i feel so guilty

For your mental well-being, you need to stop this. A simple rule that used to get mentioned a lot, but I haven't seen for a while is: don't touch your dick, unless you are washing or peeing. If you follow that strictly, it will prevent you feeling bad.

 

I don't think masturbating is anything to feel guilty about to be honest. Don't set yourself up for that kind of condemnation. Find a way to recover that doesn't involved being so hard on yourself.

 

Focus on how far you've gone, not on a miniscule slip-up that is not going to hurt your brain - long term. You've established a long term pattern of behaviour in the last 100 or so days. Your brain likes patterns of behaviour and is very good at ignoring the occasional anomaly. The only thing your "guilty" of is being human and imperfect.

 

I understand. Try to just let it be there in your head. Accept it for what it is completely. You'll find peace in doing so and gain strength to move on. Just focus on today. Sometimes guilt is trying to tell us something, so it can be useful in that aspect, but other times we are just creating it with irrational beliefs. Take some time to think about what it is you're really trying to do here, and what you think you need to do in order to live a more wholesome and rewarding life. Hope that helps.

 

I wouldn't reset if I was you, focus on how good you've done so far, this isn't a setback you've just learned another way of doing it wrong which you will learn from, just because you M'd for a minute or 2 doesn't mean anything think about all the extra hours you've gained since you've started your journey, keep up the good work brother!

 

we are all humans and mistakes are part of life. Don't be so hard on yourself that you messed up one time. Let's face it 98 days is an amazing track record in mind the longest days were 21. If you keep beating yourself up you will get depressed and you will not like yourself. Instead find the root cause of the problem. For example are you lonely, are you depressed, are you carrying a lot of negative anchors with you? Once you figure out why you get triggered work on the trigger. Assess it, break it down, and let it know that you are no longer that person who you used to be. You are an amazing human being, very smart and powerful.
Look at it this way, they are so many porn viewers in the world. Thanks to the Internet things are a lot easier now to watch porn. But only if you take steps to stop their negative habit. So we are the few who are going through the rough times are changing ourselves to become better and it's a tough road with challenges and setbacks. But I can guarantee you that once you do this you'll be much better off at the end.
Good luck with everything and may the force be with you.

 

I think one thing you can do right now to stop focusing on the goal. You'll get there through your journey.

I travel a lot for pleasure in the last place I went to was Africa. If I have to think about all the details Dell is involved and how might you get to Africa it would've overwhelmed me. For example will I make it to the airport on time? Will the plane lands safely? Will I oversleep and miss my flight? And the list goes on and on.

What you're doing my man is your taking the entire project into one swoop and your overwhelming yourself. 100 days is a long time that's over three months. There is no guarantee that you will live tomorrow if you're going somewhere tonight and something happens to you. There is no guarantee that your heart is good to keep functioning for the next hundred days. What I'm trying to say is take it one day at a time and you only have right now. One day at a time will help you a lot and get out of the house and get yourself busy with social people see don't spend too much time thinking about you know what.

Good luck with everything and I know you can do it.

 

We'll, there isn't really a standard time frame. But for me, I know that if I keep going and improving, and changing my behaviors, the guilt subsides. Remember this: we gain self-esteem by doing esteemable things.

As you begin to see yourself doing good, constructive things in the world, you will see that you're not such a bad person. You can't think your way out of it. Make sense?

 

What do you think about when you feel guilty or depressed? What crosses your mind?

 

What about mistreating for a minute makes you feel guilty? Is it because you think it is evil? Is it because you feel like you're letting somebody down? Is it because you feel like you're failing the "nofap challenge"?

1. Masterbating isn't evil. It is quite natural/normal.
2. You're not letting anybody down, and you shouldn't be so hard on yourself.
3. This isn't just about who can get the most days without masturbating. I still master bate sometimes. I just can't watch porn. If I were mistreating 10 times a day, that would be a different story.

What makes you feel guilty? What you're doing isn't evil, it's not illegal, and you're not letting anybody down but yourself, because perhaps you have too high expectations for yourself.

Make sense?

 

Perhaps it goes deeper than this then. Some sort of anxiety or other obsessions. I'm not a doctor, so I can't say exactly. But it may be worth talking to somebody you trust about it. You don't have to go through this alone. Just try to calm down and do something that relaxes you.