I don't understand how to stop sexual thoughts

Me too.try a nofap november period.

 

I read in a book a while ago that it is extremely hard if not impossible to push certain thoughts out of your head due to something called "the boomerang effect",
you will have to shift you focus & thoughts gradually with questions.
example:
Sexual thought : I want to do this or that to that hot girl.
Possible route to shift your focus : Will i be able to satisfy her? if i were in here place would i want to be with me? if the answer is no ? what are the things i need to work on to be worthy of the love of a beautiful partner? ........
you can proceed to fantasize about your future successful self (his habits, values and accomplishments)

 

Awareness and practice realize you are not your thoughts the brain trys to identify anything and everything and the ego needs this identification to survive a book I'm rereading is the power of now by Eckhart tolle

 

You can't stop having sexual thoughts. At least most people can't. What you can do is train yourself not to let them evolve into full on sexual fantasies that may lead to PMO.

 

Practice Zen

 

Sexual thoughts will not go away instantly your brain will need time to heal itself try to develop new hobbies or interest. When I first started out Nofap the urges and thoughts keep coming back but I kept trying now I am able to control it and not think about. The process will need time tho.

Method I use
- understand why porn is bad for you
- cold showers
- install porn blockers
- trying something new maybe you like it
- limit yourself from the internet
- Drinking plenty of water ( too busy peeing )
- workout
- watch movies or play games ( skip the sex scene )

These are the method I use that help for now.

 

And when you stop trying...the thoughts disappear.

These are the lovely brain tricks, to get you back to PMO. I know it triggers, but try not to pay attention to them and continue your NoFap, overtime they will bother you less and less.
You can also do stuff to keep your brain busy, chess online for exemple.

 

Ending sexual thought is no more difficult than stopping thoughts in general. There is practice for that. I'm sure at some point you were doing some creative activity you really enjoy and you totally became absorbed in only that moment. That state of mind can be achieved anywhere at any time, but it takes tremendous practice.

The first step is to become mindful. Mindfulness is not a full mind; mindfulness is an acute act of observing surface thoughts. It is important to not judge these surface thoughts; when you judge them, it makes it harder to let them go. Acknowledge their existence and accept them as they are.

The more you become aware of your surface thoughts, the easier it becomes to manipulate them. One manipulation trick is called "visualization" and it's just what it sounds like.

Here's one of my favorite visualizations:
-Place your surface thoughts into a balloon. What color is it? How long is the string? What is the string made of?
-Take the balloons outside. What is the weather like?
-Let the balloons go.
-Watch them float away into the sky and out of vision.

There are endless articles on the idea of letting go of thought.

 

Same here, I imagine my dream girl then blam sexual thought,I tried everything how minimum your sex thought?

 

Must distract your self

 

Its not that hard just realise you have sexual thoughts (wich you allready did) its the hardest part and then go and do something that ask for full atention like reading a book or doing something else start working out.

 

Yeah.

 

well NoFap isn't about just jurking off but doing something with you're life if you are happy and have a hobby goal then sex doesn't matter

 

Well if you talk more,DM me

 

hey guys i want to suggest listening to this ** and try to deeply feel it ..urges will go right away

 

Music helps (Well me anyway)

Or even an audiobook, While they won't stop completely over time you will learn to brush them off easier.

 

What if you are a programmer who uses the internet frequently?

 

Dude what you have to do, if you want to build a reboot is to control yourself. Thinking is an out of control, chaotic mess for every man. It helps to not look at P, but still you will have thoughts. Control yourself.

 

I struggled with this, and I still do. It's borderline impossible to cease having thoughts of something, especially when it's an issue you face. When I first heard that advice, I immediately thought "Ha, yeah, ain't happening." And you're probably expecting at this point in writing that I discovered some amazing super secret trick to never think about those topics again. I didn't. What I did do, however, I believe to be a good option and suggest trying it out.

One of the deepest issues I face while ceasing PMO is the intense loneliness I feel at times. This has often been the tripwire that leads to fantasy, which your brain may try to pass off as harmless since it isn't actual physical use, and then to other unpleasantries. A great trick I've learned from multiple books on neuroscience, addiction, and OCD, is that these thoughts will happen regardless of whether we want them or not, but you have the capability to decide what to do with them. Say for example, I tell you to not think about a golden retriever puppy. You just thought of one, didn't you? That's how our brain works. The more we tell ourselves "Don't think of this," the more our brain thinks of it. So when those thoughts intrude, let them pass. It'll play out for a few moments, and try to think to yourself "I'll get back to that in ten minutes." Then refocus to something else that'll require your attention. I likely sound like a broken record - but what I did often was read or listen to audiobooks on a topic I either needed to study or something I was vaguely interested in (OCD and neuroscience are a favorite of mine, but I also love gunsmithing books.) You can do anything like a hobby, exercise (walks are great,) perhaps even listening to music. By the time ten minutes have passed, you likely won't even remember it - and if you do, pass it on. After all, you're busy doing something else.

The goal isn't to constantly rack yourself with "I can't think about this." Or "I can't do that." Think about what you can do. If a thought intrudes, switch it from "I can't think about this" to "I think I can go for a walk," or "I'd like to start the next chapter of my book," or in some instances I had "I'd like to go for a personal record on this mission in this game." I don't highly advise swapping one unhealthy past time for another like endless gaming binges, but sometimes a good session of Division was enough for me to get some energy out and have some fun. Especially if I had a few chapters of my books to listen to. (I'd still pause / find cover and take notes in my notebook, however.)

These thoughts will decrease in frequency as you do this, and eventually, you'll treat them like an annoying bird squawking outside your window. It'll fly around and sit on its perch every so often, but eventually you'll learn to ignore it and move on with your day unhindered. Trying to shoo it away will just make it angry, and it'll stay longer just to spite you.

The book I gained this knowledge from is "Brain Lock", I highly advise looking into it if you find this struggle is absolutely immense. YBOP also has some good articles relating to it. I'm not a professional in any of these fields, I can only share what I've found to work for me and this was quite a problem I'd experience, and don't get me wrong, I still deal with it. But these strategies have made something I thought 'impossible' to combat into something I can gain control over.

Hope this helps!