I Can't Stop :(

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by penguinlover, Apr 9, 2019.

  1. Gvn2Fly

    Gvn2Fly Fapstronaut

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    Congrats on finding another way to deal with your stress today! The same thing happened to me on Monday. It had been a few days since PMO, then I had a work call that really stressed me out and made me scared and I just said screw it turned to PMO as a way to cope. I need to learn how to not do that.
     
  2. You are alone, that's your issue. People are not meant to be alone. If they are alone they get depressed and very very sad

    You need to spend more time with other people
     
  3. Good self-observation. Understanding our own triggers is essential, since if you don't the urges will sometimes feel like they just came from nowhere. For me I realized I turn to PMO when I feel defeated in my life, that feeling that "What does it matter, I'm screwed anyway." If I'm having a bad couple days and fall into that mindset then giving in is much more tempting. Of course, it's bad, since after PMO I feel even more powerless and defeated, which furthers the cycle.

    Therefore my strategy is to find better ways to cope with those feelings, and take positive actions to counter them as soon as they arise. I find exercise, meditation, reading, or doing some planning/problem-solving about things I can change are all helpful.
     
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  4. penguinlover

    penguinlover Fapstronaut

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    I just relasped but on average before this week I was Masterbating 2-3 times a day making my total per week 14-21 times. This week I have only Masterbated 4 times so for me this is a massive improvement I am going to keep working on it and hopefully I can reduce that number even more next week! Thank you all for your support it has really helped me!
     
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  5. penguinlover

    penguinlover Fapstronaut

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    Well I just doubled that number in the last 2 hours ughhhh
     
  6. When those tempting thoughts come to mind, you have to freeze them right away and analyze them for what they are. Lies! Your brain is telling you one thing in order to get its fix, but it is lying to you. Instead of bringing you pleasure and happiness, PMO will only lead you back into guilt, shame, regret, and misery. *That* is the truth.

    Live from the truth, not from the lie. I am praying for you and cheering you on. You can do this.
     
  7. manishk012

    manishk012 New Fapstronaut

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    You can control. You need to apply certain techniques.
     
  8. penguinlover

    penguinlover Fapstronaut

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    After a full week or trying to control my masterbation addiction I masterbated 9 times this week. This is an improvement because last week I did it 16 times so I am very happy I just completely gave in on Friday and Saturday next week I am want to try to get under 5 times and I honestely think I am going to stick to 3 times a week maybe 2 I dont think I can do any less than that. The truth is I dont want to stop it makes me feel good in my constant stressful life I basically have nothing to do since I have no friends. My problem is I dont like people getting close to me because I cant open up to people very well. As soon as I get close to a friend I stop talking to them and I actually quit a class because I did not want to talk to a friend that I thought was getting to close. I have a neighbor who was my best friend in 3rd grade then i switch school and stopped talking to her. She said to my sister the other day that she likes me and wishs we were still friends and that she talked about me for like 10 minutes. The problem is I cant even talk to her or look at her or even say hi to her without wanting to masterbate because she is so freaking sexy. She does not even mean to be but she just is. I like being independent and alone and I really mean that. It is hard to talk to a girl that you have masterbated to multiple times and just instantly turns you on. I am going to not stop this addiction but lessen it to a healthier amount and I believe this is what is best for me.
     
  9. Tryingto

    Tryingto Fapstronaut

    Congratulations, @penguinlover.

    We all need to find our own paths to our own sobriety here. It sounds like you are moving in this direction.

    Keep up the good work...
     

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