I discovered i am into transwoman. Whats now?

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  1. kriss93

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    I have discovered a few years ago that i like to have sex With transwomen (via porn, i have never tired it out yet). First i thought it is Just a porn induced fetish but honestly when i am a filly clear mind state i Could easily be With a transwoman sexually And even romantically. This could mean that i am gay but i dont know because i am not attracted to men And thinking about gay sex does nothing for me or even disgusting. I Just really like to fuck tranny asses (i think i even more like them Than cis women), but wanna do NOTHING With their penis. So i am always imagine myself fully in man's role whole i am imagining having sex With trannies. And i came here because i am really confused about my sexuality. What does this Mean?
     
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  2. Jonzee

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    No one can tell you what it means, your sexuality is your own and I don't think it's anything that can be defined. I will say this however, I had a very similar experience, got onto trans porn, used it for a few years and very recently after having regular sex with a women questioning my sexuality. I too thought hey I could definitely be with a trans women etc with what I thought was a clear mind, after a lot of thought and reading of others experiences, I don't think it's what it seems to be, I think very much it's the escalation of porn and being addicted to that, I don't think the trans you find will be the same as in porn.
    Stop porn, stop masturbating for at least a couple weeks, that'll be a clear head, make the effort for yourself to do this and see how you go, the usual recommended is 90 days to "reboot".
     
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  3. Start with 90 day reboot, after that you should understand better what is your inner desire and what is porn-induced illusion.
     
  4. TopGun777

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    You can think of shemale porn as a trap that can lead you to gay sex or at least ignoring your natural likes.

    You are born as a man... Do you think you are made to have sex with other males? Should the white chess figures play with themselves? I think not.

    So... We live in a world where are a lot of traps and one of them is porn. The shemale porn is one big, big trap. There are some guys out there that want to make money from such movies and want to alter your mind to start liking them.
     
  5. ultrafabber

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    It means you watched too much porn, and too much porn with shemales. It's an abnormal act. You need to stop watching and stop fantasizing about them and the desire will pass.
     
  6. 19m

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    i’m the same way man but your not i to transsexuals . it’s porn escalation don’t give in to it and fight it like i am . Also good luck to you brother .
     
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    If you are drawn to it and honestly don’t feel any shame or confusion. Give it a try and see how you feel?
     
  8. I'm the exact same way except irl I can't imagine myself with them and I for a fact know it's a porn induced fetish because I quit before and all the fantasies were gone. I just want this to go away already.
     
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    *edit: deleted, worried it would be too triggering for people
     
  10. For everyone reading this thread I want to offer some advice. This fetish is unnatural and the only thing keeping you hooked is your dopamine addicted brain. This is not a sexual problem but a psychological one. You have to tell your brain each time that it is addicted and by quitting you're freeing yourself from internal suffering. I am currently at day 0 because I just masturbated, but I know that I can overcome this as I have before.
     
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  11. Jonzee

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    For some reference I'm at 30 days in off similar addiction with TS porn, I have far less urges about TS than I used to. It's psychological you get addicted to the taboo rush and dopamine, kick it and get back to normal.
     
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  12. Freedom_from_PMO

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    You should not be afraid about your sexuality. From essentialist point of view sex with transwoman is "gay sex", but what your brain sees is just a woman. Brain can't even tell the diffedence between sex with a woman and PMO. Transwomen can be very passing and while I never experienced desire to have sex with them, I liked some images of them, because theh looked just like attractive women. But I was repulsed by penis, like you. There might be lots of reason like sex with transwomen might be interesting: novelty, their portrayal in porn, if someone is into anal it might be tempting, because some cis women like it, some not, while transwomen cant refuse you anal, because there is no other way. Some guy mentioned that the fact they can't refuse anal was arousing and it made him feeling dominant. Also transwomen were anxious about being passing, unable to bear children so inferior to cis women, often outcasts, so it was feeding sense of power. Some guys consumed too much trap porn and they started to believe the opposite thing, that transwomen are superior to cis women, free from their downsides and even more feminine. There might be lots of reasons
     
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    you are exactly like me, exactly.
    i try to remind myself that their femininity comes at cost of damaging hormonal therapy and complicated operations, and that underneath it, there is a big mental illness and self denial (gender dysphoria)..
    do i want to be part of this problematic situation?

    at least, if you romance a transgender i hope its a decent living person and not a prostitute
     
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  14. Hi Op, i'm exactly like you. However for me it's escalated to having met ts. Some it wasn't so good but others it was a really good feeling, but i still feel not right about it. People mentioned trying to get back to normal, but ive been into this since 2008. No matter how long i go without masturbating however, my Ts fantasies just aren't going away. Someone also mentioned finding them good looking but not wanting sex necessarily. But if i find someone good looking i can't help getting aroused. I dunno what to do about it. I would advise you to try and get out of it now while its just porn, because now that i myself have gone passed the porn stage im really struggling to get back to 'normal'. I'm unfortunately doubting if i ever will at this point.
     
  15. This is a long video, but it's really good, and I think it'll help answer some of your questions. Spolier: there's nothing wrong with you!

     
  16. I'm more or less over the 'is it gay' stage, but somehow still feel weird about it, keep it secret and wish i wasn't into it. After struggling with this for a long time, i do sometimes feel close to just giving up and having a TS gf, but something in me keeps resisting.
     
  17. Freedom_from_PMO

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    Contra throws some political agenda here and there and in my opinion lacks sympathy for straight men who has broblem with integrity of their identity or straight men suffering from unwanted ssa (long topic, but tl;dr, traumas or porn may wake gay cravings that are not integral with rest of their sexuality, they want this sex, but are not attracted to men physically or romantically etc., then feel bad about it, lgbt community always ignores that).

    In my opinion desire to have sex with a trans is the same response that desire to have sex with a cis woman - you see attractive woman, so the attraction itself is not gay. But from essentialist point od view sex between a man and transwoman is gay sex and while some people may have no problems with that and it is their choice, but for some it might be problem because of religious beliefs (religious marriage is essentialist) or because they feel lose of integrity about their sexuality. And pushing acceptance here, especially from political moral high ground (if you don't want to have sex with a transwoman you are transphobic) may damage more than help. Some people feel really big need for internal integrity. I read a story of a straight guy who was very lonely and tried to find a trans gf, because he had no luck with cis girls, he met some gay or bi guy who was into him and decided to became trans and date him because he wanted to keep his heterosexuality at least at identification level if he is going anyway to compromise his sexuality because of extreme loneliness. Imho personal situations may be far stranger than what lgbt activists want you to believe.
     
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  18. The problem with porn is, it's extremely suggestive. As someone who's had a sissy fetish, it's become very clear to me that the combination of seeing sexual acts while pleasuring yourself, can convince you that something could be 'hot', when it may be far from it in real life. I have no desire of becoming a woman in real life, but after years of being hooked on porn, I started fantasizing about being one when I would watch porn. It's desensitization at its worst and these ideas are very hard to let go of once they have taken over your sexual fantasies.
     
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  19. Freedom_from_PMO

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    You are exactly me. Porn may twist you in every way. Even in simple things. Eg. I watched porn that made me feel extremely submissive, while when I without porn induced fantasies prefer switching with slight preference for gentle domination.
     
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  20. i would agree that you can say its technically gay sex between a man and trans. However i don't feel gay at the same time even if its a convincing crossdreser. However something still feels off which is why I'm on this site, its largely due to my religious reasons.
     
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