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I had 14months Hard Mode, lost it all. Getting back on track!

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Fork2323, Mar 15, 2018.

  1. Fork2323

    Fork2323 Fapstronaut

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    Had sex with an Ex on Sunday, chaser affect kicked in and now I have fapped 5 times blowing and relapsing my 14months of Freedom. Im trying to get back on track, fapped monday, tuesday was clean and I felt over it, but then did it again last night 2x... so now back on here guys getting honest and busting myself. I cant do this alone and all your help b4 is how I got 14months in the 1st place..
     
  2. Fork2323

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    I just reset my counter to 0 but it has not showed up yet..
     
  3. Legion7

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    Wow! I'm at 1 month! You have made huge strides towards rewiring your neural pathways. Those connections are still there. Keep going, I can't even imagine 14 months. You're still MY hero...
     
  4. diogo431509

    diogo431509 Fapstronaut

    You have potential man. Share some tips on how to get 14 months
     
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  5. NewBeginning2018

    NewBeginning2018 Fapstronaut

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    Wow, 14 months is legendary. Good luck moving forward and any tips for guys like myself would be much appreciated.
     
  6. present2015

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    For those with experience, what is the best way to not fall into the chaser effect after sex?

    Last time I was on day 27. Had sex. Relapsed to masturbation to porn.

    Now on day 59 hard mode. Will wait until day 90 to try to have sex. Somehow, I have the feeling that the chaser effect is going to kick in with a vengeance. Any ways to minimize it or avoid it.
     
  7. Fork2323

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    ok, just checking in guys, I have over a week free! I fapped 2 more times after I started this thread on Friday.. But then I tossed my self in into service helping others and also wrote out everything I did wrong that led up to the relapse and what i should of done instead and what are my lessons. Its all about turning a slip into a learning experience to grow and change from.. thanks for all the help guys.
     
  8. Fork2323

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    yo, looks like you need to update your counter too..

    As for as not having the chaser affect, I think it has a lot to do with the type of sex you have and with who.. The girl I was with, I had demeaning controlling sex.. In fact it was the opposite of love making, it was using sex to try to control her and quite mean spirited.. It was not cool and I feel quite bad about it.. It was porno type sex, no love, no heart connection, no caring at all, just a ego trip on my part to get her.. I didn't even want to kiss her as I didn't want to be emotionally connected to her. all petty ego crap on my side..

    I think and hope that sex within a loving caring relationship with a women I actually like and want to make happy and be part of my life will be quite a different experience than this, thus will be less lust filled and more heart centered, thus not cause the craving for porn that has no heart in it at all. just ego..

    So to sum it up, healthy sex and making love in a caring giving nurturing way with a person you truly care about should be way different..
     
    Last edited: Mar 26, 2018

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