I don't know what my issue is.

That's PIED(porn induced erectile dysfunction), you spent a long while masturbating without a woman around and now that a woman is around you cannot perform. You need to stop masturbating(especially with the death grip) and stop all porn immediately. You're already messing around with fetish oriented material(many guys with PIED can't perform unless that fetish is present). I would also encourage you to go get blood work done, a full hormonal panel. Low semen volume/erection quality could mean low testosterone in which case you should be put on replacement therapy. I've also used things like Cialus and Levetra which can help keep you rock hard for longer periods of time.

 

Try doing kegels and reverse kegels it can help strengthen your pelvic floor. Also makes erections harder and if you practice enough you can last longer in bed. As for PIED, lay off the P.

 

This is all symptoms of porn escalation and probably death-grip. Finishing to more taboo porn is a clear sign that your brain needs more shock value to reward the dopamine it craves.
As my porn use escalated, I couldn't stand regular porn and got into more and more stranger fetishes. Then those got boring and the cycle continued. It is a vicious cycle where your brain becomes desensitized to streamlined porn.

The loss of blood flow during sex means your brain is now wired for porn and desires it more than sex. I had the same issue where I would be aroused (full hard) with a kiss but around the 5 minute mark I lost all steam.

 

Exactly right, I had the same issue as well. "Death grip" masturbation + Porn = Erectile dysfunction.

 

I've relapsed recently like a fool but yes, it does make you feel much better. Semen volume increases, sensitivity comes back, stronger erections, etc. and for me it cures a lot of my depression and rage.

 

Toke, Whatever you do, you have to reboot long term. You are already looking for the “taboo” shock factor in your porn addiction, that is a dangerous path, as where will it lead to? Totally agree with Claude, lose the porn. It will have many positive effects, mentally and physically. I am lucky enough to be married to a supportive wife whom is helping me recover from my dopamine / porn addiction. I can guarantee the sensitivity comes back pretty quickly. Even after a pretty long 25 year PMO career. And mentally I seem to be getting stronger day by day. Though still early days for me and still a struggle to avoid triggers, but I am committed. This site is my homepage, so as to remind me should I open my browser with any other intent. Good luck sir.

 

I'm on day 16 and have definitely been seeing some positive results. The last time I reached 15 days I foolishly thought I could masturbate without porn which caused a relapse shortly after. The crazy thing was that for the first time in years I could actually masturbate while fantasizing about real women. This is something that was impossible before as I needed very graphic and taboo material before.

I relapsed shortly after with PMO and the longest I streak I had was a day or two. It took a lot of energy and focus to get back to my streak.

During my relapses I felt low on energy and my depression and negative thoughts started coming back. At the gym I could barely do 70% of my normal weights and ended up leaving half way through at times.

I believe the benefits are definitely real which gets me even more motivated to hit my 90 day goal.

 

That's awesome keep it up.

 

The only postive result I have is quiting this addiction. Well, theres more to it like no more guilt after masturbating and the depression it put me in after PMO. I replaced my addiction with exercising and I cant lie I feel like a million dollars. Quiting PMO is the one of the best decisions I have ever made in my life. I spend more time with family. I can now (still working on it) have meaning full conversations with women without objectifying them. Its changed alot of my bad perspectives of mind I had while I was in the addiction. Its definitely worth it to remain sober.