I fucking hate my life

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Soul_destroyer, Jun 19, 2020.

  1. Soul_destroyer

    Soul_destroyer Fapstronaut

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    I just want this fucking horrible addiction to stop ; it's ruining my life and left me feeling weak
     
  2. RogerFM

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    First of all, stop with self pity and suffer about regrets. Your past serves for one thing and one thing only, its reference, its your own life encyclopedia, look back just to see what you can do better.

    What you need is a plan and a schedule.

    My suggestion to you, start a journal, PEN and PAPER, not on pc, focus, and do this. Ask:

    What bothers me(could be what do I want if you have a goal to achieve something)
    Why it bothers me.
    What can I do to stop.

    And try to answer these questions the best was you can, on the what can you do to stop, be very careful to measure what you can do, and what you can't possibly do. Being in grips with reality is important, you can't cut porn, games, social media and everything else and then your life sucks cause you have nothing. Keep in mind that small consistent victories are much better on the long run that big victories that you might not achieve and be frustrated.

    Also, each evening create a script for tomorrow, like.

    1 - meditate
    2 - read
    3 - do grocers

    what ever is that you need, and each step completed mark it, and you know try to be happy that you did something, instead of punishing yourself for what you didnt, instead, go back to the journal, and try to find out WHY you didnt.


    “He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how.”
    -Friedric Niezsche.

    Just an extra tip for exercise specially, do not go to the gym or exercise EXPECTING to be swole, do it because you like it, and if you don't like it, tell yourself you like it, write that you like it, the whole world brainwashes you with useless drives, so I say brainwash yourself to be the man you aspire to be. There is power in worlds and self affirmation, trust me, never say you hate your life, say next time you love it, you love yourself and what you can do to be a fulfilled man.

    For more direct questions on how to stop porn you'll have to rely on someone else because I also have my own doubts I'm trying to get answered here.
     
  3. Maybe you should say, "I fucking hate my OLD life."
    The post above gives great pointers. I have little to add except educate yourself about addictions of all kinds. I have found that learning more about alcoholism has helped me in dealing with PMO immeasurably. I gave up on will power and focused on passion and determination. They are not the same. But it took me a bloody long time to streamline my thinking. So don't quit. Don't give up. Think positively. Your old life is done. Start a new one now.
     
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  4. MyMind07

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    What are you gonna do to stop this addiction?
    What actions will you take?

    How can you love your life more?
     
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  5. redapplecigz

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    I fucking hear you bro. It’s horrible trash and needs to be treated as such. But that doesn’t define who you are or what your life is. Your life is way more than that. Don’t hate your life or yourself...hate the enemy.
     
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  6. Fixmybrain

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    I hear you man. The people trying to spread ‘tough love’ doesn’t help—it’s surely something you’ve heard many times. There should be a different approach for discipline & motivation imo. Thing is, you’re not alone though. NoFap can be boring as holy hell/distressing, I get it—just do things you enjoy for now that won’t have triggers and take it easy. Plan out activities that will be free of triggers
     
  7. RogerFM

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    It's not that we want to spread tough love, but, it is fundamental to have discipline of some sort and exactly why I tried to detail and give additional steps, because it will actually make the process much easier in many cases the only way to be bearable. That's why self talk for example is important, understand and self soothing. Unfortunately we have to keep spreading the "tough" love.
     
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  8. I hated my life at 18 too, man. It gets better and be glad, you've started something difficult earlier than most, myself included haha. All the best!
     
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  9. Tombrady234567

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    Thanks for sharing, man - I believe everyone here feels your pain and can relate. Just hang in there and take it one day at a time. Trust me, it will get better. And each day you wait, your brain will heal a little more. You've got this! And whenever you are in need of support and encouragement, don't hesitate to reach out!
     

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