I Cant stop Masturbating. Please help me.

I haven't been here too long but honestly, most of the advice I've heard would not work for me. Simple motivations and cheery urges in the direction you want to go to are generally not strong enough for me to change my mind. Maybe you're in the same boat as me.

You know yourself and your motivation to stop better than anyone. What reason can you come up with to make this a necessity? Because once you have that necessity it will be much easier to kick your will power into drive. Is it impacting your relationships? Do you think it is hurting your perspective of people? Is it causing trouble for your ability to sustain an intimate relationship with someone? Do you have physical problems from this excess? Pretty much you need to find out what goal you have for stopping and keep that in mind whenever the urge arises.

At that point all the little maintenance tips will become much more useful. Like distracting yourself when the urge arises: do anything else but succumb. What other things do you find pleasurable? Got hobbies? Think meditation would center you? Like going to walks? Can you see a friend? etc etc

 

I am currwntly in nofap and I believe I've been doing this for about a year and a half and I actually get what you are saying. I personally was in a very long strike of 5 weeks and than failed and been binging for long time. This is better now, I work on it and to be honest will power is a core component here. When you are going to thw bathroom to jack off you really have to think and say to yourself:"Do I really want this?" and "What the I would think about it after 5 minutes?" that's what I do or at least try to do but to be honest that is really hard especially if you haven't been dping nofap for a while or had a strike that lasted more than a week so here some more easy and useful advices: 1. Start doing sport. A run or power training will lower your desire to fap and will booat your mood, Dopamine and Testosteron.
2. Start meditate. This really make your mind and will power stronger and will make you feel happier and also will lower your desire to fap. (from personal experience). If you have another questions feel free to ask them.

 

I am new to this group, but I've been trying for months now to abstain from PMO. My streaks were always 3-5 days before I couldn't resist anymore and would give in. Then I proceeded to reach a week before re-lapsing. I think me and you are on the same boat, however, I've finally reached 18 days today and that's a big improvement from 3-4 so I'll tell you what I've done to get passed it:

-Occupy yourself with as much as possible to give yourself a much smaller window to be vulnerable. I found that when I was pretty active/occupied for the whole day, then I would not even bother to masturbate.
-Keep track of your body. So since I've always seemed to re-lapse around 3-4 days I noticed a pattern in my body. In those days I already knew I would be getting turned on so that's when I would be most active or occupied to make sure I wouldn't just break my streak because you obviously want privacy to do the deed so when you take that privacy away from yourself you don't tend to re-lapse. Yes I know what you're gonna say, if you get the urge while you're just out and about then you would just simply go home and get it over with right? Well another thing I realized and is also why I say it's important to know your body is that these urges are like small episodes. Yea you'll get the urge to do the deed but it won't last forever and will go away if you resist long enough! Hope this was somewhat helpful to you and just know that day 7 was my hardest fight up to date at least. Good Luck!

 

This is the important part you have to become friends with the urge not just block it out.

 

Brilliant we need to document this approach. This could help so many people who can't do NoFap the traditional way of just stopping.

 

I used to fap for hours, it just wasted so much time and wasted many many opportunities with real girls, im actually amazed i acheived what i did. I guess it made me work faster because i wanted to get back to endless fapping (even at work in the toilets), but to tell you the truth, a big part of stopping, was realising that no matter how quietly i did it, the neighbours could also hear it! it made me paranoid, and i developed a technique of laying large cusions on the floor and lying on them, but it was not as comfortable as sitting on a sofa watching my i pad. i have now practically stopped. i admit i see the occational escort now, but i got so much more time as a result and dont waste time on porn sites anymore. its gonna take some time totally phasing it out, but once in a blue moon is ok, but porn should not be necessary.

 

@TomBradyCrew

Hello Mate,

Go offline...

No excuses, No reasoning, Go offline.

Buy a dumb phone if necessary.

Block the access to the internet by using apps like selfcontrol.app. Whitelist only NoFap. Set the timer on 7 days.

Get out. Gym, Church, Volleybal, Running, whatever does it for you.

Avoid drugs, alcohol and cigarettes...

Get a community around you. Find a circle of friends. Work on yourself.

It takes something like 21-30 days to create a new habit.

After that consider to install K9 or even better Covenant Eyes.

When it gets tough and it will, stick to it no matter what. I used to pray the whole night when It got really tough. I was sleeping and my hands still in my praying position.

One more thing. Don't blame yourself. Scientists are saying that this is stronger than Cocaine.

God Bless!

P.S. It helps to help others. If the urge will be peaking, consider to helping other people. (Charity would be great because you would be with other people, or you can help in this forum).

 

@TomBradyCrew How about creating a journal where you talk about your urges and everyday successes. That way you can account to yourself and receive support from others when you succeed and (hopefully not) if you relapse.

 

A new approach to NoFap is needed. One that can deal with these countless cases of people who can't quit.

 

Hi Bro!!! Something that really works for me is to read a good book!
There a lot of books.

Another tip is not use the PC on nights.

May the force Be with You!

 

I know I'm a female but I can relate somewhat because an addiction is addiction .. In my opinion please, don't pressure yourself .. The more you worry about and think of p the more it will consume you .. When you are ready you will begin slow maybe say to yourself I will watch less of it and even if you binge in a full day after day relapse .. Dust yourself off and try again .. don't worry about the hours or minutes or the days .. Trying counts and posting here is going in the right direction and give yourself a break you are trying maybe you don't realise it .. Rome wasn't built in a day and this was many years of p you consumed over the years .. Take a breath relax .. You got this ! And btw not everyone can quit cold turkey ..

 

holy fucking fuck
I thought that I started young

You poor guy. I'm so sorry...

I normally don't advise this, but get a blocker or something like that. Limit your access to pr0n as much as possible. You've gotta wean yourself off of it.
Get an accountability partner, too. I have a bunch here, one IRL (my best friend), and one on GameFAQs (of all places). Frequently reporting to someone both establishes a sense of progression and growth AND makes you more reluctant to give in the urge to splurge.
If you have someone you're romantically interested in, think of them. There've been a number of times recently I starting thinking of something sexy, but held it off by thinking, "Whoa, man. Think of Katarina." Katarina is a girl from my old high school that I recently ran into again; talking to her made me remember how much I enjoyed her company. I want to spend more time with her... but constant PMO tends to rob me of the balls I need to interact with women regularly. Do you have someone who makes you feel that way? Think of her. Think of what she'd think. Think of how someone you care about shouldn't be upstaged by a sexual fantasy.

 

If you are serious about quitting this addiction invest on buying the book Breaking the cycle by George Collins, you need to read a lot and have a serious commitment ... And dont worry if you fall you get up... Good Luck

 

1. Every urge you get, think about how shitty you're going to feel afterward if you jerk off. Remember all the things you tell yourself, and think about yourself after. Then say "that what you fucking want, dipshit? that what you're going to choose? Wake the fuck up." Tough love yourself.
2. Create/find an environment where it's just impossible. Take down all the doors in the house. If you live alone, move in with roommates instead. Get a group of friends and family members that are willing to help by taking turns staying with you around the clock. Make it impossible.

 

I found out that doing things to find or impress people to improve your situation in life seems to do the trick, it keeps you busy and doing positive things. It also broadens your skillset and gets you meeting more people as you further your knowledge. As an artist, i found that studying the human body and drawing it prevented me from fapping about it because i was preoccupied in analysing it. I went on to sculpt and now am quite good. Im pretty sure i fapped more than anyone else on the planet, but now almost zero. Porn is the problem, ive now learnt there is no need, i actually prefer real people without makeup. Porn is endless that is the problem. And if like me you like to overindulge, youll need to just leave it out. I still dont think once or twice a month is an issue if you really feel you need to but porn is not required, and will just want you wanting more and wilder stuff. Just look at a picture of a pretty lady, she shouldnt have to be naked. Then get on with your day.

 

Thank you for this. I used it this morning when everything was tingling and I knew I had to do something. I thought of this and instead simply enjoyed the feeling of being aroused without doing anything about it

 

How do you enjoy the feeling of the urge without fantasizing? I could do that if fantasizing were okay, but... well, it's not.