I don't know what to do

Hey Mate, My heart goes out to you, being human can be really hard. when depression and anxiety come into my consciousness I think it helps to remember that it will past like everything else in this life. Meditation is great, it can really change your life so subtlety though if you stick to it but it takes time and commitment (if you are drawn to meditation you should look up out Ram Dass, he is a awesome teacher and he covered lots of topics like depression and just the stuff of life). I can only speak for what has been helping me in my life but along side meditation- The Wim Hof method has been helping me greatly recently, I would recommend to look into it if you haven't heard of it. Or don't but all the best with your life and your journey becoming Porn free.

 

Hey brother,

I am all too familiar with your experiences. I have been dealing with anxiety for almost half my life now. Personally for me it got so bad, that I couldn't even walk out my house and I would avoid interactions like if they had the Corona Virus. I felt so ashamed by my anxiety, so what would I resort to? Of course hours and hours of porn and MO, which at the moment would feel like it was the only thing that could alleviate the same and anxiety. Personally for me, I couldn't bear the medication. Anti-anxiety medication did far worst for me than anything. My anxiety + physical dependence was something that haunted me for a very long long time.

I have been there where the world around me felt like imploding and I felt more alone and alone. I have gotten much better from before and I can truly tell you that it will get better for you too. I still get anxiety don't get me wrong, but it was surprising that everything always worked out. Nofap really helped me educate myself on what was going in my head and I read so many success stories of people going through anxiety, depression, and other horrible things and how they are in a better place in their life. By no means i don't think nofap is the one cure for all, but it definitely helped me to improve myself which was like snowball effect, and one day I just felt much better.

If you have never read this book "the power of now" I recommend reading this. It saved my life. I read this during my darkest time without even knowing what it was about after a recommendation I received from this forum. You realize that your thoughts are not the actual you, and it teaches you how to silence the noise in your head. I became more aware and helped me to stay focused in bettering my life.

There are millions like us that go through this and our generation with high speed internet and high speed porn were not ready for how it would destroy many of us. Don't give up and start somewhere. Start with meditation, then implement exercise, cold showers, eliminate bad lifestyle choices (high sugar, drugs, hours of binging on the internet), and get more comfortable putting yourself in uncomfortable situations like cold showers.

Hope that you can get through this! There will always be better days brother.

 

@getbetter73 tranquilo, hermano, te comprendemos y desde aquí te mando un saludo y buenas vibras para tu vida. Ánimo soldado

 

I have once gone thru a streak of 9 days without fapping and after that I fapped everyday. I can fap up to 5 times a day. After that, it leads me to a realization where I really need to control myself and reduce fapping. Therefore, now I have forced myself to look into this seriously by participating the #NoFap challenge. I designed my own challenge which runs from 13th May until 31st May, a total of 19 days and today is already 18th May which means I am on my Day 6 without fapping. I will equal my own personal best record in 3 days and beat my best record in 4 days. To be honest, the past 5 days had been a hell for me because a porn and masturbate addict like me couldn't fap and jerk off. I felt so insecure for the few first days but thank God I have slowly adapted to it and here I am at Day 6. The urge is still strong though but I always tell myself to hold it because if I don't help myself, no one is gonna help me. I still watch porn, but I just manage to control myself from ejaculation. To reduce my urge, I always find some other things to do, like push up, read a book, watch YouTube videos/Netflix etc to keep myself occupied.

I still do not know whether I can hold on until the 31st May but I am sure I can beat my own personal record (9 days) this time. It's very difficult, to be honest, but you have to make sure your will is much stronger than your lust. If you find it really difficult, start with small steps, then gradually increase the challenges. I am sure you can do it!

 

For a pmo addict like us, watching even porn without coming to ejaculation is very counter productive. You are just torturing yourself. You won't be able to reap the benefits as you would if you were to do nofap on hard mode.

My advice to you brother is stop watching porn once and for all, you don't need it. Don't let it have control over you. Being addicted to anything can cause hindrance in every aspect of our life, and the addiction to porn my friend is probably the worst of its kind.

 

Thanks bro. I will.

 

You have a lot of mental and physical issues so, have you already worked on this with a professional? Maybe something is bothering you at a deeper level which has to do with your past. I'd start there if you haven't already.
When we're hurt deep inside, this may surface as physical and mental issues. Healing these old pains releases tension, anxiety and reduces addictions, compulsive behavior etc in my experience.

 

I was extremely anxious and depressed juste like you.

I was able to overcome my anxiety and depression through meditation. I practiced 1 hour a day for 3 weeks and I was healed.

 

Okay, that is a real problem. Maybe you can see where stopping PMO gets you.
I suggest this video:

This slide reminds me of your post.

The answer to all of these issues is:
Withdraw from porn, get clean and you'll end your OCD, ADHD, Social Anxiety and feel like reborn!

This is the website where you can find more info. https://****religious content****.o...ary-wilsons-porn-fighting-ba-website-working/

Hope this helps.
LoveIsAllWeNeed

Ps I don't know where the ****religious content**** notification comes from. The site (fight the new drug[dot]org) is about scientific research and facts, so no religion at all.

 

Check my profile. You might find it. The costs are your time with an email account.

 

you are lucky to be free tho; me i still live with my mom , because i have no one else to live with; and they oblige me to get medicated even tho i dont want to . they just dont respect me at all. but its either keep living with mom, or go live outdoors as a homeless ; and i dont want cuz life as a homeless sucks so much