I finally found my trigger

Yea occupy yourself with something else even meditation would b great

 

I have a similar trigger! But I believe I have a literal mood disorder, so there's times where I've got tons of energy but other times when I simply don't have it it me no matter what I exercise/eat/experience.

Can I ask.. what were those things you've found that you now do instead of being lazy/bored?

 

since you identified what would trigger you into PMOing I guess the easiest (or hardest depending) would be to prevent that situation from happening

 

Do you have some dreams in mind which you want to reach ?

Maybe you are not lazy --- maybe you are just shy of doing the things you really want to do.

 

Very good.

I have this kind of "lethargy" also, but I know that it is coupled with an underlying fear of doing the things I really want to do.

My underlying thinking is a kind of "I am now allowed to be happy", or: "First help others, then yourself" ... and similar. But I know that this thinking is crap. With this, you reach nothing, you do nothing, and your life is a mess.

 

Yeah man. being bored is a huge trigger for me as well as the mind seeks the next, easiest pleasurable activity!

 

it took me some time to analyse the roots of my addictions and boredom played a big part like fo you. Keep fighting! We are in the same boat. it is very helpful for me using everyday before going to sleep R Tribe, it is a free app where i put my thoughts daily

 

Yes that a good goal.
What exactly means "I want to be my own man" to you?
Do you want to create a product ? Do you want to be on stage ?

 

Is it actually boredom? Do you not know what to do in life?
Or do you have goals, but you are afraid of pursuing them?

 

it really was boredom. i used to avoid thinking about my future, to commit to something (in the sense of work, university) and i would just use sex and porn to take my mind off the failure of my life. my ex best friend asked me years ago "how can you not know what you want to do if uni or work?" he added that his flatmates were shocked to hear i didn't know what to do in my life. not everyone knows to do with their life

since i finished high school i felt lost, without purpose. I hit rock bottom at 25 years old 2 months before starting my reboot on 6th March 2017. i tried to cover the unhappiness i felt with sex, drugs and alcohol. no rock and roll though. i tried to be loved so much. just felt unlovable. then i realized, after being heartbroken and completely devastated with suicidal thoughts this year, i had to love myself and be happy on my own

btw I am fixing that now. I am pursuing my goal. I am getting there. I took the last 6 months to look into my past life in order to find why i became a sex and porn addict. I know that if i knew the reasons behind what i did i could have healed myself for good. I had to rise from my ashes and be born again and that's what i did. I am a new, true and proud me

why did you become a porn addict?

 

It's not shocking at all mate and it's the same for me. I suggest whenever you have the urge get up and do something, anything works. The urge should be gone 5 minutes later. This works because we only really get boners when we sit or lay down.

 

This is so relatable. It happens with me all the time. We will have to stay busy and occupied. We can do this and we will do it.