I don’t watch porn

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Deleted Account, Jan 3, 2019.

  1. I’ve been thinking about how I would describe my porn habit. It’s been 17 days since my last relapse (which is my longest streak yet!), but am I someone who does not watch porn, or am I someone who just hasn’t watched porn for the last 17 days? How long do I need to be clean before I feel like I could describe myself as someone who doesn’t watch porn? I think 30 day will be a big stepping stone, but I’m not sure even then it’d be an accurate description. What do you guys think?
     
  2. Pinetree

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    Dunno, for me, 90 days was a good number.
     
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  3. El Monko

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    Yea I’d say 90 days. I’ve made it 48 days before,but once I relapsed it was right back to square one.
     
  4. AEC Josh2415

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    At least 90 days. Then you can say with some certainty, though not as an absolute, that you don't look at porn.
     
  5. Theamos

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    One way to look at it like an alcoholic. Your always a porn addict but in recovery
    I’m porn free since 2009 but could fall right back on it some days
     
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  6. This is opinion-based.

    My personal opinion would be that if you happen to see something pornographic (or a potential trigger such as nakedness in a movie), you don't react to it all.

    Then I'd say that you are someone who doesn't watch porn.

    As I say, that's just an opinion, not a statement of fact.
     
  7. Theamos

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    Agree
    I have a statement I use a lot
    It’s not a problem
    Unless it’s a problem
     
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  8. RollerCoaster

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    What do you mean by "react"? I think your view might be too radical..
     
  9. I quit smoking 6 years ago.
    Suppose I smoke a cigarette today.
    Can I then say that I have not smoked for 6 years?
    No! It is a relapse and I have to reset the daily counter from 2190 to 0 days!

    You could describe yourself as someone who doesn’t watch porn, if you don't watch porn. It's that simple.

    Porn is poison, like cigarettes.
    Better not start again ...
     
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  10. RollerCoaster

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    But if you didn't smoke for six years and smoke one today than you aren't addicted (yet). Only if you fall back into doing it regularly
     
  11. I have stopped smoking once before. After three years, I smoked one cigarette and I was addicted again. Hopefully I will never do that again!
    The second time smoking was worst and more devastating than before and a few times harder to stop!
    I warn everyone: After you try to play with your addiction, the addiction will play with you.
    Don't feed the beast!
     
  12. Infrasapiens

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    I would say you become a person who doesn't watch pornography if you do not look for it and if you catch a glimpse of it you would look away knowing that you shouldn't do it.
     
  13. Randy

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    Why be a person who doesn't watch porn? Just stop being a person who does watch porn. There is no need to take on an identity based on what you don't do.
     
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  14. DogDaysOfLife

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    You can say it at any point. It's a positive affirmation. The point is to get your self-concept into the state of not being a porn user, regardless of how many days you haven't been a porn user. You can say it on day 1 or day 0 for that matter. The point is that you're aligning your self-image with the goal, so you're not just someone with a goal. You're a person who does or does not do specific things, from now on.
     
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  15. That's the difference between a reset and a relapse, as documented on this site. One mistake makes a reset. Falling back into the addiction makes a relapse.
     
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  16. I think you can start describing yourself like that from day one. Like Tony Robbins says: change does not need time to happen, it happens in an instant. It happens when you make a decision in a moment. From that moment on you are different person. So if you decide now that you are a type of person that does not watch porn you become it instantly. And if you believe that you will act accordingly.
     
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