I dont like my cuckold fetish

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by polishguy1993, May 18, 2021.

  1. polishguy1993

    polishguy1993 Fapstronaut

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    i hate myself for that, but this stronger than me. I dont know what else is to say. I just want talk to someone. Becouse of that i never wanted naked picture of my girlfriend. I dont trust myself i know that with that fetish i might do something stupid.

    Sorry for my bad english.
     
  2. Starshower

    Starshower Fapstronaut

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    Here if you need to chat man.
     
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  3. Been there done that.
    It’s the imagined attention and validation that gets us off on cuckold thoughts.

    I even shared faceless pictures of my girl (or bodyless face pictures, never combined it) on specific kink websites, but I manned the fuck up and told her.
    I was at rock bottom, I had been struggling with my terminally ill parents and then I lost my job and just crashed emotionally, trying to escape by indulging in anything that would make me feel something else than anxiety and stress.

    Showing her off was some kind of fuel that made me feel like I atleast had something others didn’t have.

    Three years later and she’s still with me, and my behavior is long gone.

    Im here if you need guidance or if I can help you in any way.
    You’re not alone struggling with these thoughts.
     
  4. Freedom_from_PMO

    Freedom_from_PMO Fapstronaut

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    Hello countryman!

    Is this a porn induced fetish? I'll guess it is. It takes time and effort to find strength to deal with them, but this is possible
     
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  5. recoome

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    I had those urges but not now. Now there's only shame n regret.
     
  6. recoome

    recoome Fapstronaut

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    How did you deal with the regret :(
     
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  7. polishguy1993

    polishguy1993 Fapstronaut

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    Będę pisał po polsku, lepiej mi wtedy ubierać myśli w słowa. Prawdopodobnie porno to spowodowało, ale najgorsze jest to, że ja jestem dość nerwowym człowiekiem i nie potrafię reagować poprawnie na stres. Za każdym razem jak wracam z pracy zestresowany, to mam myśli, aby w ten sposób się odstresować
     
  8. Freedom_from_PMO

    Freedom_from_PMO Fapstronaut

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    To uzależnienie jest dużo trudniejsze do kontroli jeżeli masz jakieś inne problemy. Mi było najciężej jak przechodziłem przez depresję. Trudno mi udzielić konkretnej porady jak to zrobić, każdy jest inny, ale trzeba znaleźć zdrowszy sposób radzenia sobie ze stresem. Fetysze spowodowane przez poro przechodzą jak odetnie się ich źródło - pornografię. Sam przez to przechodziłem. Trzeba robić nofap, czekać na efekty i dbać o swój styl życia. Jak chcesz możemy pisać na priv.
     
  9. |Hanuman|

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    Hey pal. Understand the origin of this fetish. Is it a porn induced fetish ? Or you had some incidents ?
    If it is porn induced then let go off porn. Once you let go porn then it is very easy.
     
  10. silentmike

    silentmike Fapstronaut

    Have you talked with your girlfriend about this problem? You are right that it might get worse, but it will get worse only to the point when you will decide to stop it, to the point when you will say its enough and will find a power and strength to truly hate P. - then you will start a true healing process. Once you get scared of what P. can do with your life you should only get better. Try visualizing P. as a demon which is feeding you with all this nasty shit, it does not look as such - but your eyes are closed so you don't know what you are eating. Open you eyes - you subconsciousness eyes.
     
  11. TimeToQuitNow

    TimeToQuitNow Fapstronaut

    Do you want to be the cuck or do you want to cuck others?
     
  12. dominikosx_1987

    dominikosx_1987 Fapstronaut

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    Zachęcam do odstawienie pornografii i masturbacji. Fetysze same znikną.

    Powodzenia!

    Dasz radę :)
     
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  13. PeterGrip

    PeterGrip Fapstronaut

    I remember someone posting about that a good while back on here. Maybe that was you? Regardless, I am so glad you told her and things are good, well done!
     
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  14. Thank you so much! :)

    Telling her was the only option, because I felt she needed to know about it, and also because that was the only way for me to really help myself move on and be “justified” by the only one involved - her.

    things are great today, the shame lingers but it gets better.
    Seeing comments like yours, really makes me feel happy for being able to quit! :)
     
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  15. phwrancesco

    phwrancesco Fapstronaut

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    It's a good start at least. If you really want to get rid of this, i'm sure you'll be able t find a way.
     
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  16. IrenefWZMitchell

    IrenefWZMitchell New Fapstronaut

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    How did you deal with this?
     
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  17. Good question.
    I also struggle with desires to be a cuck. In my case, it stems in part from having been a cuckold in several ways. For example:
    In college I had a big crush on a girl and told my roommate. He ended up dating her and then I had to suffer months of her spending the night in our room and them having sex! :(
    This actually happened twice. The other time my friend and roommate said he was trying to help me, to show me how easy it is to get with girls by him having sex with my crush!

    How do I deal with it? To be honest, it's still a struggle. Cuckold fantasies are like kryptonite to me. But I think it helps to look at the past and really look at what events happened that triggered this particular fetish.
     
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  18. Starshower

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    Wow, I'm so sorry you had to go through that. Your roommate was such an asshole.
     
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  19. TimeToQuitNow

    TimeToQuitNow Fapstronaut

    It looks like your brain turned your pain into pleasure. It must have been somewhat traumatic to go through this. I am sorry to hear that.
     
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