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I feel like interest in cuckoldry is a common trend among PMO addicts

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by superstorm250, Aug 25, 2019.

  1. superstorm250

    superstorm250 Fapstronaut

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    I really believe that we're seeing more and more guys on here say they struggle with that, and I'm one of them too. Once you get exposed to porn at a young age (for me it was 12), your sexual responses can get wired to porn and not as much to real life girls, and when some guys have gone to bed with a girl after this prolonged exposure, they've found that they had trouble performing and finishing too. This is when the cuckold thing can become so appealing, because you're so used to watching other people have sex and masturbating to it instead of being an active participant with a partner. Some have even gone through with it and asked the girls that they've been dating and having trouble with in bed to do it. All of this except asking a girl to do it has happened to me, I've had a few cuckold fantasies after realizing that I was having performance issues as a result of PMO addiction. But the bright side is that I feel like interest in this decreases the longer you abstain from PMO and can go away altogether if you successfully kick your habit. It is pretty a pretty alarming trend though, because I feel like a lot of cuck relationships aren't sustainable in the long run.
     
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  2. This phenomenon is not only caused by poor performance due to porn induced erectile disorders, but also by the idea that sex is about performance. Porn shows us sexual intercourse without love, without affection, but with fake face expressions, gestures and belief that sex is like racing or fighting, that sex is about performance. But it is not. Sex have an important role in relationship as way to maintain bond, spend time together and chance to care for each other. Most characters in porn are passionate about fucking strangers, but in real life most women don't feel comfortable with that. They want relationship with responsible, strong man and they want to make sex part of their life together. Some cuckold-fantasy-lovers think that they will solve problem by cuckolding. They want to think that their hypothetical or real-life women will be pleasured and happy about that. Well, it usually does not work like that.
     
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  3. ultrafabber

    ultrafabber Fapstronaut

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    Watching porn is literally cuckold training. You pick a woman you are interested in and watch her get f by another man while you sit in the same room, next to them (perspective wise), masturbating.
     
  4. Leandro158

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    I am having the same problem, I guarantee that moving away from the pmo eliminates the fantasies, I have a sexually active life with my girlfriend, but the fantasies come out when I get stressed or depressed ...
    today it is because I had a cuckold erotic dream, that after doubts about sexuality, we need to stay strong to combat addiction.
     
  5. superstorm250

    superstorm250 Fapstronaut

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    Exactly, and porn (especially cuck porn) leads you to believe that its all about performance and that you will never be able to live up to the level of performance that you see in these videos. It also makes you think that performance is the most important thing to girls as well, and that most of them want a cuck relationship because they'll get the performance that they want and a guilt free pass to have sex with whoever they want because their boyfriend is cool with it. But I'm finding that couldn't be any further from the truth and what you said being what's actually truthful. I have read some stories where guys who were interested in this asked their girlfriends and they were either appalled or disgusted by the idea, and it probably makes them think that you don't care that much about her and have lost interest in having sex with her if you're actually pushing her to sleep with other guys while you just sit there and masturbate. I feel like more often than not, you send your relationship down a path of destruction if you choose to go down this road.
     
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  6. superstorm250

    superstorm250 Fapstronaut

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    I think it does too because I definitely feel way less interested in cuckoldry the longer I can manage to stay away from PMO, this means that it is an artificial porn-created fantasy due to our over exposure to pornography, that's why the fantasies go away when you stop exposing yourself to that kind of material. Yes we can't let our guard down and keep going no matter how hard it gets if we want to kick this addiction. And whatever you do, don't try to get your girlfriend into this because it will probably cause irreversible damage to your relationship. Others have said that once you give this cuckold thing a try, you can't put that genie back in the bottle. Your relationship will likely never be the same after doing that, and you might even run the risk of losing her to the other guy. It could start out with the two of them meeting up to have sex without you there and them not telling you they did that, and also them spending time together outside the bedroom and developing an emotional connection. And then bam, she dumps you for him. I think that probably can happen and has happened, so avoid bringing this into your real life at all costs. Some real life cucks have actually said that just being into cuck porn isn't enough of a reason to try it in real life, they said its an entirely different experience in real life and there's a very real chance that you'll come to regret it.
     
  7. ultrafabber

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    You lose the relationship as soon as you even suggest it, any woman will lose respect for her man if he even entertains the idea of cuckoldry.

    When a woman loses respect for you, the attraction is gone.

    But even that aside, you will never be happy with a cuckold situation, its the most degrading thing that could happen to a man.

    I'd dump any woman i was with if she even suggested bringing in another man for a threesome. MMF is cuckoldry lite.
     
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  8. Wow, I never saw it like that, but it makes perfect sense. When I was in the last weeks of watching porn, I found a video of my preferred actress where she was having sex and her boyfriend was watching her doing it. He even "cleaned" everything up after the intercourse. It was all fake, they were all pro actors.
    But I felt a very strange emotion of being humiliated myself, hurt, but somehow excited of being badly treated.
    It was one of the first moments where I realized that I am getting destroyed by porn and that my sexual interests are getting worse.
    Maybe it was also because of that, why I eventually decided to stop.
     

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