I feel lost forever

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Denzel889, Nov 14, 2019.

  1. Denzel889

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    I feel so lost.. I pmoed for most of my life starting since age 14 and continuing doing it for a decade. I have never had a girlfriend I regret every second of what I have done. I feel like I am lost forever and I feel that I threw away the best years of my life (16-24). I feel like there is no more hope for me for a better life. I feel like the worst thing ever all because of pmo and lonileness that lasted for years and years. I feel like I should have had at least one girlfriend by now. But it's all f*cked up now and I can't do anything about it.
     
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  2. w95chris

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    Okay then why are you here then? If you cannot do anything about it then why spend time writing about it?

    You are here because you believe that there is still hope for everything to be fixed and there is a way to fix them. Just pick up the pieces and start over again. it doesn't matter how old you are because you have still time to fix your life. The thing is though that this world is filled with expectations. You are expected for example to be married by 25 have your own stable job and children on the way. But things have changed a lot. Each of us lives his life on his own terms and so should you. Pick up your pieces and start building your life to a better one. It is never to late to try
     
  3. Bragi

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    Guys, you gotta stop crying about not having a girlfriend. I've never had one. SO WHAT? Does fact that you have a GF makes you supreme? NO! Just live! We all have a mission in life and we have to stick to good things so God can guide us there.
    So stop negativity a.k.a PMO and crying. Start smiling and enjoying things. Stop looking at couples in the way a lots of lonely dudes do. Just look at yourself in a mirror and give yourself a promise to become better at some thing/-s and that's it. Kick ass. Do it!
     
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  4. WanderTruth

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    okay i am teribbly bad at writing. but i think you should check some videos on youtube. the school of life is a good channel. they have some pretty good arguments about it. i hope you feels better! remember "this too shall pass". everything is impermanent.
     
  5. Denzel889

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    I don't expect to be married by 25 but I expect to have a girlfriend but yes and thank you you're right.. Society demonized 30
     
  6. w95chris

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    Trust me if you've had a girlfriend now you'd me even more miserable. If you can't be happy on your own then you lost the game. Don't expect someone else to make you happy just because they "need to". In a relationship the person you're with reflects yourself. It is like looking in the mirror. If you are happy with your life and you know what you want, then that's going to be a reflection of your life as this.
    Now don't make it such a big deal. Be happy as you are and don't expect to be in a relationship in order to be happy. It is a mistake and it's not worth making that mistake. You might be happy once in a relationship but only temporary. After some time you will experience the same things again
     
  7. w95chris

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    Yes! Finally someone who understands what life is about! It's okay to feel lonely sometimes -we all do- but if you continue to feel bad about it then things are not looking good. Enjoy life on your own and trust me everything else that comes to you will make you happier
     
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  8. Denzel889

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    Easy for you to say you're just 19
     
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    I don't know
     
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    You're all saying that but I think that's just some bullshit reasons to give me to feel. Better instead of telling me in the face that I fucked it up
     
  11. w95chris

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    I'm not 19 what made you think that?
     
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    If you had a girlfriend then there would be a post saying: "I'm not happy my relationship what do I do?".
    So you fucked up because you don't have a girlfriend? That makes 0 sense you know. Continue in building your life in the direction of making you happy. Be happy with what you have.
    In that way you will find going in the direction of a better and happier life day by day
     
  13. Dagger323

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    I was in the same frame of mind as you for the past several years, wallowing in my own self-pity. And you know what? It gets you absolutely nowhere. I would be willing to bet I’ve been PMOing longer than you and I started younger than almost anyone else I’ve encountered on these forums. Your comments almost serve as a surrender, a decree of resignation from your future. Do you realize that if everyone held your perspective, practically no one would be here at all?

    I’ve been fapping to porn/erotica for nearly 17 years. I’ve never had a real girlfriend. I dropped out my senior year of high school and never finished. I’ve lost the majority of those who I used to call my friends. I live at home and have no car, no job, and as of now I still haven’t continued my education. I’ve been/I am what you would call a grade-A loser. And you know what? I’m here despite all of that. Every time I fail I pick myself up and try again. And I don’t make harsh demands of myself or over-expect. I made that mistake far too many times and it in part cost me most of my late teenage years as well as my early 20s, along with being addicted to fapping.

    But I also don’t give up and let myself fall down a rabbit hole of self-pity. That can and will destroy you if you let it. The time has come for you to be a man and rise up from this. Give up the PMO, pick yourself up, and instead of telling yourself repeatedly that you’ve fucked up, tell yourself that it doesn’t matter, because now you’re going to make it up to yourself.

    You’re going to build a stronger better you that is worthy of the things you want out of life. The new you will be deserving of having a girlfriend and will find one because the new you will have found contentment and fulfillment in your own life first and foremost, and can therefore share it with another person you care about. The new you will find successes in many ventures and be deserving of them because the new you will have put forth so much effort into building the new foundation upon which your entire future is laid.

    So stop the tears and self-pity, and start picking up the pieces and putting together your future. There is no better time than now, and there is no better one than you.
     
  14. Denzel889

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    I didn't mean you when I said that look at the text carefully..
     
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    Thank you and BTW I had a very bad day but now I am more calmer and I realized I can rebuild myself again and succeed. And NOT ONLY ME BUT ALL OF US..
     
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  16. toms_feelings

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    i agree one hundred percent. how can you be happy with someone if you cant be with yourself? that's why i almost never regret that i am not in relationship. because i know if i don't fix my life what can i expect from it? such relationship will be sentenced to fail. but you can't exaggerate with it waiting forever with expectation that everyone will be perfect because life isn't ideal like that. from my perspective, where i am now i am glad that i didn't get in relationship because wasn't adapted for that. i see it with time.
     

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