I don't know how to beat PMO i am failing again and again

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  1. theBornAgain

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    I started 2018 with a NoFap resolution did a streak of 34 days then relapsed and then fell into the spiral of getting into binging even 3 or 4 times a day than I would feel pathetic again do a 7 or 8 day streak and again relapse. I am jobless at 27 sitting at home and preparing for competitive exams I have to study all day at desk in front of computer. When things don't move quickly or when I don't get things done I fall into PMO. and after doing PMO I loose motivation to do things which leads to further PMO. I tried I go 8-10 days and fall again I am fed up of this. I try to be optimistic but I am feeling powerless after this relapse. This post is a cry for help or rant I don't know or may be both. I pray to God I promised him I will get rid of this habit but I am relapsing at frequent intervals and I am not moving ahead in life. I feel like shit now.
     
  2. Dom9292

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    When you get into the mood of PMO.. Why don't you try getting up and moving leave your surroundings and go for a walk or a drive anything to get you out of your immediate environment and out of that mind frame. That's what i do and it seems to help
     
  3. GA93JDeereboy

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    Do you have a girlfriend? That may help you maybe instead of being on the computer just man up and go out doesn't have to be a bar, Walmart, grocery store, places you go for errands, just go out maybe the dog park, church. Think about who you want to become as a man. Feel free to message me and I will try to reply 2 keep you on track.
    It's been over 2 months since I relapsed and nofap has changed my life. Also use the panic button.
     
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  4. theBornAgain

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    Thanks Deereboy you saying that means a lot to me I will get in touch if I am about to slip. Yes I do have a girlfriend she is very supporting and caring but we stay in 2 different cities of the same state but despite that we are going strong. Anyways I have dedicided to put the past behind and start again to get myself together. Thank you for replying it means a lot just to know someone was caring enough to help.
     
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  5. You need to take charge of your life. If you wanna get rid of PMO then stop seeing yourself as the victim and see yourself as the aggressor against your own world!
    You have the power, you need the dedication and discipline to do so...
    I assume you already know a lot of the things people do to get rebooted from PMO...
    So stop being the victim and take out steps to ensure you rise up!
    And always remember... The bad days will go away soon enough :)
     
  6. WeirdBrownGuy

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    I can relate it quite well but the only thing is not to lose hope and believe in yourself keep trying as i am
     
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  7. Red79

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    Im in the same boat bro but im really just noticing i had this problem.. I tried my 1st Nofap an went 5 days then relapse, felt like a total asshole the second i came, it was like them 5days was a waste of time, so im tryin again an i feel really good about it this go round, i had over 15000 nut bustin pics downloaded on my tablet an it took alot to delete them.. Like it took a whole lot to delete them shitz man smh..but i did an i leave my tablet at my job so i wont have access to it.. My phone screen is all shattered so it wont be no use to surf the web... But look at like this, itz only gonna help us in the long run, itz jus the beginnin thats the hardest... But when im with my gf, i be thinkin in my head, i have to stop lettin her down because i kno she loves me an wants my dick...so ima jus stick it out for our relationship but most of all me.. I been with quite a few women over the last few yrs, had sex with some but couldn't cum..an some of them i jus couldn't get hard...enuff is e-fukin-nuff bro...im about to be on my 2nd day, we both startin fresh on Nofap, so lets walk thru this together.
     
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  8. GA93JDeereboy

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    No problem. You got this.
     
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  9. theBornAgain

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    Yesterday I had a videocall with my GF i was so hard and passionate I could feel the desire for her I want her in my life and I have to get my life together and start by preparing well and cracking this exam. I orgasmed yesterday and unlike other PMO orgasms this felt rejuvenating and energised me may be that's what love does to us. I promised myself I will become a better person for her and no longer a victim to this cheap dopamine called porn. I am with you Red79. Let's do this.
     
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  10. theBornAgain

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    Thank you Sherlock :)
     
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  11. theBornAgain

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    Thanks bro
     
  12. theBornAgain

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    good tip I will be doing this actually at that point of time I think I already looked at triggering image or video now if I don't masturbate the urges will not let me focus, I know its silly but my brain comes up with these rationalisations. I try to be trigger free but then you know its youtube and I can't totally block like porn websites because I need it for study. This is how I generally relapse when things move slow or I am not accomplishing my goals.
     
  13. WayOutWest

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    Can you not take your laptop and study elsewhere, like a public library or somewhere where you have far less privacy?
     
  14. zadvanceppa

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    I seem to be catching on to " embracing" that strong urges to fap ! First, if you give it some time, it does eventually fade but read up on how some men like myself get the huge urges to fap; maybe because of a girlfriend or in anticipation of future sex or possibly porn related. I do take lots of cold showers. Its kinda fun to me to extinguish a strong urge by jumping in a cold shower. If you don't touch "your friend" no foul. Try to embrace that sexual urge and acknowledge its power over you. Then do something else til it fades.
    What is there like 200,000 members here? We are the few who have caught on to this epidemic. People have lots of different reasons for attempting to stop this pmo'ing. Mine was because I was depressed and I knew that I was jerking off for so many years. Was there a correlation? I stumbled here and YBOP. I've read like crazy on the subject and peoples battles. My own experiences prove to me that I gain too much by giving up pmo. I really feel like a true man now. I may lapse someday because I have done it so much and so long but I really feel that I won't let it become a part of my life again.
     
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  15. Spoken like a champ. My man! :)
     
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  16. Red79

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    Yea bro, this shit aint no good to our sex life, loss off libido, death grip, PIED ect... I woke up this mornin with the thought of PMO but dismissed that shit hella quik... I finally told her about this issue an she's supportive an understanding of this fucked up situation an she's willin to stick it out with me.. So i have to give it the best i got for her bein supportive an makin me feel confident i can get over this porn BS...so im on day#3 no PMO...I PLAN TO KEEP GOIN STRONG AN NOT GIVIN IN... IM OVER IT...JUS WISH I STARTED SOONER... WE CAN ALL GET THRU THIS IF WE REALLY WANT/NEED TO...PEACE BROTHER
     
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    haha......this definitely means you are an Indian, because only Indians spent years preparing for competitive exams. I am from India myself.....If you are comfortable speaking with me then you can ping me
     
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  18. theBornAgain

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    Haha you got me there bro. I am from Assam, India
     
  19. theBornAgain

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    The best time to plant trees was 20 years ago the second best time is NOW
     
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  20. Xinith

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    Similar story bro.. I believe if we walk this road together being accountable to ourselves . We will overcome it.. I am with you brother
     
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