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I Don't Know What To Do

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Toddarat, Oct 19, 2017.

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  1. Oct 19, 2017 #1
    Toddarat

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    I have masturbated for 7 years using the prone position. Im 18 now so I have done it since about 11. I would always masturbate by rubbing against the floor to cum which obviously has way more pressure than using your hand. I only just learned this is really bad for you and causes damage so I have decided to quit. I realize this is causing problems with sex because I'm having trouble getting completely hard and so I'm having trouble penetrating any girls I try to have sex with. In the rare cases where I can actually get hard enough to actually have sex it feels like I'm fucking a cloud because I'm so used to the pressure I get from masturbating in the prone position that I feel nothing during sex which also makes it impossible to orgasm. This is causing me to have a lot of anxiety and I don't even bother trying to get with girls any more because I'm scared I'm going to embarrass myself. I really just want this to end and be able to confidently have sex with a girl and enjoy it. I'm quitting masturbating in the prone position and I also decided I'm done watching porn for good but I don't know if this is enough. I'm willing to start masturbating using just my hand from now on but I'm not sure if it would be better for me to just quit masturbating all together for 3 months. Or maybe for my case I would only need 1 month? 3 months just seems so difficult. I'm hoping some people on this site can help me and give some opinions or maybe if they have a similar story to mine to share it.
     
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  2. Oct 19, 2017 #2
    Sozboss92

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    It sounds like your brain is accustomed to a set of stimuli. From what I understand, most sexual stimulation is controlled by the brain. Very little has to do with your phisical body or phisical and visual stimulation. Therefore, if your brain is accustomed to a type of stimuli to get off, that's what it will look for. This will take your brain re-wiring itself to accept other stimuli to climax. Yes, you should try quitting masterbation all together. THIS IS NOT EASY! But your brain needs a break, A LONG ONE, to get back to some semblance of normality. Often, just going without an O for a long period of time makes getting off much easier with less stimulation. I would recommend getting to the 30 day mark to try with girls again. Just remember, you're not retarded or handicapped. You're not deficient. You just have a problem with your lifestyle that needs to be changed. Good luck! And stick with it!
     
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  3. Oct 19, 2017 #3
    MLMVSS

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    I recommend you should try to quit PMO altogether for at least a few months to give your brain time to recalibrate. If you find the urges too difficult at the beginning, then do a gradual winding down with just your hand, but if you go that route then widen the time gap every time so progress is made, even if it's slow.
     
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  4. Oct 20, 2017 #4
    Toddarat

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    Thank you! I'm going to try to go the full 90 days without PMO! After those 90 days though do you think it would be acceptable to masturbate as long as it's not often and I only use my hand?
     
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  5. Oct 20, 2017 #5
    Toddarat

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    I think I'm going to try to do that and give myself 90 days without PMO to reset my brain. However, I don't want to give up masturbation forever. Do you think after the 90 days of no PMO that I could start to masturbate again if I do it only every so often and only use my hand instead of the prone position?
     
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  6. Oct 20, 2017 #6
    MLMVSS

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    You could, but don't make it a daily habit, and don't use it to cope with stress or other negatives, else it had the potential to be a slippery slope.
     
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  7. Oct 20, 2017 #7
    Toddarat

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    Thank you! I'm going to give the 90 days a go and hopefully it helps me
     
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