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I failed?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by joarev85, Aug 25, 2017.

  1. Aug 25, 2017 #1
    joarev85

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    I might have relapsed. Hm. Was at my iPad and the TV was on. Suddenly i heard breathing and then there was sex at the screen. I didnt realise it and when i discovered what it was i quickly switched it. But then i felt for going back just to see If it was gone, but i wasn't. It's like i almost wanted to let it be there though i hoped mostly that it was gone. I turned it quickly to another programme. Stupid shit. Well i did not m and o to it. But i felt it in my head, like stress and Dopamine and the feeling like i failed.
     
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  2. Aug 25, 2017 #2
    Cafax Xafac

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    Listen bud just dont worry that was not a relapse.
     
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  3. Aug 25, 2017 #3
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  4. Aug 25, 2017 #4
    sparkywantsnoPMO

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    So the first event definitely seems to not be your fault and you did the right thing.

    The second thing would be contextual. Let’s say you were watching a movie that’s mostly fine but has one sex scene in it (we’ll use Matrix: Reloaded in this example). That scene popped up. You turn away. You know it will be over eventually, so you turn back. Not far enough. Turn away again. This is 100% fine. You are doing the right thing and controlling your behaviors. Rock on!

    Let’s say instead the movie that started had a recurring sexual theme and you knew that was the case. Apply the same thing you did, ultimately staying away. This isn’t as good as the above case, but you’re still struggling and fighting temptations and still choosing wisely.

    Up to you if it really warrants a clock reset. Was there a small dopamine surge? Maybe, but this is as much about behavior modification as it is chemical levels.
     
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  5. Aug 26, 2017 #5
    joarev85

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    Thanks for very good support sparkywantsnoPMO! I actually reseted my Day-counter because of the incident which is always a depressing. But with this quality information it seems that i am fine again. I use to sleep not so good when this stuff happens and wait for the support from you.
     
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  6. Aug 26, 2017 #6
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  7. Aug 26, 2017 #7
    joarev85

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    thank you for very good support. What defines a relapse for you.? I will sleep better now. I chose to reset my counter which is depressing.
     
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  8. Aug 26, 2017 #8
    Happy Man

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    If a situation like that happens again and your able to resist all the time. Your on your way to a PMO free life style. Thing like that pop up all the time.

    MY journey so far in the last 180 days:

    1. I was watching a pick up product on youtube and sex noise came up. I have a hard erection. As soon as I spotted what happened, I turned of my internet.

    2. Was on a train and a women bent down and you can see her breast. No bra at all. I realised what happen and I got up and walked and sat some where else.

    3. Was at a cinema and watched a movie called Atomic Blonde. When the nude or sex scenes came up, I covered my eyes like a todler. Lucky no sex noise, if so I would have to walk out for 5 minutes before re watching the movie again. I didn't know main actress was going to be nude or do these sex scenes.

    4. Was watching tv and switching channels, sex scene came up. I switched channels again.

    If these things come up again, which they always do, I would do the same thing again. I would just smile and change channels or walk away. I will never let these thing effect me for the rest of my life. It screwed me over once, it will never screw me over again. If porn was a person, I punch him or her in the face, that's an other story.

    I was extremely angry with the sex noise. Nothing in the world can temp me now apart from a real woman. I'm never going back to that life style again.

    If you have the ablity to walk away or change channels. The world is your oyster.
     
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  9. Sep 1, 2017 #9
    Happy Man

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    edited: sorry posted on wrong thread. My bad
     
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