I finally found my trigger

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by SLINGBLADE247, Jul 29, 2017.

  1. SLINGBLADE247

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    I know this may sound shocking to you but I found my trigger and it's not simply a beautiful woman clothed or nude and definitely not a man. I found that my personal trigger to this whole addiction is the fact that I'm bored or lazy. I get bored a lot or lazy which really goes hand in hand and I end up PMO. I get this way because I feel like I don't have a life outside of work and home much but. I have found some things I can do to make my life better and I have already started doing some of them to help w my lethargy. I still need some help with this though
     
  2. Supermarron

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    Yea occupy yourself with something else even meditation would b great
     
  3. I have a similar trigger! But I believe I have a literal mood disorder, so there's times where I've got tons of energy but other times when I simply don't have it it me no matter what I exercise/eat/experience.

    Can I ask.. what were those things you've found that you now do instead of being lazy/bored?
     
  4. LKT

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    since you identified what would trigger you into PMOing I guess the easiest (or hardest depending) would be to prevent that situation from happening
     
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  5. SLINGBLADE247

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    I will make sure I do and what I'm about to do may make me mad but I know this will benefit me in the long run
     
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    Well learning Spanish, being more social on here and other venues, be more active physically even if I'm simply walking. Things of that nature and I know it will make me mad because of my laziness but it will be better in the long run
     
  7. SnowWhite

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    Do you have some dreams in mind which you want to reach ?

    Maybe you are not lazy --- maybe you are just shy of doing the things you really want to do.
     
  8. SnowWhite

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    Very good.

    I have this kind of "lethargy" also, but I know that it is coupled with an underlying fear of doing the things I really want to do.

    My underlying thinking is a kind of "I am now allowed to be happy", or: "First help others, then yourself" ... and similar. But I know that this thinking is crap. With this, you reach nothing, you do nothing, and your life is a mess.
     
  9. SLINGBLADE247

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    I want to be my own man and live successfully without credit card loans and crap like that
     
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  10. BravePenguin

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    Yeah man. being bored is a huge trigger for me as well as the mind seeks the next, easiest pleasurable activity!
     
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  11. SLINGBLADE247

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    I'm glad you know where I'm coming from
     
  12. SLINGBLADE247

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    Free time is definitely a tempter in itself
     
  13. it took me some time to analyse the roots of my addictions and boredom played a big part like fo you. Keep fighting! We are in the same boat. it is very helpful for me using everyday before going to sleep R Tribe, it is a free app where i put my thoughts daily:emoji_man_dancing:
     
  14. SnowWhite

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    Yes that a good goal.
    What exactly means "I want to be my own man" to you?
    Do you want to create a product ? Do you want to be on stage ?
     
  15. SnowWhite

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    Is it actually boredom? Do you not know what to do in life?
    Or do you have goals, but you are afraid of pursuing them?
     
  16. it really was boredom. i used to avoid thinking about my future, to commit to something (in the sense of work, university) and i would just use sex and porn to take my mind off the failure of my life. my ex best friend asked me years ago "how can you not know what you want to do if uni or work?" he added that his flatmates were shocked to hear i didn't know what to do in my life. not everyone knows to do with their life

    since i finished high school i felt lost, without purpose. I hit rock bottom at 25 years old 2 months before starting my reboot on 6th March 2017. i tried to cover the unhappiness i felt with sex, drugs and alcohol. no rock and roll though. i tried to be loved so much. just felt unlovable. then i realized, after being heartbroken and completely devastated with suicidal thoughts this year, i had to love myself and be happy on my own

    btw I am fixing that now. I am pursuing my goal. I am getting there.:emoji_muscle: I took the last 6 months to look into my past life in order to find why i became a sex and porn addict. I know that if i knew the reasons behind what i did i could have healed myself for good. I had to rise from my ashes and be born again and that's what i did. I am a new, true and proud me:emoji_dancer:

    why did you become a porn addict?
     
  17. SLINGBLADE247

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    When I stated that I want to be my own man I mean live life off the hands and feet I was given. I don't want any more loans for college, vehicles, houses. I don't want anymore credit cards anymore I want to be successful without them in my life. I have been working hard in doing better in that part of life. I've been meditating, learned some Spanish yesterday, I've been walking everyday including last Afternoon even though I had to work and I will be walking again today. The reason I am stuck in this rut is the fact that I've lived the mundane like everyone around me but I realized that in order to step higher in life that you should be different in every aspect. Don't worry about that TV show you like or the upcoming sports season but keep improving your life and doing better some how
     
  18. QUAH162

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    It's not shocking at all mate and it's the same for me. I suggest whenever you have the urge get up and do something, anything works. The urge should be gone 5 minutes later. This works because we only really get boners when we sit or lay down.
     
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  19. Lyew

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    This is so relatable. It happens with me all the time. We will have to stay busy and occupied. We can do this and we will do it.
     

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