anyone, but I must delete all her information and break up with her. At the same time, she messaged me that she wanted to say sorry stuff. Crying whatever, keep dating, and record a video of herself and wanted me to watch it. I didn't reply her immediately, but I showed all her message and emails to pastor except the video on skype. I just deleted her skype, and ignored her video.
But don't get me wrong: I really loved her, we traveled together, I helped her a lot. At the same time, we video called her parents together. I dated for almost 2 years, talked a lot, and watched a lot movies in threaters, and ate a lot outside. Really Really good memories, with loves. I and she spent lots money together on our dating.
At the same time, I went to therapy to check my mental status. And she checked hers as well. It turned out that she had bipolar, and she said the therapy told her our relationship is not really good. But mine is normal, but therapy told me to definitely break up with her. She still wants to keep dating. I was in the pastor\s office the time I saw her email. Pastor was really glad we didn't actually sex. He told me that it is like a contract, if you actually sex, and you would have bonded with her and never forget her spiritually.
So this is what I messaged her, I said I uploaded all our pictures on facebook even the one she got engaged. At the same time, I told her that you desired more, and you could date your classmates, they are better than me, and I am not qualified.
So this is the end of my relationship. I was glad that I was serious in the relationship all the time, so that at the end, I told her that I am not qualified, but you deserve more. That's why I am here to improve myself.
At the same time ( too many same time): she told me that is it painful to break up, and pastor told me that she forward her email to others to make sure if I did say anything brutally, I would be likely to be in troubles.
But I wouldn't go back to this relationship because I looked up a lot relationship of bipolar only 1 was harshly successful, and the rest is all about cheating and hospital or caps.
Lastly, I said that if you could turn into a Christian, and we might see each other again in future. But she still keeps saying that we should come back into our relationship. But after 2 weeks not contacting her, she gave up and delete my photos from her facebook, and she tried to show people that she is happy and grateful about her life and year and best wishes to other's new year.
at the end, I didn't see her, but asked pastor to give a bible to her.
That's the end.
I am here to remember what she said to me: you guys (male) can't control your penis.
I am here to help you out.
https://www.NoFap.com/forum/index.php?threads/you-must-quite-addicts-this-is-why.87205/#post-702074

 

By the way I don't mean to against bipolar. It is just my tragedic story. I wish all you understand my situation. And I am glad if i could help you guys through that link

 

At this point I've found the best course of action is to initiate ghost protocol: remove her from your contacts and social media. Then take a moment and appreciate the good times, forgive her for any bad times as well as yourself, and then discard any thoughts regarding what she is or isn't doing. None of it can be proven so there's no point in you wasting your time on such theories or drawing conclusions from them. Every day commit to being the best version of yourself and with that time will heal the rest.

 

A friend of mine told me that people who are "clingy" to their partners lacks self-love. The thing is, you yourself should be the center of your life. What happens to this "clingy" people is that their partner becomes the center of their life and when the partner is gone, their life falls apart. They depend on their partner for their happiness and fulfillment.

What I recommend you do is focus most on your self. Make sure you're doing things because you want to become a better person, because you want to improve yourself. Make sure you are the center of your life. Do things that you enjoy, improve every aspect of your life such as gym, school, work, get a new hobby. There's a lot of things out there. This may sound simple, but from my experience, it is not, but it's worth it.

A good quote that I read on net is that
"Don't go around chasing butterflies. Beautify your own garden, and the butterflies will come."

 

That's a really nice quote !

 

My bad!

 

It's internet slang for confused and scared.

 

Men going there own way and red pill is a website that is pro-men.

? You're not funny. You wanna keep worshipping women go right on ahead. We will laugh at you during your next break up after your liberal girlfriend cheated on you with a thug.

 

Hey everybody, just got off of work and its my day 1. I've been having a lot of thoughts and urges but I also talked with my coworkers a lot to get my mind off of it and to bond with them. My ex gf is saying she wants to say her last goodbyes but I think ima just wait till I can control myself better

 

You're too funny.

 

Guys, can I join too? Would be awesome to have/give some help on the way!

 

Hell yeah we're all in this together