I don't have any friends.

Do you have any hobbies that have local groups in your area affiliated with them? If so, you could always attend one of those group meetings to meet like minded people. One example I can give would be home brewing groups since that’s a popular hobby and there’s lots of home brewing groups where beer enthusiasts can meet up and share their creations with other home brewers, plus the alcohol definitely helps as an icebreaker. I even once met a guy who was an aquarium hobbyist and he was a part of an aquarium enthusiast group that had regular meetings. One last suggestion I can think of is if you pay attention to politics, getting politically involved by volunteering with a political group/campaign is also a great option, especially right now with the midterm elections coming up in a few months so there’s currently a lot in politics that’s super active right now. Hope this helped!

 

If you are reading the bible you are obviously interested in religious studies. Do you attend church? Join a bible study group. If you don't already attend church go along one Sunday morning, all churches will welcome you, especially these days with church numbers declining, join in and see if you can get involved. Maybe you can do some voluntary work, that always attracts nice people of both sexes and varying ages. If you join something like this the awkwardness of not knowing what to say to people is taken away because you all have a common aim, so the conversation revolves around whatever project you are all on and you don't have to be the life and soul of the party. If you are a quiet person and don't say much that is fine, there will be other people there who do like to talk a lot. If you are feeling isolated and lonely it can be very very hard to make the first move to join a group but you just have to take a deep breath bite the bullet, sieze the nettle and go. Try and put any insecurities out of your head, think about the positive and get up and go. The thing is nobody is going to come knocking on your door you have to make the first move. I would avoid social media and messaging that will only make the isolation and loneliness worse and we don't really know who is on the other end, they could be just feeding you a load of old rubbish. I hope some of this helps. I do know one thing for certain though porn doen't help at all, that is why I am here, trying to deal with a serious addiction which has ruined my life. Good luck

 

I'm on the same boat. I'm 36, haven't had a steady job in two years. Have social anxiety but I want to get out of it. I'm looking for someone to talk to on a regular basis. Just to chat. I don't know how to make friends in real life. I want to talk to people online. 36m from canada

 

I think you are talking about my life : loneliness pure , social anxiety ( I take medication ) and always fear to talk to others but I want to connect with others

 

I mean, screw it. If people don't want me or I'm alone and can't change it, it must be my lot. What can I do about it? I went to meetup groups. Girls don't like you there unless you make good money. I meet dudes sometimes. They never want to hang out anymore. What's left to do? You can't force people. I just move on with life.

 

Why don't you message each other directly and start a chat group

 

The more you talk to them, the less fear there will be.

 

Hey,

Seems to be a common theme these days. A lot of people experience loneliness, be that through physically not having anyone to talk to, or no one to connect with. I know plenty of people but feel very disconnected from a lot of them. I'm fortunate to be married to a wonderful person, but I do lack friendships and that can cause loneliness at times. I like the idea of a group chat.

Does anyone have any particular interests, or experiences etc to share?

 

Maybe we can start a group chat. What do you guys like ? I watch NBA basketball, NFL, have some interests in latest technology and I like to read the news about current geopolitical situation. Feel free to add your interests to this thread. We can go from there

 

Is this 500 days of hard mode for real? No breaks?

 

No it's not. I started using this site more than a year ago but its definitely not 500 days of hard mode. I think i can change it somewhere so it doesn't say 500+ days

 

Ok fair enough. Just asking. I'm shallow on a reboot myself. We are all trying.

 

Yeah. I'm trying to get back to using this on a regular basis. Maybe i should make a habit of using this site everyday. How is everyone doing?