I feel worse then I did before Nofap. Is Nofap for me?

[Kai101]

I started nofap back in December 2017. I remember before I found out about nofap, I'd take a couple days off or skip a day of fapping, and I'd feel amazing. My life WAS amazing before nofap. Even though I was watching porn, I loved life. I had so much motivation. I enjoyed everything, and I loved being around people. Now ever since I started nofap, I've been depressed, antisocial, aggressive, and in a bad mood all the time. My life was so much better before nofap. Is nofap for me? I'm considering just going back to fapping once a week. I was fapping multiple times a day, but I would fap that much regardless of if I was watching porn or just fantasizing. I would have no problem back then going back to fantasizing. It felt better too. I know for a fact I have a very high libido. Part of it is genetic, as my dad and his 5 brothers all have extremely high libido. Back when he was my age he said he used to do it every day, just not to porn. I havent been noticing any of the benefits and feel much much worse than before I started. Any advice?

 

[WolfgangAmadeusMozart]

Flatline? Not sure.

 

[Steve Sancteria]

I've been stumbling around Youtube lately and found this video

This dude is like: "Use NoFap to have more and better sex but don't suffer from high streaks"

He sais that setting 1 day per week or 2 weeks as a "fapping day" where you are allowed to fap but with NO PORN and all that pretty much before you go to bed so you dont feel bad for the entire day. This should do quite well, you don't lose too much of the benefits and don't have to suffer from urges, maybe this approach is right for you.

 

[JJackson]

I've been stumbling around Youtube lately and found this video

This dude is like: "Use NoFap to have more and better sex but don't suffer from high streaks"

He sais that setting 1 day per week or 2 weeks as a "fapping day" where you are allowed to fap but with NO PORN and all that pretty much before you go to bed so you dont feel bad for the entire day. This should do quite well, you don't lose too much of the benefits and don't have to suffer from urges, maybe this approach is right for you.

Been there, done that. Imo, its bullshit.

https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/mo-once-a-week.180405/#post-1536303

Better than full pmo sure, but you're still feeding the addiction dopamine.

Struggling through this hard ass withdrawal is how you fix your mind. Its basically throwing a tantrum to get what it wants, you can give in and justify that behavior or you can teach it discipline, same as a spoiled child.

The past 4 weeks have been the most painful ass rollercoaster for me. So much horrible mental shit from extreme depression and anxiety to brain fog lasting for days, extreme feelings of hopelessness almost to the point of suicidal thoughts and more.

Now today I've been having the strongest urges I've ever had in my life, my mind is set on porn and won't give up. I tired to meditate and drifted off into a fantasy for less than 10 SECONDS and almost came in my pants because of how vivid it was. Im honestly typing this just to keep my mind on something but its still not really working.

I went 77 days at the end of last year while letting myself MO and it was NOTHING compared to how horrible this has been. It goes both ways though because I also didn't feel any benefits at all during the 77 but this time I've felt a lot. They even started around day 35-40 and I've had bits and pieces of them throughout all the bullshit though it has been more bad than good.

Anyway you're free to make your own decisions so do what you want but I'd highly recommended against it. Pain is how you make progress. If it was easy this site wouldn't exist.

Good luck and stay strong man!

 

[Steve Sancteria]

Been there, done that. Imo, its bullshit.

https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/mo-once-a-week.180405/#post-1536303

Better than full pmo sure, but you're still feeding the addiction dopamine.

Struggling through this hard ass withdrawal is how you fix your mind. Its basically throwing a tantrum to get what it wants, you can give in and justify that behavior or you can teach it discipline, same as a spoiled child.

The past 4 weeks have been the most painful ass rollercoaster for me. So much horrible mental shit from extreme depression and anxiety to brain fog lasting for days, extreme feelings of hopelessness almost to the point of suicidal thoughts and more.

Now today I've been having the strongest urges I've ever had in my life, my mind is set on porn and won't give up. I tired to meditate and drifted off into a fantasy for less than 10 SECONDS and almost came in my pants because of how vivid it was. Im honestly typing this just to keep my mind on something but its still not really working.

I went 77 days at the end of last year while letting myself MO and it was NOTHING compared to how horrible this has been. It goes both ways though because I also didn't feel any benefits at all during the 77 but this time I've felt a lot. They even started around day 35-40 and I've had bits and pieces of them throughout all the bullshit though it has been more bad than good.

Anyway you're free to make your own decisions so do what you want but I'd highly recommended against it. Pain is how you make progress. If it was easy this site wouldn't exist.

Good luck and stay strong man!

True that, I mean exactly these urges and that willpower needed to push against it is what makes your mind stronger, it's like lifting weights, with no force there is no gain.
The question is if it's necessary for him to go for months with NoFap to meet his goals or cycling like 2 weeks is what he actually needs.

If you only want a new Audi, then there is no need to safe up money for a Lamborghini, right?

If you have problems with anxiety, depression etc. then you need other weapons to deal with that, if NoFap ain't healing it, something else will do.

 

[kropo82]

I started nofap back in December 2017. I remember before I found out about nofap, I'd take a couple days off or skip a day of fapping, and I'd feel amazing. My life WAS amazing before nofap. Even though I was watching porn, I loved life. I had so much motivation. I enjoyed everything, and I loved being around people. Now ever since I started nofap, I've been depressed, antisocial, aggressive, and in a bad mood all the time. My life was so much better before nofap. Is nofap for me? I'm considering just going back to fapping once a week.

I'm sure most people here will disagree with me but my advice is to experiment. What works for me may work for you and may not. You are young, you have time to listen to others and to work out how you want to live your life. I would advise you to stay porn free, it is evil, but if you can go back to moderate fapping and it makes you feel better and does not lead you back into porn use then great, go for it. You may find it works for you and you feel better, you may find it ruins your porn sobriety and you need to stop fapping again. Either way you will have learnt something. Do come back to your journal here (do you keep one?) and let us know how it goes.

 

[Kai101]

I'm sure most people here will disagree with me but my advice is to experiment. What works for me may work for you and may not. You are young, you have time to listen to others and to work out how you want to live your life. I would advise you to stay porn free, it is evil, but if you can go back to moderate fapping and it makes you feel better and does not lead you back into porn use then great, go for it. You may find it works for you and you feel better, you may find it ruins your porn sobriety and you need to stop fapping again. Either way you will have learnt something. Do come back to your journal here (do you keep one?) and let us know how it goes.

I dont keep a journal, but I think I should start one. I'll keep you guys posted. Thanks for all the advice. I'll experiment tonight with just fapping without porn and see how it goes.

 

[Steve Sancteria]

I dont keep a journal, but I think I should start one. I'll keep you guys posted. Thanks for all the advice. I'll experiment tonight with just fapping without porn and see how it goes.

A journal actually caused me to achieve my 1st 1month streak on my journey, it's also very motivating to keep track what has changed, what you might have achieved thanks to NoFap on an emotional way.
Just ignore negative side effects such as flatlines and so on.